To keep your life in BALANCE you need to take time out to recharge your batteries, otherwise you will burn out eventually. Me time whether it's a relaxing bubble bath, waxing your legs, getting a haircut or just spending time with your canine best friend, it allows you to wind down. I find the latter the most soothing to my soul & all the stress of life just melts away. If you don't focus on your innerself your coping mechanisms will overload. While its good & kind to focus on others needs, no ones needs are more important than your families if you have children. If you don't then your needs are the most important. Spoil your boyfriend but only after you have done what is necessary for your well being & peace of mind first.
Having self respect, enough umph in your pride & moral beliefs to KNOW WHEN to put your foot down & speak up for yourself. To never allow your man to blow you off, to show up late, walk in front of you.. you get it I'm sure. A great guy comes from being shown how to treat a REAL LADY with respect. You teach him how to treat you by what you will allow. You don't have to be mean, just honest & firm.