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imarebelle

My boyfriend selective responds to my text messages, what should i make of this?

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Yes..do the same thing to him..
Sorry about earlier..I misread

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How does that make him controlling?
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Also, how does that prove that he does not trust her?
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Oops...I misread..sorry.
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Send him selective text messages.

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imarebelle
i thought of that, don't want it to seem as if i'm start playing games tho
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BrandonBain

do right back to him:p turn the table on him

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Selective in the sense what type of messages he is replying for

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hes got someone else .

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I'm the same way.....just because a person sends a text doesn't mean it warrants a response.....sometimes there is no need for a response, sometimes the person receiving the text is busy......and furthermore, if a response was required for every text sent, then by that logic, ya'll would never stop texting each other......someone needs to be the person that doesn't reply, and he's choosing to be that person....

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that's true but whats wrong with formally ending the convo?
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OK, I hear that point.....but the problem with texting is that it's only words.....so the person getting the message is free to put whatever "spin" on the words that their brain conjures up.....so even if he was trying to pleasantly end the convo, the words could be easily misconstrued to sound as though he's being snippy, especially if you still wanted to text.....like I said, I see your point though...
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Kids STOP??
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It all depends on which text messages he replies too. What I would do is either talk about it to him or do the same thing back to him.

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i say give him a taste of his own meds , be selctive with him if he doesnt like it he will treat you different

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He is feeling guilty about something. when I catch mine doing something, he always starts uselessly searching though my phone for something on me.

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Well when I selectively respond to my GF it's either because i either don't wanna talk, can't talk, or you say something dumb in a text message. Fr example "hey,k,omg,:)"

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FunnyLittleFrog

What's wrong with that? He's not interested in girl-talk. He just puts up with it to have se.x.

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It's a guy thing, I'm afraid. A fact of life. Even the score, maybe, and just accept it, I guess.

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Hope you are well today , nice lady ! Smile ! You'll feel good !
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Thanks, Bob. Hope this is one of your better days. :)
Friends like you make me feel good. :)
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Yesterday wasn't too good , but today has been pretty good ! I'm glad that I make you feel good ! Just keep smiling and know that you are great inside !
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Awww, thanks so much.
Yes, you do make me feel good.You're so nice. :)
I'm sorry about your rough day yesterday. : [
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Guys at one time or another seem to get bored of texting. So just be patient and instead spend physical time with him instead of it being through technology. No need to be starting an argument with him about this unless you think he's cheating you with another girl or maybe even another guy....

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"or maybe even another guy...."
Classic....8)
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Lol, wasn't trying to be harsh or anything. Just you never know is what I meant. My gosh! xD
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That he doesn't always want to text you back. As a guy, I don't always text the girl back and I don't expect her to always text me back. It's not the end of the world sometimes people get busy or don't think it's worth a response.

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It depends on the text. Texts are NOT replacements for full conversations or phone calls. They are quick snippets of... well, text. They don't really warrant responses unless they contain a question.

If it's really that important to get an answer or to get it quickly, just call him!

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My husband and I have been living apart for work for a little over a year now. We rarely text. Sometimes, I text him and he doesn't respond. Sometimes, I text him just to say "Call me when you can". Most men don't want to sit on the phone and talk for an hour or text back and forth all day long...they just aren't wired for that kind of attention span lol It bothered me when I first moved away, but I "get it" now...he'd rather video chat over any other option, plus that allows me to make sure he's not sleeping! But in all seriousness, a call or text for most men should only need to last a minute or 2...men like to get straight to the point and then hang up...no need for idle chitchat, which is why most men hate texting. If it bothers you, don't text him. Rather, call or make plans to spend time together.

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