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Why isn't polygamy legal?

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To me, it's like an oxymoron. The whole purpose of marriage is to dedicate yourself to someone else for the rest of your life. Messing around with other people seems to defeat that purpose entirely. If you want to have a relationship with someone else than your spouse, then maybe you shouldn't have gotten married. It's also something that isn't high in demand- VERY few Americans would be in favor of that.

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There are actually over 6,1 million Mormons and 2,6 million Muslims in USA.
Not all of them have more than two wives, but even faithless Americans have more than one wife. Any man can dedicate his life to two people for the rest of his life. He doesn't have to mess around with other people. They would both be my spouse. But it's not a matter of statistics, it's about the freedom and right to love who you want, even if that means three people in one marriage. Maybe I should create my own religion and call it democracy.
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Very few mormons are in favor of polygamy. I'm sure the same goes for muslims. Polygamy is an outdated practice that, as I stated before, hardly anyone wants.
Marriage is a commitment to another human being. That's what marriage IS. It just doesn't make sense to me to be "married" to several people. You might as well be cheating. The whole point of marriage is to choose one other person. And a problem that could come along with polygamy is that a bunch of husbands/wives could go out and secretly marry other people.. it'd be one big mess.
This is not about equality. Once gay marriage is legalized in all 50 states, you'll be able to marry whomever you want. That's equality. You can love other people outside your marriage, that's none of my business. The way to go about it is that if one other person is not enough for you, don't get married.
What YOU want has NOTHING to do with democracy. In a democracy, majority rules. A HUGE majority of Americans oppose polygamy and define marriage to be between two people. Some restrict that further to being between a man and a woman, while others (like myself) believe two consenting adults should be able to marry. If you want democracy, well good news, that's what this is. No one but a few want gay marriage, therefore it isn't in "high enough demand" so to speak, to become an actual law. But hey, if suddenly 51% of Americans decide they want polygamy, then fine by me. That's what our country is based on.
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Well said, MsStina
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Thank you :)
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Btw, I meant polygamy not "gay marriage" in that 4th to last line. Definitely more than just a few people want gay marriage x)
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I didn't think you were old enough to have a senior's moment. I get 'em all the time. Annoying. 8<{
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Lol I've talked about gay marriage so much on here that it's hard wired into my brain >_<
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because love is for two people

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No, it is legal in Utah in USA and British Columbia in Canada.
But in countries like China it is legal everywhere.
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Just because it might be legal in those places doesn't make it okay.
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marriage is between two people,about everywhere on the planet,the majority of people agree with the law

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The Mormons don't think so.
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its still illegal,a.nd as i said the majority not the mormons
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It's legal in Utah and British Columbia.
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Because its borderline prostitution (in my opinion), and it's just morally wrong.

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Prostitution is when a woman has sexual intercourse with more than one man and gets paid for it. You can't mix those together. You should meet my sister, she dates a new guy every week, that's prostitution.
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prostitution is not limited to just women, genius. And I'm not saying it's literally just like it. It's somewhat related. The women are getting a house, money, anything in exchange for the sex.
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because it isn't morally right

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Exactly, it's based on morals, and I have different morals.
It's not illegal to love someone. The government should separate social norms, morals from law. Or maybe in the future, it's a crime to dress inappropriately.
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everyone has the same '' base '' of morality though .
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We're not created equally.
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But we still need to have a brain and respect ... Polygamy personally when i see it , it has many advantage for a man but not for the woman ~
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Would you mind to explain that, how it's not an advantage for a woman to be married to a man who has the will, commitment and finances to have two wives?
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Because as a woman i can tell you that i want my man all to myself and not share with him with another wife of his ! ... And i want to be the only girl he touches or even thinks about .
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And wouldn't you be upset sharing your wife if she had another husband ?
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having more than one wife? seriously dude, thats obviously gonna cause too much trouble

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They can do the kitchen faster and when one is fed up with me, I'll go to the other one until she calms down. No, but seriously, companionship is very important to me, and I rather have two wives then one wive and many sex partners.
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What a flippin' nightmare.
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u have to buy two rings, waste money on two sets of clothes and other women junk, and they would be constantly fighting for your attention and make u take sides which would be TOTALLY disastrous. but im totally with you on the many sex partners things
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It sounds lovely, I would buy them more precious rings, I like shopping, they would love me. That would be sweet if they would be fighting over my attention. But I wouldn't let them down, because we would always be together. Somehow I feel more like a whole person with two people, just like I have one organ on each side of my body (except the one that counts).
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if u were getting married to a girl, and she said "i love you...as much as i love him" then she pulls out another guy and now your wife has another husband. that wouldnt upset you?
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Of course, but it doesn't work like that. I would marry them both simultaneously, and they would both have to be aware of each other.
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so u wouldnt be upset if u and another man were simultaneously marrying the same woman
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its legal in some places but in all honesty it wouldn't be a "marriage" if its not between two people.

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Of course a marriage can be between three people. They share the same house, the same bed, the same economy, the same ding dong, but they are not married to each other, just married to me, and I would be faithful to them both.
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marriage is not about money or sex its about loving someone for the rest of your life with no regrets and trust. if you need more than one person to fulfill that then that is not a marriage that is an open relationship and those usually lack trust and commitment.
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I would love a couple women for the rest of my life with no regrets and trust. There would be no lack of trust and commitment.
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because if you love more than one person then you have hopeless romantic issues.

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Don't get me wrong, I loooooove women but having 2, 3, 4 or more wives would drive me crazy. I'm sure it would be the same for women with 2 or 3 husbands.

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If you really think so, you should watch Savages with Taylor Kitsch.
Some like to have one in the pinky and one in the stinky.
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I think it would be a lot worse if a women had five husbands
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Could you imagine the fights. More than one husband would cause bloodshed.
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I agree with you Eureka. I can imagine there is a possibility that they might get jealous on each other. But we would have to learn how to love and respect each other equally. Good friendship is the foundation to a strong and lasting relationship.
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It is legal is certain cultures, usually with stipends such as the man must be able to afford his wives and children. It's basically culture that determines whether it will be legal or not. Men aren't naturally faithful. Marriage to one person is a totally artificial circumstance anyway.

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There are statistically more men than women in this world anyway, so why let them be single or be abused by sex offenders.
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Women arent naturally faithful either if the truth be known. It is something that has to be workied on every day of a marriage or relationship.
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Respecfully, women are faithful, far more faithful than men, because they don't have the same sexual drive as men. Men have 10 times higher testosterone level than women. But I think my level is probably higher than men.
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Women dont normally cheat for just sex. They cheat for the intimacy. They cheat on more of an emotional level... Not a hormonal one. But they still cheat just as much as men do.
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Yeah, that's the one that matters. The emotional one. But I wouldn't want to be married to someone who has feelings for other people, or even like other men. My partners can have friends of same sex, not opposite.
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That is hardly fair. That automatically shows that you dont trust your partner. I am a guy and have always gotten along better with women than I have with other men. I do not hunt, fish, go drinking or go to strip clubs. Seems most guys enjoy that stuff. My girlfriend has always gotten along better with men than she has with women. Women like to get their nails done and spend time at day spa's and crap like that. Everyone should be entitled and allowed to have who ever they want as a friend. No one should tell them who they can or cannot be friends with.
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It's not the woman I don't trust, it's men... white men.
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ever watch sister wives? is that legal???

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There have been times in history where it was necessary to quickly repopulate a civilization after a war or natural calamity.

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So I'll have to wait until next world war shows up?
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It's every young man's fantasy and every old man's nightmare.
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Who on earth would really want it to be?

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That's probably because there aren't many women who are going to allow it. What kind of self righteous woman would allow a man to treat her as if she's a thing? The reason I don't back Polygamy is because it makes women look like objects to be used and thrown away when broken. I believe that a woman deserves a man who will care for her and only her, and vice versa. And, even if Polygamy were excepted, woman would want to marry more than one man as well, which would be a total mess. And finally, the way the government treats marriage with spouses receiving benefits upon death and things like that, they'd never allow Polygamy, it just wouldn't work.

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Well, legal or not. I'm going to have two women living in my house, sleeping in my bed in the same time, and I'll make them both pregnant. Nobody is going to tell me who can and can't live in my house.
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Yup. You can do that if you wish. You just wont get legally married, that's all. Those two women wont be your wives, just your own personal harem. Enjoy it!
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Actually, there's something that bothers me. Its the fact that you believe you'll find two women who will be able to stand the sight of one another while in a relationship with you. Maybe I've been watching too much TV, but it's come to my attention that women don't get along very well. I've even noticed it amongst my friends. You're marriage wouldn't last a month before someone is injured or wants a divorce.
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I assume you're very young. But it is a very common practice in China to have more than one wive. In fact, only white people don't practice this as much. Exceptions are the Mormons and some other white folks. I have previously dated a girl who didn't mind that I had two partners, and she wanted to meet her, but she was straight. I have been in a relationship before with two girls. I even have relatives who have had two partners in the same time. It is much more common than you think, and it's also practiced by women with two men.
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Because most people agree that it is either morally wrong or just plain won't work. You however, have the right to think that it should be legal, whether it is or not. I notice that you ask the question of people on here, then argue with them, when they take time to answer you. Don't ask if you can't bear the answers you might get.

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Judging by your comments under MsStina's answer you would like to legalise polygamy but would be affronted by polyandry -- a woman with more than one husband.

I don't usually wax scriptural but there's a verse in the Bible that talks about a man and a woman becoming one flesh. Ideally that can happen and, as the years pass, you grow together. Inviting an additional person into the group would prevent that.

Two women sharing a man or two men sharing a woman would be an invitation to jealousy and bickering. It would not be conducive to a happy, loving relationship.

Perhaps you're a subscriber to the Yul Brynner philosophy (from The King and I)
"A girl must be like a blossom
With honey for just one man.
A man must be like honey bee
And gather all he can. "

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And once he insets his stinger into one "flower" he dies????
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Ahhhh ... what a thought.

Of course, if one woman isn't enough for him he can always allow his self-love to blossom. No unwanted pregnancies that way and he won't REALLY go blind.
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....but he WILL get warts and grow hair on his hands......
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lol, very interesting comments here. Thank you Dodgy, for a more intelligent answer. I'm not a subscriber to the Yul Brynner. But I do like that poem, a lot!
I do not see a problem with three people living in harmony with each other, as long as they can understand each other, share common ideas, concepts. They have to be more than just a normal couple. They must act like adults and take responsibility for their feelings, in order to manage this type of "marriage". With rationality, patience, understanding, it works, just a strong mind, that's all. No anger, no hate, just peace and love. I think you would be shocked if you knew what kind of good person I really am, despite my desire, for love.
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LOL! That is not a poem, it is a line from a movie musical about King Mongkut of Siam in the early to mid 1800s
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http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0049408/
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Here is the problem with your statement..." They must act like adults ..."
In theory it would work, but it just does not live up to reality in a "civilized" world.......unless you were born into a polygamous society (of which there are very, very few in the modern world) and raised in this manner. But remember, if you want more than one wife, you will have to accept a woman who want more than one husband. Lets see...what do YOU have to offer ..........
Does our family have enough camels or goats to trade for you? Do you have a dowry? How would you benefit their daughter's well being?

(...now Yul Brenner had MUCH to offer a woman....it could be tempting.....)
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Great in theory, DA, but in practice, perhaps it may be another story.

I used to train with a very good marathoner. She was in her 30s, slender without the cadaverous look long-distance runners often get, and with a wonderful attitude to life, and participation, and fun.'She worked in one of Sydney's most respected museums.

I don't know how it came about but a colleague had persuaded his wife to let him invite another woman into their bed and, when she finally agreed, he made the offer to my friend.

She was nothing if not adventurous and agreed to try a menage. It worked very well for a while but then she and the wife began to appreciate each other more than the guy cared for. He tried to get between them (figuratively -- he'd already been there literally) but they were enjoying themselves too much and booted him out.

Yep, it's a true story.

These arrangements sound like fun but this one didn't go the way he expected. They were all very adult in their behaviour but the guy proved to be less adult than the women.
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That's a good point Dodgy, and a good story. It's very important to show that you really care about the ones you love, and show that you are able to take responsibility. If you stop caring, then your doomed to loose the relationship.
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I don't know, I think it's one of the best ideas ever conceived by MAN!!

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With the whole thing about marriage lately, and now apparently it has no meaning you have to ask yourself How much is to much? With that in mind a lot of people love a lot of different things, and there is a point that society needs to draw the line on what is culturally acceptable. Soon however we will see paligmy and a whole lot of different things legalized.

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I hope that includes the second amendment.
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You'll only get em' from my cold dead hands.
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semper fi
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Say what now???
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semper fidelis
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Speak English please
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