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What can I do about my father?

My father is now 80 years old and is starting to have trouble with his hearing. He is a proud and stubborn man and none of us know how to tell him he needs to have his hearing checked. Does anyone know of a subtle or discreet way to get him to go to the doctor and get his hearing checked. If we suggest it to him directly, he will simply refuse. Thanks for the help.

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Tell him that you don't know how much longer any of us are going to be around and that you have a lot of important things that you need to say to him, that you want to be sure that he's hears and understand you, ask him please for your sake, to do it for you, please can you go to the doctor and have your hearing checked...

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I can try.
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There are never any guarantees, but if you don't try you'll never know..
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You could tell him your going to get Ice Cream?

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This is funny! : D
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Say ur taking him to get ice cream and trick him into getting his hearing checked then take him out for ice cream

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This is an idea.
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Lol
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Honesty is the only way I have ever found that works. Unfortunately they may have to hear it from more than one person and hear specific examples of when the hearing loss has caused a problem. You can lead a horse to water...

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but you can't make him drink, so true.
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Im pretty sure he knows he's hard of hearing he probably gets tired of saying what? huh? I don't think he will go get it done even if you suggest it. too proud to get one. but maybe if you can find some information about really tiny hearing aids that no one can see and sit inside the ear and some story about how ppl have died because they didn't hear the smoke detector going off and leave it on a table for him to happen accross it.

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Great idea, thanks!
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why so trouble ?
bring the doctor home

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I do not know of any doctors that make house calls, but that would be a good idea.
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Could we possibly have the same dad? My dad has rejected advice from us on getting a hearing aid. He just refuses. He was that way about glasses as well. He's 83 and still refuses to wear them. He says he doesn't need them. So, I'm in the same boat with you and don't have an answer.

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Maybe some dads are just so used to being the one in charge and with all the answers, they can't stand the thought of asking for help from anyone, even the doctor. Or maybe they think people will see them as weak or old, if they wear glasses or a hearing aid.
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Just make an appointment and take him. Tell him it's just for a check-up.

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Can't hurt to try it.
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Write a polite note telling him he needs to get his ears checked or people will start talking advantage of his deafness also tell him about telemarketers that we will be taken advantage of hopefully this might make him realize that you actually are right and do care for him

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He does get the message better when we write notes to him. I might give this a try.
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I'm having the same problem with my Mom. She is missing out on a lot of conversations, and it's annoying to have to repeat yourself two or three times also. I told her she should look into a hearing aide, but like your Dad, she is stubborn, and doesn't want one. So, I told her, are you just going to keep making everyone repeat themselves, because you can't hear ? Hoped this comment would work. She said, yes I am. Last time she was here to visit us (we live in different states now), she said she would get her hearing tested. Well, it hasn't happened yet. She also told me that herring aides are very expensive, and insurance doesn't cover any of it. I knew they were, but not sure about if insurance would cover any of it or not. They can afford it, so that's not a legitimate excuse. Does your Dad ever go to the Dr. for physicals ? You could contact his Dr. ahead of time, explain that he needs his hearing checked, and maybe they could include that test as part of a physical, if you can get him to go in for one. Lol. I guess I haven't
been too helpful, but it's nice to know someone else is struggling with the same problem
as I am.

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Great idea. Calling his doctor and suggesting a hearing test, makes it so the idea is not coming from family. Thanks
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You're welcome. I'll keep working on my Mom. Lol.
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Mamatembo, long time no see!
I'll try to help you but I'll have to ask some questions if you don't mind. In what manner of behavior does he refuse? Does he get mad? Comment to me if you like.

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If we try to talk to him about his health, he will walk away and refuse to talk or he will get angry and tell us to mind our own business. He is not open to advice or suggestions at all, he never has been. He says he does not need our advice and he is fine thank you very much! When it comes to his health or anything concerning him, such as his negative attitudes or changing bad habits. You cannot tell him anything or even suggest it, he will just simply refuse to listen.
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Your father feels either obstructed by or repulsive at the idea of seeing a doctor. That being so, you should leave it up to him to decide that his hearing is bad. That way the fundamental idea for him won't be to see a doctor, but that his hearing is bad. Do you know what I mean?
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That happened to my grandpa and nothing worked we just learned to deal with it

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