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How long does it take for a 16 yr old boy to listen and behave. do they ever grow up

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Depends on how you define "ever." My son was pretty hard to raise when he was a teen. We couldn't motivate him to care about school, work or anything else that we thought was important. He never did anything seriously wrong, or dangerous, but he was pretty much a pain in the butt. He turned out to be a wonderful man, but not until he was ready to grow up. Unless your son is into dangerous or illegal activities, relax and give him time.

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I'm 16 and I behave most of the time depends on the person

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Raising a 16-year old, or any other teenager for that matter can be quite challenging. Each person is different, so you only need to work around your son's personality and you'll have an easy time with him.

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depends on the teen/kid

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If a 16 yo child wont listen or behave, it is usually something that the parent did wrong raising that child. Put the blame where it belongs.

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I'd have to guess that you don't have much experience raising kids, Neanderthal.
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Probably not. Only have 5 and 2 grand kids. Never had problems with them when they were 16 though.
Three in college, one finishing high school in IB program and one just doesnt want to go.
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Well done. And congrats on such a great family. I withdraw my comment. 9<{
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Still trying to convince the one that he needs to be in college though.
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None of the credit is really mine though. Their mother is the one that is absolutely brilliant. I just go to work and give up my paycheck like I am suppose to. I am the idiot in my house and not ashamed to admit it either.
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LOL. Like you, we had 5 kids, 8 grandkids, and the second great-grandchild is due in a couple of months. A couple of them took a long time to outgrow their teens -- one didn't make it till 30. One of the others is 25 now and shows little sign of growing up. The others were all great.
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You don't sound like an idiot at all. Give yourself some credit.
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sorry but i totally disagree. i raised him with much structure and boundaries. hes been diagnosed in the past with adhd and mood disorder. he is in a short term program right now and their having a hard time with his behaviors. so when you say basically its my fault the way he turned you are so totally wrong. i'm not one of those parents that go out to bars every night, neglect, or let him run the streets.
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No one said that you went out to bars every night No one said you neglected him or let him run the streets. Their is such a thing as too much structure... and too many boundaries though. Boundaries and the needed structure are very good things but what is required is on a per child basis. You cant treat every child the same because all children are different. Even identical twins.
A lot of parents have the tendency to treat all the children the same.... to be fair or because they think that is the way it should be. Every child is different though and should be raised differently. If your child is an only child.... then I still think something happened in parenting. Something happened in the formidable years from 0 to 5 or so. A divorce? Abuse of some kind? Something has your child "stuck" at an earlier age..... and finding it may involve therapy.
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Sorry for the redundancy.... tired.
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Jilly, your son has real medical issues. Don't let anyone tell you that his behavioral problems are due to any lack of parenting skill on your part. Biology, unfortunately, is destiny. Being patient, loving and firm with him is great, but he also needs medical help, which I assume you're making sure he gets. Please know that many teens who have ADHD, and who have mood disorders, do grow up to be happy and successful adults, although their path to adulthood may be longer and tougher. Hang in there, and good luck to both of you.
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NOBODY knows if this child has medical issues or not. That information wasnt given. This is not necessarily ADHD either. Putting someone on medication is not always the answer either.
Jilly.... Nothing wrong with getting a Physician or Psychologist to examine your child... but dont be surprised if there is nothing wrong with him in that respect.
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Since she has said that her son already has a diagnosis of ADHD, and also of a mood disorder, those ARE medical issues. As such, they require medical solutions.
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I apologize... I missed that part.
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thankyou mairzyd you seem to understand, and the worst part is his idiot father isn't involved well actually thats the best think i suppose. i know my son dont give a damn
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This is from a respected physician.... I hope you take the time to read it and possibly read more of his stuff.
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Forever.

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It varies from one teen to another. We've all known kids who are still kids long into their 20s and beyond but most of them come out of it earlier than that. Try to relax and go with the flow. You're not alone.

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Its not about the time, its about the personality that life has molded of them. Gby

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I have to agree with Neanderthal. If you can't control the behavior of a sixteen year old, it's because you didn't teach him well when he was a lot younger. Behavior boundaries should be set early in a child's life. You hold firm with them,teaching the child that there are consequences if the boundaries are crossed. If this is instilled when they're very young, then you will have little or no problems with them when they're older.

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Teenagers don't listen and behave. This isn't a sign that they aren't growing up, it's actually the opposite. He's growing up into an adult, and adults tend not to follow commands when they don't want to. Try to keep a good relationship with him instead, and treat him like he's a bit older and can make almost all choices for himself.

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At 30-40 it gets better hang in there.

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