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I told a friend I was interested in him and asked if he liked me back. He never gave me a straight answer. Is he interested and not telling?

I am interested in one of my guy friends here at college and I wasn't sure if he liked me back. I asked him to do dinner one evening and I told him that I was interested and asked if he thought there would ever be anything between us. He danced around the answer. He said that he doesn't have time to think about dating. He told me that he wouldn't be ready to date for a very long time and he also mentioned the fact that he would be in college for 6-7 years because he's a nursing major but he's only taking 14 credits a semester. He's also in some financial hardships because of school and he's in the Marines. He walked me back to my dorm and I asked him for a final answer, telling him if he didn't think there was anything between us I would move on someday. Jay said that if God brought someone else my way to not think about him. He closed with "If it happens, it happens." I left very confused.
Is this his roundabout way of saying if he could date me he would? We are both Christians, so if I pray about this and if God doesn't clearly bring someone my way, is it safe to assume Jay and I will be together in the long run?

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He agreed to go out on a date with you, but you are trying to rush him into a relationship. Both of you are better of to just remain single and enjoy your freedom to date around casually. Why rush it? Maybe he's not the one for you? You don't know until you date around with a few other guys first. He doesn't know until he dates around with a few other women. Enjoy your youth while you've got it. Don't get involved in a committed relationship until you've dated around, and I mean the old fashioned way of dating, just going out on DATES.

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BrandonBain

he may be confused:)

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FunnyLittleFrog

What's confusing about that? Doesn't God have more important stuff to do than help you boss around some poor nursing student?

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He may just really not have time for dating right now. Try giving him some time :)

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He doesn't like you in a romantic way

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Unless you're leaving stuff out, everything he said was why he didn't have time to date or shouldn't date and you should find someone else. My gut feeling is that he's not interested in dating you.

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He definitely is not interested, I'm sorry :(

If you are confused, then he probably doesn't like you. If he says things about you being happy with another guy ("God brought someone else my way not to think about him"), then he definitely does not like you as more than a friend. I would move on!

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imarebelle

He is trying to let you down easy, that means he cares for you as a friend. I suggest you leave it at that.

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Telling a guy you're interested in him isn't always a good idea because... well that's a guy's dream, there's gotta be a challenge. Girls are used to that so it's ok but when you tell a guy you're interested in him, you scares him a little. Show him you like him but don't say it until he says it.

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It sounds like he was trying to let you down easy, so you could remain friends. Just friends. I honestly don't think he's interested in dating you. If he was, he would, no matter what else he has going on.

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he probably dont want want to hurt your feelings.

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