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I need someone's advice on how to quit letting over run over me....I'm an adult, married, and have children! It shouldn't be this way! Help

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I think it doesn't matter who it is "running over you". You are being treated that way because you have been passive and allowing it. When you feel you are being treated this way, speak up for yourself. Be stern, get your point across, and they will soon get the message that you're serious. You don't even have to be loud nor harsh about it. You speak up about how you feel, don't back down and stop allowing this to happen. It is this way, again, because YOU are allowing it.

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Just everyone I come across bc I don't like controversy!
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speak up for your self let that person know that you are a grown up not a child.

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Sounds like your giving your power away to others. A famous lady once said " No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.."
Stop giving them permission. They can't have it .!

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How kind of you to say. Thank you
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Talk to someone you trust.

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Hi, mmm11. When you've been the kind of person that's lived a life of not speaking up for yourself, it's very hard to learn to start, honey. But I totally understand it because I used to be that way. I was always in abusive relationships & just basically would take whatever anyone wanted to say to me. First, you have to learn that you're not any better than anyone else; however, no one is any better than you either. You have to keep telling yourself that nobody has any right to look down their nose at you & talk down to you. You just start slowly. You can start first by saying, "You know, I've decided I'm changing in that I'm not going to let people talk to me like that anymore. So I'll either let you apologize or we'll just talk later." Or if you tell someone something & they don't listen, just say, "I said what my feelings are, and that's all I have to say. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be mean, but things just have to change." Hopefully, that will be a good start. Also, you can google "witty comebacks" and some of those can be great. Just keep trying, honey. It's hard, but you can do it! God bless.

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Hi SissyMom! How are you!! How is your little Gigi doing!?!? I've been thinking about you guys lately! :0)
By the way great answer!
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Thank you, sweetheart! Well, Gita and I are great! In fact, she's got a dear friend whose mom is rich and doesn't have time for her, so she wanted a "mom", too. She's 28 and lectures at a college. So we now email each other, too, and she calls me "mom" also. So now I have 2 daughters. It's unbelievable! What a joy.
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Ahh how special is that! I am sorry I spelled her name wrong. Congrats on your TWO new daughters. :0)
What a blessing you are to them and they are to you!
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I would start out letting a little bit of your "mama" claws out then it will start to come naturally to you. Good luck! :0)

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