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Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Well, I've been going out with my boyfriend for over a month now, but I've been friends with him for a long time. Though I was happy with my relationship before, now I'm really starting to like this other guy, and he likes me, too. I've already broken up with my boyfriend before and he took me back, but this time he warned me that the next time we break up, it's gonna be for good because he doesn't want to keep getting hurt. My boyfriend is really sweet and he really cares about me, but I'm interested in this other guy, but people tell me he's a major player and that he'll hurt me. I'm also hesitant because I don't want to hurt my boyfriend. What should I do??

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So your going to stop a relationship with a really sweet guy who you knew forever and who took you back after one break up for someone who just likes you. Please rethink this consideration and wake up cause you just might break up with a guy that every other girl would want. Everything sounds pretty nice and good for you, why try to fix something that's not broken? But if you really like him. As in like really really really like him. Like him more than your current perfect boyfriend. Then be my guest and go for it. :) good luck !!

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I honestly don't know...yes, my boyfriend is like my best friend, but I can't shake the fact that I want to try something different...
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I see... Well different as in break up with your current boyfriend and go for the other guy who might just be playing with you. You said your friends are trying to warn u. Maybe they r right. And maybe they could be wrong. If u do like this other guy, that means your current boyfriend likes you more than you like him. Just think about your current boyfriend and how much you like him as a boyfriend and as a friend. Then try to imagine as if you like your boyfriend even more. If you don't like it, go for the other guy :)
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Yeah....I have considered that the other guy might just be playing me...he's played so many other girls that I don't even know if he's telling the truth about liking me.
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If he has played so many girls, why would he stop now? Try talking to some of his exes. If he is doing the same thing to you that he has done to them to fall for it them stick with your boyfriend
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Well if its just because the other guy is cute stick with your current boyfriend hahaha
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yeaaah him being cute isn't really the BEST reason to date him lol....
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Yea like if you want cute just get a puppy who won't play you and play with you and stick with your boyfriend
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i love puppies!!!! :D
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What do YOU want to do? Make your own decisions. Don't listen to everyone else.

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But I don't know what I want to do!! I'm so confused and afraid I might lose him forever if I break up with him just to be with a guy that I barely know, despite the feelings I have for him. And what if it's the wrong choice? The guy that I like is a player who hurt my friend when he went out with her.
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Then stay with your boyfriend. The other dude sounds kinda iffy to me.
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Yeah, he kinda does :/
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And why would you want to date that other guy if he was mean to your friend? And he's a player? Why would you want to date him...?
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I said y would u want to date him two times whoops...
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(Shrinks back guiltily) Because he's cute.....
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Haha yeah... I know that's hard...
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Ahhh. The word cute always want girls to change their minds. Lol I need to stop popping out of nowhere. XD
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Yea.
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It's okay lol. after all, you ARE the love doctor. It's your job X) and he is reaaaally cute!!!!! :(
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I'm the love doctor at daytime. But when dark hits I'm a full time ninja. Haha just trying to lighten up the mood. So be happy. Life always has a part where you have to choose between two paths. One will lead you to a good one and one will lead you to h*ll. and I have to choose one path too right now.
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(GASP) Why do you have to choose a path?? ARE YOU DYING???
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Haha no I'm not dying. I'm choosing between asking my BFF(girl) out or just stay friends. I'm scared that I might ruin me and her friendship or give it a shot and maybe we will become together forever. But Im still not sure which one.
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lol how old are you?
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Awhh thats sweet.
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I'm 16. And I guess that's an "awww worthy" story. Lol
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ohhh well im almost 15 so i guess you're way more experienced at this stuff than me so i shouldn't be giving you advice xD
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Yeahhh. It really is. Awhhh
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@the_lobe_doctor
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Lol. I'm not really an expert at this. I just learned from my friends mistakes and apply it to my knowledge. But I had a crush on this one girl before but it was a hopeless chase. *sigh*
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Blahhhh kakskkfdk I mean the_love_doctor bahaha. (:
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Awhh. I fell yah dude.
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*Feel
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awww me too!!!! anyway i bet you're a great guy :)
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Yeah I totally. You push me. So yeah you "fell" me. Haha I'm just having a bad sugar high. But a little water will calm me down.
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Blahh. I know I need to like practice typing on my iPhone more often I guess.
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Haha lol no it's ok. My best friend is worse. Well I'm over my sugar high. So I'm back on the real me.
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Ha.
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I really like this conversation(:
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Yes... It's a very interesting convo...
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@ Rosaah -> lol take my spot then :D LATER GUYS!!!
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Byeee.
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Wow they put my other account on break. Lol. I'm the person behind the love doctor. But yeah it's an interesting convo.
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Bahahaha. (:
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Muahahahaha my laugh is better. XP
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Lol sowry I didn't answer u back 4 awhile... It gave me a 30 min. timeout for commenting too much.
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My laugh is more original. Bahahaha
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Well I don't suggest continuously dumping him thats kind of messed up . If you have feelings for someone else you feelings for your boyfriend aren't that strong so I would say either stay with him and focus on him or move on and stay friends .

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Yeah, it'd be wrong to just break up with him again...and plus he's not gonna take me back if I do. But the thing is I'm not all that trustworthy of this other guy
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Well you can't "love" two people at the same time . If you respond with an "but I don't love the other guy" then you need to ask yourself why in the world would you leave your boyfriend for a guy that doesn't even care about you . You clearly are getting tired of your boyfriend . I think it's a bit selfish that you care more about you having someone and your boyfriend leaving you than your boyfriends feelings .
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I kind of am tired of him and I want a new guy, but I know I'm being selfish. But isn't it also wrong to stay in a relationship when you're not happy?
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Either pick your boyfriend or pick someone else and move on .
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Think of it this way: If you have to choose between two guys, pick the one your not with. Because if you really loved the one your with, there wouldn't be a second choice. See the logic
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BTW: Shane ur really awwsum and from what I can see of ur pro pic ur kindaaaaa...... uhm.... ya....know..... cute...or something along those lines. ;).................I'm really shy btw
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That's true.....but what if this guy might hurt me?
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And whoa you guys should go out XD
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DoYouLoveMeILoveYou
HEHE NOT FUNNY jk i get embarrased and shy REALLY easy and REALLY bad so becasue you said that im mad blush right now lol
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DoYouLoveMeILoveYou
Look have you ever seen the twilight saga. I NEED TO KNOW
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DoYouLoveMeILoveYou
plus Shane wouldn't like me if he saw a real pic of me, no-one does.
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sorry!!!! :O and btw where'd shane go anyway??
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I'm here |?_?|/ what am I invisible haha Jk (:
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Ikr Shane is pretty cauteee. (:
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and i bet you're beautifullll :) and yesss i love twilight!!!! team jacob all the waaay!!!
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I'm team edward even tho. Jacob is pretty fine! (: lol.
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And a wild love doctor appears!!! Well I've dated a girl here with my other account but I wasn't even trying so she dump me. XD it was the funnest time ever.
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Haha wowww.
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You sure do love to pop into places, love doctor!! :P and omg you dated someone online??
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Yeah but I wasn't really into it. I just say hi every morning and that was it. I didn't take it seriously. So yeah. Sounds fun right?
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Sounds like you guys were more of friends than like actually dating.
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@ Clair5431 and yeah i love jacob!!
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I love Justin!!! :3
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Haha. :p
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@the_love_doctor Jb?
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yeeeeeeeeeeeep so true!!!!! twilight has tons of life messages lol :D
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Haha yeah. I love Justin. (Justin is my name too.) lol
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Haha coolz.
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Wait wich ones justin? Justin Chon, as in Erick Yorkie.... I Know him. My older bro micheal went to college with him :) Hes hottt
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I thought he was talking about Justin bieber...but Idk... I get lost a lot in convos. Like these... o_o
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Hey Shane, i dont know if your still her but do you have an iPhone or and ipod touch? Lol I'm just wondering... Cause it looks like you've got an iPhone but then I'm not 4 sure.
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Ipood touch . I don't want an iPhone eww.
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*ipod touch (; lol. My BFF has an iPhone case that looks like yours and I was jw so yupz.
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She has an iPhone.
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Well I already said that so whatever. ^-^
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If you like another guy, you need to break up with him...in my opinion. But, you're the only one that should make the choice. If you think you should, go ahead and do it, if you don't, don't do it.

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dont go for the player, seriously just dont, it'll hurt u and yur boyfriend in the end and he wont take u back

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This is so easy. Stay with your boyfriend! Those kind of guys only comes once in a lifetime. So would you rather have a bf that will treat you like poop/trash/ animal. Think before you do something dumb. Good luck.

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You make a good point. He's proved that he's going to treat me better than most people would. :)
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Well... all of I said comes from experience. Guys who are really nice and stuff also called "mr. Right" only come once in a lifetime. I can't say that I'm a once in a lifetime guy but most of my friends says that. But oh well I don't really believe them. So anyways I would recommend you to just stick to your bf. good luck.
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Thanks :)
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No problem. :) just doing my job as the love doctor. XD anyways I'm glad I can help.
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Follow your heart

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Sometimes heart makes mistakes. It's better to trust your mind, heart, and guts. And you'll be fine.
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yes indeed :)
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Stay with your boyfriend and you'll be fine. Cause you know him and he knows you more than the guy who is a jerk.

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You know ... I must say, you seem like you know nothing about relationships and really should NOT be in one.

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You dont have to be rude okay. im just asking for advice, which is wht you DO on this website, so please refrain from telling me what i should and shouldn't do. Thank you.
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Don't be STUPID! If i were you i'd stay with your boyfriend

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you sound like a bad girlfriend seriously.. why leave your bf over another guy that's just MESSED UP..I bet your bf is really sweet and caring..breaking up with him..wont just be done for good..you'll lose respect and a friend. plus when people see you with this OTHER guy...they'll think less of you and wont bother speaking with you... that's really LOW and you should just stay with him.. plus its only been a month..when you two date longer your gonna realize that the "guy" you so called liked wont mean anything to you after being with your bf for a long time..

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Thanks for being honest :)
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yeah your welcome. trust me my gf broke up with me a year ago over the same thing.
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aww im sorry
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its ok. are you still with your bf? to this day just wondering..
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