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I still talk to my ex, still have feeling for him, and love him.. and it doesn't help that he keeps trying to contact me, but he is a druggie, and asked me to smoke with him.. never have before, nd i know a lot of people that do, but i feel like i could also be doing this to get back with him.. but he has also came to my house like 3 times.. help?

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A druggie, that's wonderful, so how soon is the wedding? Don't let this great catch get away!

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Haha... Laugh.. This made me
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not funny..grow up
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secret1, you don't get it
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You just made my day
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LEAVE HER ALONE !!!!!!!!!!!! you may think its funny but what if she did marry him then what huh ??!!?!?!?!?!
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It's called sarcasm, and it IS funny, AND it makes a point, perhaps YOU need to grow up in order to understand the point being made?
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artgirl15, you're like secret1 you don't get it
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Druggies aren't bad people and to her a druggie probably is someone who smokes weed, in which case over half of America are druggies.
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Mario, it's good to see SOMEBODY gets it!
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i get it .. i just dont think its appropriate to make jokes when its obvious that this is serious to her.. dont get me wrong i love making joked but this one wasnt funny
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ill get right on that.. were you hoping to be invited? address? name.. please? im sure you could have a get time with the both of us.
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T.I.M., we'll just have to agree to disagree about that, I know I wouldn't want MY daughter to marry a pothead.
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i am 14. he is 16.. that was his dission.. he didnt say i had to.. he ASKED me to..
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Thanks :-) but I deal with a lot of Sarcasm at my house so I know when their is one
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One more time ... it's called SARCASM, it means to do the opposite, as in get as far away from this guy as possible before he ruins your life the way he's ruining his own. Sheesh! Don't kids have sarcasm anymore?
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Lexiwalter, Well it's really your choice?
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I've known druggies that were not good people. They lied and stole from those closest to them just to get money to feed their addiction. Typically, those that only smoke weed are not called druggies...they are called potheads...or hippies, but that's another story. Druggies usually refers to the use of hardcore drugs on a daily basis, which are not good people to be around. They will either convince you to join them in their downward spiral or steal from you.
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I think it's genius, Tony Lol.
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Druggies are good people? Yah, they're just like every other criminal, they're just misunderstood, right? Personally, I wouldn't pay the price for someone else's poor choices.
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Thanks Merrill, it's good to know there are still some intelligent people out there! Haha
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BrandonBain

make him stop?
how much does he want to be with you?
tell him it`s you or the drugs

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i do not think i could do that.. .thats like telling my dad to do that? cuz he does, has my whole life.. and thats where my noncaring kinda comes from!
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BrandonBain
I believe its worth a shot, dont you?
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tell him to "Kick rocks" ?

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That depends on what you want. From the sounds of it, it appears you don't know what you want. Maybe you should take some time to yourself, without him around, to figure that out.

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He asked you to smoke with him? Regardless of what he wants to smoke with you, you say NOT NO, but HELL NO.
He obviously doesnt love you if he is encouraging you to ruin your health with him.
Why on earth would you want to get back with someone that you know is absolutely no good for you? Why would you hang around or be with someone that will only bring you down? I dont understand. I will not tell you what to do but.... Seems like you would think this is a really easy decision to make. You dont need him.

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Misery loves company
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thank you see tis guy has his head on straight : D !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Yeah he's pretty smart for a caveman! :-) haha
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^^ that was not very funny... @lexiwalter if he loves you and wants to build a relationship with you he would man up and get the help to stop using drugs to be with you since thst seems to be the damper in the relationship

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ya.. i feel you, like i didnt know for alsmot 2 months when we first started dating.. then he broke up with me.. then he told me? and i have been around things like this my whole life.. my mom used to, my dad does.. i do not care that he does, its his choice! but yes he used to come over a lot.. and he will randomly txt me saying he loves me, and so idk..
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I would try to stay away from him for a little while to see if you REALLY have feelings for him. You need time to see if him being a druggie is worth your relationship. Reflecting would be good for you at this time.

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i dont care who this guy is , honey if he is a druggie then you need to get away from him . i dont even know you but i can tell you this , you are worth more than that you deserve more , one day you will find a guy that loves you for you not sum dude thats probably just trying to take your money and body . dont listen to him . YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE SWEET HEART !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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STANDING OVATlON!!!
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thank you! haha but i have no money.. haha so he aint gonna do anything with that.. haha
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thats ok , but still you desereve more . keep looking and one day you will find a guy who is hot, sexy ,and treats you like a queen . trust me you will . i've had my heart broke more times than i can count , lol im only 15 and i probably will more but you have to just say ok we broke up .... NEXT !!!!!!! lol just one more breakup closer to the right guy !!!!! ;)
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Well there a couple of ways to look at this situation. For now I'm gonna tell you to do what you feel is right. If you don't want to smoke (assuming weed) then don't. If it's any other drug I suggest you don't get start at all. Back to the weed, in most cases it's harmless but that doesn't mean that you should do it. Especially if your boyfriend or someone close wants you to do it. It's something you have to decide, for what every reason.

Look at it like this inform him that you still care about him but his drug use is a no-no for you. If he really cares and mature enough, he'll either stop or respect your decision and move on. That's doesn't mean he'll stop contacting you. It just means that you'll have to make it crystal clear that there's no us. It's not easy per say but you can do.

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i mean... he asked the first time around Christmas! but, the thing is.. i keep bringing it up to him... like saying you remember what you asked? and yes weed, my dad does it, mom did it.. but i almost did about a year ago with friends, but didnt.. my dad even told me it was my choice, but i dont know!
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Hi, been away but I'm back. Honestly it's not a big deal in my book. Millions of people have smoked weed and as you can see millions of people move on with their lives. The problem is if the individual (you) allow it control you. What I mean is if your able to function, continue to go to school and maintain your work with out becoming snappy, lazy or the infamous "I don't give a fu&k" attitude then you'll be fin. Besides the first time you get high, you probably want even notice it. You have to do it enough time so you can know the changes in your body and state of mind. The 3rd time I smoked I then knew I was high and I loved it; lol. Baby girl it's whatever makes you feel comfortable. But you want be missing anything if you don't. Having done this when I was in high school I can look back and say "I can live with out it or having to experience it."
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Just tell him you have feelings for him but he's bad for you since he's a druggie. Maybe he'll try and stop if he cares.

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iKnow This May Be Hard For You To Do, But G E T A W A Y F R O M H I M..!!! He's Trouble, iKnow You Love Him && Stuff But He Is Going Ruin Your Wholee Life If You Don't Get Away From Him .. Try To Avoid Him Or Tell Him Straight Up That You Don't Want Anything To Do With Him .. He Couldd Cause You A Bunch Of Unnecessary Problems .. If He Cared For You, He Wouldn't Ask You To Smokee Withh Him ..! Try To Stay Away From Him For Somee Time, Maybe That Will Help You Get Over Him .. Hopee This Helpss ..!

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he never said i had to... he just asked.. not with weed in my face or anything,
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iKnow .. Thatss Why iSaidd That If He Cared For You, He Wouldnt Ask For You To Smokee Withh Him .. But At The End Of The Day, Itss Your Choice(:
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it's painful, no doubt, still loving him, but not being with him because of his habit. You must stay away. Time will heal you. So sorry for your pain.

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i have... i dont have my phone.. so like no contact with him.. its only made me miss him more, and almost want to just walk over to my neghibors and ask her to. love does hurt.. and its killing me that we arnt dating.. and not talking.. i cont stand to see him talk to other girls, but i know he does.. hes a bmx rider he is also 15 and at free range with his car, and always at a skate park.. nd i know thats where girls who want attention go,
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Yes, love does hurt. I know how you're feeling, believe me. Give it time. it will fade.
Shut him off, completely, so you don't have to see him talk to other girls.
I'm sorry you have to hurt. : (
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You need to get some counseling, Buttercup, to find out why your self-esteem is so low that you're still in one way or another involved with this man. Find out why you deserve better, much better, than him.

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hes the best that iv had, but your kinda saying hes all bad for his habbit.. that i already said.. i didnt care for,? i have very hi self esteem, for myself, just not my self and him.. together, he asked me a long time ago.. i keep bringing it up to him... kinda?
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The best you've had? You're only 14! Do you think this guy is the best you CAN do? I don't, I think you can do better, and you can start by focusing on your school work for now and not worrying about boy-drama.
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Great answer by the way
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trust me... i have no boy-drama. i dont go to school. i am home schooled its hard for me to really talk to anyone.. but you dont know what happened through out our relationship... but your really only going to sit there and judge him.. about him smoking? thats all he does, nothing more! just weed... i am looking at this from a totally different point.. ! and hes not one to sit there all day long and smoke. my parents know.. that he does it.. they didnt care much, but he wasnt the most of my question... so please stop making comments tony.
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tall him you still have feeling for him that you still love him and contact

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thank you :)
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Stay away from him all your going to get is trouble, as hard as it could be to stay away from him do it, or you will learn the hard away. Be smart.

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Drop him and move on a drugi lol you nead no part of it !

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dont do it leave him if he loved you he would never as you to do that

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