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The girl I used to love friendzoned me twice and I lost my interest in her, I don't know if I still love her,can we still stay friends?

She sees me as her best friend, and she is the only good friend I have and we both love each other a lot. I know, she friendzoned me but I just can't give up on her eventhough I know we can't be. I know this girl for 3 years and we are in the same class...We are trying to stay friends but it's just too hard, always problems and other stuff, can this work? Is there a solution?

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Time is the only solution. Right now your feelings for her are too strong and about more than friendship even if that is what you want to offer right now. Tell her you want to be there as a friend but you need some time to move beyond your other feelings for her. If she is a good person, she will understand. Instead of hanging out in person where it will be harder to look in her eyes and not feel a certain way...move chats to the phone or text. That will take some of the edge off.

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It sounds like the only barrier to you guys being friends is that you still have feelings for her. You can either get over your feelings for her or suppress your feelings so they don't effect how you act around her or you can slowly stop talking/hanging out with her.

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It is possible for the two of you to remain just friends. You have to set limits on how far your friendship can go and give each other space to be with other people.

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As many people will tell you you can't be just friends with a person you're madly in love with so just tell her how you feel and who knows maybe you'll end up together

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i know you might want to keep her as friend but people we have had in our lives will allways lead up to wanting to think about those times and sometimes we feel as if things the other does will end up in wanting to still have some type of relationship its pretty complicated

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Try to make sure if you still have feelings for her. If you know that she will always see you "just" as a best friend try to be just her best friend. Ofcourse it is gonna be hard but if you dont want to loose her and if she really loves you, you should try to get along well, because friendship is really important and believe me, its hard yes but it can work out.
But, maybe she has feelings for you now, you'll understand it if there is something different between you maybe she started feeling something for you but doesnt want to admit it yet to herself? See what she does when you get a bit intense
does she like it? or does she get uncomfortable? (dont try toooo hard)
good luck

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