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I don't have that many friends so what can I do in school so that I don't look like a loner?

Ok, so whenever I go to lunch I don't know anyone because I don't have that many friends. I don't want to come off as that really lonely guy and have people come up to me in pity because that just makes me feel ad so I tend to sit near a cluster of people so tha I look like I actually have people to talk to but the group usually leaves before the end of lunch and I'm forced to walk to the bathroom as slowly as possible, pretend to actually go and take up as much time as I can just so that I don't have to sit alone. So does anyone have any ideas on something I can do during this lunch period so that no one pities me and I can actually get through lunch. This is the hardest part of my day, just trying to stall and be able to get through lunch so I would appreciate it so so so so so much if someone could help me out. I have horrible talking skills so making new friends is out of the picture and I don't eat lunch. Please help.

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be more outgoing. dont go and try to get them. cuz they won't last. talk to ppl and the ones who stick with u and help u and stand up for u are the keepers. :) good luck! :) besides, u always have ur ask.com members right? like me ^_^ <3

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Get friends

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He's having issues with that...
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Nah...he seems like he's doing just fine
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Well I used to have the same problem. But when people came up to me and asked if I wanted to sit with them, I said no im fine. Just be your self and don't care what people think. Some day YOU will find real friends that don't just feel bad for you. (:

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How about you find other people like you? People that don't have any friends either. Just go sit by them and eventually you'll have a group

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Just sit down at a table at lunch with people you have classes with. Try to start conversations and be yourself. Be confident but not too rude, that way you can try to find people you can easily talk to. Try to sit with the same people so that you can fit better in their group and get involved in after school activities. Feel free to comment, as I was in your situation until this year. At a time I would only have 2 or 3 friends. I promise it gets easier :) good luck <3 and don't forget. Being an outsider means they haven't been able to accept your awesomeness yet ;)

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No problem :) I mean it
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When ppl come over to you, accept their offer, and if it doesnt work thats fine. friends are there to hold you up and laugh yo azz off with, and if they want you around, they WILL tell you.

best of luck!!
-Zero
P.s. you are super cute!!!!
pps sorry.. haha

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Aha, thank you! (: Don't be sorry! I appreciate it! (:
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Start a techno dance party in the lunch room and start doing the electric slide on one of the tables

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Very understandable.

My first suggestion is to befriend someone else who seems to be lonely, if there is anyone like that.
That's how I tend to become friends with others - start chatting with those who do not seem to be involved in some group or does not stick around their best friend all the time.
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Hmm, next will be some social network, Facebook or such.
Really, I know someone who is afraid to make a Facebook, thinking it will be weird to suddenly send someone a friend request.
Honestly, my classmates are still creating accounts!
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When I first made mine's it was awkward, and I made unnecessary comments. So, if you do make one, of if you have one already, just start conversations that are homework related. Not too many questions, it may annoy them.
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And, I suggest that maybe you should not follow other groups too much. I can tell from experience, groups often have strong bonds. You may perhaps befriend one person and possibly be allowed into the bond or such though.

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Doubt I helped... But, I wish you the best of luck!!! :)

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Join clubs or sports and hangout with the team.. Your bound to find friends!! And if not we can always be friends <3 !

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Be a little more talkative and out going. Talking to people will get you more friends

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I have the same problem. Just be yourself and try and find at least one person you know you can talk to then they will introduce you to their friends and the chain just continues. I hope this will help you. And remember: BE YOURSELF!!! Don't change who you are for someone else to like you. I learned that the hard way :)

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First, you'll want to decide whether you actually want friends or if you just don't want to feel lonely. Sit with different people and try to join in on the conversation. If there is a person who stands out as someone you would like to be friends with, then make an effort. Wave and smile in the halls, memorize likes and dislikes, and all of that. Just be your self and be cool. You're just as good as them. Just don't get stuck in with the wrong crowd.

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I know it's hard but smile thing go by faster and it if you have a cell pretend you text and smile no one can say anything and I you see one how is also alone then go up to them and just say hi and ask them why they are alone I hope it gets better

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