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When a guy sleeps with another girl, should you forget and forgive or leave him and find someone else?

Ive been dating someone for awhile now, but he slept with my tattoo artists sister. & I didnt find out till 2 days later after my cousin beat him up for it. all i wanted to do is kill myself i cried for 7 hours and everything. But its because i love him so should i forget about it and be with him or try to move on? Please help me.

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MatthewMedcalf

Once a cheater always a cheater dump his ass

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Dump him. I agree with Matthew. He did something unforgivable, and you deserve better than him.

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Break up with him. If you forgive him, it'll show your weak. Give yourself the respect you deserve.

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EquineEloquence
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It wont show she's weak. it will show she really loves him and that she forgives him.
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but he'll probably just do it again knowing she will forgive him
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That a chance she will have to take. Maybe he wont, maybe he will. I just think he deserves another chance. But if he does it again, she needs to not put up with it.

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Well it was a real jerk move for him to Cheat and he will more than likely do it again do you really want to put yourself through that AGAIN. If I was you I would tell him to have all the fun he wants because I would be done . I would give people chances , but what he did was a big deal .

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This sounds like one of those talk shows, girl. My advice is to dump the guy, be wary of crazed cousin, not have a personal tattoo artist. There's more out there for an attractive and intelligent woman.

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Leave him. If he cheated once... He will do it again....ESPECIALLY if he got away with it before.
That also goes for women. If SHE cheats.... He should dump her too.

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I agree, it works both ways
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Yes it does.
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Leave him.

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Leave him

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move on..for sure..

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Dump that sucker

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I would leave him

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Exactly.
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He wouldn't have cheated if he had what YOU thought you had together.

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I think everybody deserves a second chance.

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Did he even want another chance? It sounded like she was the only one who was sad.
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Yeaaa..... That guy doesn't deserve another chance.
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she would only be giving him another chance to cheat again and if he wasn't obviously satisfied with the relationship or love her enough to fool around with another girl. This guy is a pig, ditch his ass!
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no if he cheated with her sister
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he dont he is a dumb ass that need the hell beat out of him
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It was her tattoo artists sister
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But I agree bastard should be beaten up
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o wow mine was with my cuzin and she got preagent and then he sleep with his boss and 4 others. but with her tattoo artists sister wow that over bord
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find. someone. else.

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Be strong enough to walk away from anyone and everyone who does not respect you! Once a cheater - always a cheater. Move on. Life is too short to spend on loosers.

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Perfect and awesome answer.
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Leave him. You deserve better. Theres no point of fighting for your guys relationship.

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EquineEloquence
Great answer.
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Thanks! :) that means a lot. :3
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he intentionally hurt you!! dont go back to him he's not worth it

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Dump

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18 answers, and not a thanks in the bunch..just saying

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EquineEloquence

"Leave him"!!!!

You are wasting your time on someone who does not "give-a-crap-about-you" mentally and emotionally.

Many males will do this stuff.
It is up to you to find a male who will not do that to you and who will want to be with you "only". ------ It takes time to find one of those males, these days.

So... Leave any "male jerk" who does that to you and patiently find another who will find you "worth-while" to not do that to.

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Not only that,...he will most likely bring home diseases to you that you will get, and you will never be able to get rid of those diseases (that could cause you to die early or to just suffer painfully).
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a bit intense
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Felipemedina123... I'm a bit intense???!!!
The h_ll with you!!!
No doubt you will struggle with a relationship with others, no matter what you say to me!
Good Luck.
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ummm ok? i been with my gf for 5 years so umm no im good
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btw you didnt have to be an a** bout it
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Felipemedina123, .. obviously you are a narcissist. Go kiss yourself, love yourself, because no one will love you like you do of yourself.
Maybe you should let your poor girlfriend go, spare her your "mental-games".

By the way, I wasn't being an _ss. I was being truthful.
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Drop him like a hot potato!

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Exactly!
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If you take him back have him check for stds

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Also, just do not "take him back". You are better than that.
Forget him all together..
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Break up with him if he did it once he will do it again

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They always do.
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He moved on, clearly it's time for you to do the same.

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Move on...

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Don't walk away from him. RUN!

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Perfect answer.
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Next on Jerry!
Cheating cheaters and
The unstable women who love them!
!Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!

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LMAOOOOOOOOooooooo
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Dumb him. He is not meant to be with you

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leave him he doesn't deserve you

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Exactly.
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u should not leave him cuzz he love y

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Leave him...

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You asked if you should leave him... he left you the day he undressed and laid down with another woman!!! Look at all the responses you've had to your question... the majority of answers are for you to leave but, what are you leaving? You're not leaving someone that loves you that's for certain. If you allow yourself to be disrespected in such a way this early into the relationship, just imagine what he will think he can get over on you later on!!! No one is worth your self respect. Step away from this situation and don't look back!! Just make sure you learn from it and always be proactive when it comes to matters of the heart. I wish you the best.

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excellent answer camp
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Thank you so much. I don't understand why some people treat others the way they do. Life doesn't have to difficult... if people would practice using some common sense everyday:)
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I know that better than anyone.check some of my answers and I think u will understand plenty.
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I'm sorry if someone caused you deep pain like this situation. I've been there myself and it effects you always even when the hurt and anger are buried deeply inside.
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Yes it does.What
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leave him.. you deserve the best :) and the best is looking for you as you are looking for him..

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you should dump him but you should also forgive him that way you can move on. it take a strong person to give forgive freely but weakling holds on to forgiveness.

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dumb him if he really loved u he wouldnt do that

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True.
That's why, the word "love" is only used as a game or 'emotional-game'.

There is 'no-such-thing-as-love' these days.
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personally, i believe in second chances. definately discuss what happened, why it happened. if he says something like "im really in love with her" as his excuse then dump his sorry ass! if its more along the lines of "i was drunk" or "it just happened", or "she moved onto me" and he is sincerely sorry and apologetic about it, perhaps you should reconsider. sometimes, in the moment, people are physically attracted to each other, without emotional connection being present. make it clear to him that you are disgusted and hurt, and that you SHOULD be leaving him, howevver, if he is sincerely sorry, perhaps it is in your best interest to forgive and move forward.

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Why would you want to be with someone who does not respect you or love you? Trust me, if loved you he wouldn't sleep with another woman. If your self esteem is so low that you decide to take him back, make him take an HIV test before sleeping with him again. That'll let him know you are serious about monogamy.

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Drop him..

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You should dump him he doesnt deserve someone like you ! , you can do far better and if you give him a second chance he will more likely do it again..... Once A Cheat Always A Cheat........ you deserve so much better than that..... i hope the best for you :)

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Awesome answer.
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awh thankyouu :) x
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girl leave him my ex cheated on me with my cuzin and than with his boos and them 4 others girls

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leave him.

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If you truly love him give him another chance.But be stricter, such as until you trust him again give him a list of "rules" that he has to follow in order for you to stay with him. Hope this helped!

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Are you a young teenager? You answer sounded like it.
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No i'm 19
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I rest my case.
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if it caused you that much pain, i'd say you might be a little too attached to him. No guy should ever make you feel so bad you want to kill yourself, you have an unhealthy relationship when that happens. the fact that he cheated means that there is something going on he doesn't like or wants more in the relationship... i would leave him.

Forgive him, for your sake not his, and leave him and don't you look back! you deserve better and karma will get him!

but that truly is your choice. good luck -hug-

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break up with him!!

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if he seems really sorry then i would give one chance if its
the first time. if not then LATES on his ass. :)

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1 chance always seems fair. But I would make him suffer a lil first for the mistake just to see if he really is sorry.
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If he apologizes you should give him a second chance... However be prepared for another heart break but don't be paranoid... BUT NEVER GIVE THIRD CHANCES!!!!

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well i believe what you should do is follow where your heart leads you but in my opinion I would not forgive him cause once he cheats and you take him back he will think he can do it again and get away with it and hurt you trust me been there and dont wanna go through it again. Good luck (fingers crossed)

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I believe in 2nd chances but he betrayed your trust by doing something as serious as sleeping with another women, so i think you should show what a mistake he by kicking him to the curb and showing him who's the boss. P.S. If your still sad after that try listening to carrie underwood's Before he cheats, Last Name, I know you, and Cowboy Casanova.

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aww. I suggest listening to Every rose has its thorns by poison. It helped me cry it out.
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thats right once a cheater always a cheater. and it doesnt matter how old or young pretty much they all cheat. so either accept the fact that hes a cheater and either deal with it or leave him.

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Dump him and find someone better.

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First thing you need to do is clear your mind. Get your mind away from violent actions and thoughts. When you no longer feel sad, and just angry, you can find what you really want. I wouldn't right away dump him. And get on to your cousin for beating him up, too. That also is not wise, and can lead to punishment. I don't know about your relationship with this dude, so I can't give you any more advice.

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Ummm, let's see, if you really like him, confront him. Yell at him, tell him how you feel inside. Don't cry, he'll think you're weak. No, keep a strong head. Get it all out. Then see his reaction. If he doesn't fall to his knees and ask for forgiveness (not litterally, but still make sure he is serious and sincere), be like : "WE'RE DONE" and then turn, and walk away. And if he is really serious, then forgive him and warn him, "You do it again, YOU DEAD !"

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If he cared enough he wouldn't have cheated on you
You will be able to get over him
Keep me updated please!
Sorry i have no life

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if you have faith in relationships (you would never cheat) you deserve better

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Listen... Once a cheater always a cheater isn't exactly true. Sometimes you'll get lucky and the guy will change ( don't get your hopes up though it's rare). Here is what I would do.. Tell him you want a break ( or break up with him temporarily), During that time, don't sleep with him, basicly give it a month or two. If he sleeps with another girl, dump him but if he is still apologising by the end of the month or two, In my oppinion he deserves a 2nd chance. Everyone makes mistakes.

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u should leave him and find a guy that make u happy!>_<

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forgive him, but move on. no point holding the hurt inside but most likely he will hurt you again, he hurt you bad and there is always the chance he will do it again.

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Dump him. Nothing can justify someone cheating. If he really cared then he wouldn't have cheated, so he's not worth it.

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dump him right now and never get with him again

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You should dump him, because he just showed you that he does not care about anything but your body! I know that if I had a girlfriend, I would love her and never cheat on her. Dump that guy. your wasting tears on him that are completely useless. Sorry, and I hope you find someone that treats you like a princess, like you should be treated!

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You should leave him. If he already did something like that once, he would probably think you don't care and do it again. I hope you feel better! *hugs*

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I strongly agree with the people here, dump him. It's his lost not yours :)

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He slept with another woman!!!!!!!! You can do WAY better then that.
You are throwing your affection down a black hole...he does not really love you, or he would not have done that. You were just dating him...it's not like you are married or anything! Leave that miserable sucker.
I know it feels horrible now, but you will be glad later that you were rid of him.

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when a guy cheats on his girlfriend. he disrespects her, so i would idump him if i was you. i am a guy so i actually know why. my buddies do it all the time i am fully against it. if you want to date someone be respectful to them. thats all i got to say. i hope it helps.

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if he doesn't care enough about you to stay faithful, he shouldnt expect you to care about him; i would try to move on.

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dump him you deserve better

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I agree with MatthewMedcalf ( dump his ass)

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If he is cheating on you now then he will probably do it again. You should leave before he breaks your heart.

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honestly you should leave him if he didnt once he will probably do it again. theres plenty of more people out there who you can find. hold your head up and show him you will be fine without him thats what will make him wish he never did it when he sees you moving on if you keep him he will think he can do it all the time. hope i helped

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you should forgive him when you feel the time is right. you should make him realize what he did was wrong and make him regret it.

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Once a cheater always a cheater dump his sorry ass!

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If your curently with the guy and he is sleeping with another girl, you should definitely not forgive him because he will think he still got away with it and he'll do it again. dont look for another guy. Just let them find you. Be smart! :)

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Do what makes you happy. Everybody on here telling you to dump him because they see what you put on here but I mean he got to have some good qualities somewhere that's what make you want him in the first place. So you have to follow your heart.Hope this is helpful...

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I think you should break up with him and be friends (not close or anything, just friends) so you aren't you emotionally attached. if he has proven to you that he won't do it again you can try the relationship again if you really want to. if he does it a second time dump him because he doesn't seem to care at all for your feeling so don't stress yourself over him because he isn't stressing over you. Just remember actions speak louder than words.

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pense bem.faça o q o seu coraçao esta mandando

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Not a bad idea. Ignorance is bliss.

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