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My mom won't let me do anything?!

I am 13 years old, in middle school and a good kid. I respect my parents and their opinions. For example, I helped all the time when my mom was sick, like making the best & healthiest dinners for my family, along with taking care of my brother. Not to mention, I am a straight A student and don't go out with my friends too much, knowing that my mom hates it. Of course, that loyalty goes to an extent. I recently got selected as one of the kids to go to the University of Waterloo for a science presentation and my mom won't let me go! She is giving no reasons whatsoever and when I question / back talk, she tells me that I have no respect, and she responds with "I let you go to so many field trips, and I never say no! Now, when I don't allow you to go somewhere, you throw a fit!" I need answers, and... although this sounds selfish, I guess the question really is; How do I make my mom let me go?!?

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First you might ask your mom if its a monetary concern. It might simply be that funds are short right now? If not explain to her that its not a regular field trip. That you were chosen and that all of this looks good when you start applying for colleges. It's never too early to start thinking about scholarships. Good luck.

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Tell her about the benefits of it towards your education, at least you dont sound like all the other damn kids obsessed with sex and alcohol and stuff.

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tell your teacher .

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Has she ever let you go on a field trip by yourself or did she go with you?Did you ever thank her after she let you go on those ones?

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You're running into the huge gap between how 13 year olds think about "fair" and how adults think about "fair". And it's complicated by the fact that yor mother does NOT have to tell you everything she's thinking, whether you like it or not. Your mom may have solid reasons not to let you go, but she may think it's less drama to simply tell you "no" than it would be to explain everything to you. Seriously, if she told you that you can't go because the family is broke and she can't afford for you to go, you'd probably freak out. That's her right as a parent to keep some things to herself. So accept "no" and tell her *politely* that you'd really like to go if she can find any way to allow it.

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Thanks! I haven't thought of it that way. Maybe I'll suggest paying it with my own money.
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Now, that's mature thinking! Good for you Albuquerque for putting the kid on this track!
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Werll, it's certainly worth bring it up as an option.
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Moms are blessed with a sixth sense. Maybe she knows or senses something you don't understand yet.

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just say hey mom I really want to go out with my friends please let me go

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This is a really tough situation for both of you. You sound like a high achieving and responsible kid. I have a kid like who I'm guessing is a lot like you. Your intellect is way ahead of your wisdom. Your mom's maternal instincts and wisdom are stronger than the knowledge that she will someday need to let you have some of these experiences. She ultimately has to make the call using all of the info she has about this trip. If you act in the least way immature about it, you will do nothing but confirm her decision. You need to talk to her rationally about why you can't go. Is it money? Lack of supervision? Is it not beneficial to your education? Is she afraid you won't behave? If you approach her as though you are responsible and you address her concerns she may be more likely to agree this time or next time. My child benefited greatly by being allowed to participate in field trips like yours. I hope you will get your chance.

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It can be as simple as you are only 13 and this trip is too far for your mom to alow you to go. Teens disapear all the time by people that just grab them or hit them in the head and take them. Maybe think about it like that. Good Luck

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