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Is giving someone the silent treatment in retaliation for their silent treatment a good tactic? Or won't they even notice?

if he is just ignoring me or too busy to even txt n call will my silence just result in a further rift? if he is trying to teach me a lesson am I responding correctly? it's been 5 days and I'm going insane my heart hurts caus we have never gone without talkn (not even a single txt either) for this long not even when we were on breaks we would still shoot a txt :( it this the beginning of the end..?

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I don't know your ages, but you both need to communicate. If you did something wrong, you need to correct it if you can. If he is trying to help you correct what you did wrong, he is not communicating either.
With that said. How long have you dated and do you feel sorry for your deed? If you want to keep the relationship going, and, you are in the wrong, you should either send him a note by hand, or call him by phone to tell him you both need to talk. If he says ok..he is showing you he cares and it is not the end. Good luck..

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I completely agree!
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He is going through a stressful time with his job - he is deploying next week, it's hard in both of us! but he is jus choosing not to contact me, I tried to call him n txt n even made him a video telln him I love him n support him n wana be in the same page etc. he didnt respond so I'm jus leaving him alone but it's very odd for him to not even txt gud night or I love u even when he is mad he doesn't do this.. Maybe he is trying to detach himself before he leaves.. It's really eating me up I don't kno what to do I don't wana harass him caus he is stressed.
He is a decade older than me
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Not knowing the issue, I can only say, he is either very hurt or as you say, under a lot of stress and he wants to cool the relationship because he doesn't want you to feel you have to worry about his deployment.
I wish you both all the best. I always pray for our Armed Forces. They are special as are the love ones the leave behind. Pray/talk to God often..Prayer is powerful. :)
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Thank you. We spoke last night and he told me he is very stressed and doesn't want to get upset/off his game before he goes. He told me he loves me n it was hard not talkn to me all week but told me he was waitn fo me to say something jus be there fo him etc so I apologised caus I didn't realise he was hurt n he jus needed me, we were both being hard headed. I think he knows I'm scared n doesn't wana freak me out or have my worries put on him. all any of us can do us pray..
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Well tell him someone who "know" [ me :) ] prays all the time for our Armed Forces. and prayer is powerful It is good that you communicated. Unless you talk out things, you would always wonder if things could have been be better or resolved.All the best:)
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Id try to text him and apoligize.. I wouldn't give him the silent treatment if he meant a lot to me. Id be there waiting for him.

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Even tho he is ignoring me? I didn't do anything wrong we jus had a normal spat over crap n caus he is stressed with his work right now he is on edge which is why I'm giving him space but I don't deserve to be ignored its not like him that's why I duno wot to do, I feel he should be the one to say something - maybe I'm being hard headed I duno..
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Sounds rather childish actually. If you did something wrong... then apologize. Sounds like he is kind of a crybaby to me.

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When you see him do funny stupid things (facial expressions, dances,) and try to make him laugh, and if he doesn't laugh pretend to cry with a stupid ugly fake crying face. Idk why but that would be amusing... this probably isn't a very good answer but that would be funny, and that's what I do lol

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