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How do i get my "boyfriend" to leave AND NEVER COME BACK?

I have told him EVERYDAY now for nearly 3 years that i don't want to be with him and i want him gone....but he refuses to leave. He just goes outside and sits in his car (in my driveway) and comes right back in to eat or use the bathroom etc. I have even had someone spend the night here with me (another guy) and even that didn't get him to even start his car up. Not to mention the fact that he doesn't work and hasn't in over three years, so he has not contributed even $1 dollar towards anything in all that time. i am not the type of person who will get the police involved.....but I WANT HIM GONE!!!!! PLEEEEZE HELP!

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As long as it s only your name on the lease, you are letting him in to use your bathroom and eat your food, get new locks and don't let him in. If he still doesn't stop contact police, I know you don't want to but if you don't something serious could happen. This is a stalker problem, you can get a restraining order for it.

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the locks don't matter. he doesn't have a key but he used to install doors and windows so he knows how to get in without a one.
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Ok then if he is breaking in, that is. Definitely something to contact the police about.
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he is beating on my door this very minute
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Uh call the police and tell them to take him away, say he won't leave you alone, it is your property, isn't it a disturbance of the peace or something too
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Is his name on the lease where you live, or is it in your name only?

If both of you are on the lease, there's not much you can do, but otherwise present him with formal eviction papers and after the required period (usually 30 days) change the locks so he can't get back in. The other option of course would be for you to move out, and not tell him where you are going.

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there is no lease. my dad got the house for me...but we don't really speak so i can't really get any help from him....
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But it's still not your ex's house in any way, so at this point, your best bet is to give him written notice, and then change the locks. Even though you aren't on speaking terms with your dad, you should still try to talk to him about this, because I'm sure - no matter what, he wants you to be safe.
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thx. i gotta do something because he is driving me crazy. and it wont matter if i change the locks because he used to install doors and windows so he knows how to get in and he does. he doesn't have a key anyways.
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Then it's breaking and entering though, and you can call the police on him. Seriously, the longer you let him get away with this behavior the worse it will be.
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I think has gone beyond words, so you might want to get the police involved. They can help you get a restraining order or a no-contact order, which will force him to stay away; he cannot come close to you or your home to within a specified distance.

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i was gonna do that but someone told me that they would not give me one unless he had been physical or abussive towards me
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hmmmmmm......don't sound like a boyfriend to me, more like a stalker. hate to bust your bubble but the law is the only way to go.

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you have no idea he cries about how much i'm hurting him and how .I've ruined his life and that he should just kill himself.... I just tell him if I'm so bad then all he has to do is leave or if thats what it will take for him to go that i would get him a damn gun so he could just do it.. ( and no i'm not that cold i would not want that to happen but i know he wouldn't... he just threatens me with that all the time because my ex did that a couple years ago but we had not been together for like ten years at the time....)
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as said, the law is the only way to go
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call the cops and tell them a strange vehicle is parked in your drive way.Smile and wave

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they have hauled him off before because the neighbors called .... but he walked straight back here as soon as he got out
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Move.

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If you are on the lease by yourself, change the locks and put his things on the curb. If he is on the lease, you should move. If you are both on the lease, you should move and offer a modest settlement for breaking the lease.

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there is no lease. my dad bought this house for me to live in about 5-6 years ago....i'm not moving outta my house. nor will my dad be involved because he no longer speaks to anyone in the family because the bitch he is with won't allow him to.
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So, change the locks, put his things out, and end it.
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call the police and ignore him. change the locks and male sure that he cant get into your house. hope this helped. star and follow me please

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Sing that Taylor Swift song to him. Weeeeee, are never ever ever ever, getting back togetherrrrrrrr.

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Harassment or no contact order is the only thing you can do.
If it continues your neighbors will be able to take action against you.

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Pray to Jesus. Talk to him about God, invite Him to church. Either something really good is gonna happen, or he will leave. Gby

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i'm not a church person, nor will i ever be. sorry
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Why not?... Do you have a microchip in your hand or forehead that makes it painful? Anyway, I gave you the advice. And if you do it and are persistent, I guarantee that one of the two things I said would happen will happen. If not, you lost nothing, but I m sure one of the two will happen. Either way, its your choice to take. Gby.
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bryan... why are you being disrespectful. That GOD thing isnt working that well for you apparently. I havent come across a religion yet that see's that type of sarcastic, moronic banter as acceptable behavior. That was flat out rude.
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Actually, I was serious about the microchip. I meant it. Someone told me they had a microchip and told me that it hurt her to talk about God. Anyway... so... why not?...
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Because it is incredibly stupid.... and for you to believe that it means that you are about 5 years old and shouldnt be on ask.com. The age limit is 13 and over.
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An unwise person only says. A wise person shows. And if it works, then according to you, I ll be 5 years old until my last day on Earth. Incredible to know that even tho 13 years have passed since my fifth birthday, I m still 5 years old according to you. You should go to school and learn some math.
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and in those 3 years you never had relations with him...?

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rustyboilerz

Get a restraining order or ex parte, that should get his attention and make your feelings known for sure!

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RedRose

If you really want him gone, suck it up and go to the police. The fact that you've allowed this to go on for 3 years is pretty worrisome to me.

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agree!!
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yeah thats awkward 3 years thats a long time to live with somebody you don't love...who gets to hold the remote control = /
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you keep bringing up all kind of excuses on how you cannot get rid of him, yet you've let this go on for 3years? there has to be some sort of gratification or need he's fulfilling in your life. You may want to examine exactly why you would let someone use you like this,
and if you REALLY do want this to stop, go through legal channels! Call the police, get the ball rolling. if your neighbors are aware of the ongoing problems, you should be able to get a restraining order, and the only way that's going to happen is if YOU make up your mind to consistently stand behind your decision to follow through! do not call the Police and start something you are not willing to follow through with; it will make things much more difficult in the long run, you've heard the saying "Cry Wolf"?.
There are also ways to get around his knowledge of doors and locks, call a good Locksmith and they can advise you. Good luck, this sounds unhealthy all around..

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3 years = /
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that's what I thought! He'd have been outta there a loooong time ago if he acted like that around me!
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