It is not hard to get close to someone because all it takes is showing some interest. Maybe you are they shy one that's why you don't let yourself fall for someone you like. You can try to get close by at least sharing some secrets, talk to that person when he/she is sad and do not lie to her/him.
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Last edited at 4:38AM on 4/19/2013
Instincts, mindset, habits, etc. of subject(s) & object(s) sometimes (dis)serve them in unanticipated ways. To go with the metaphor, it's easy to fall, sometimes harder to get up; sometimes a ladder may be necessary to get in someone's face, or one must lose constraint in getting up, which seems to have positive results, personally speaking. In that scenario I catapult myself much higher than a previous level of caution would have permitted & find myself thinking, "it's good to realize I still don't break when I fall, ... next!" Such "immature" action may be worth some refinement.
It's hard when you fear rejection, the thing is, in the best relationships things can change. It's up to you to learn what your partner needs from you, then apply it every day. Too often people act a certain way to make an impression then once they attract someone and things are romantic and tight they are unable to continue being who they are NOT in reality, after they loosen up. If you keep it real and be consistent and don't forget why you fall for someone (for their personality and education and maturity and kindness) instead of just the physical attraction, you won't have to be afraid to stay close. Physical/ sexual attraction becomes more routine and taken for granted, because its only an expression of all the other attractants you feel. Once the physical attraction levels off, there had better be great reasons for loving the rest that person has to offer. If you get close, be sure it's the whole person you care about. Get to know who they are, and what type of guy/ girl they like and what they dont like in a relationship. ask what they would hate the most as well about a partner before you commit to being that partner. It's like a job Interview getting to know someone so find out about them and see if you like them as a person and if you would be a good fit with them. Then you can be sure if you could provide for what they are looking for in a relationship. You won't be so afraid to get close if you learn more about them first. The best time in a relationship is the the learning process and development of a friendship. Once you commit to relationships don't change how you treat them remember why you wanted that relationship what you learned about their needs and vow to keep providing for them so you won't have to be afraid of rejection.