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My son gets bullied & just can't seem to make friends. He's the sweetest w/ big heart I don't know what to do his self esteem is dropping

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Put him in mixed martial arts class.

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i would try enrolling him in a martial arts class, something a but more serious than kindergartener judo, and talk to the teacher of the class and tell him the problem youre kid is having. this will not only give him tools to stop the bullies but it will give him more confidence and self esteem, bullies usually dont bully a kid with confidence

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We don't have anything like that in our town. I've tried talking to teacher and principal they were no help just laughed and said its a love hate relationship nothing they could do
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then there has to be something near by, may be get him like a cool private teacher its a lot of politics in these stuff if he hangs out with the right criwd than this can afect how people see him may be get hum a "cool" role model, this seems weird that there is no martial arts class what so ever...
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how old is he?

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He will be 13 in july
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let him watch a movie called revolver.it will help him understand the minds of those who bully him.
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You need to find out why and how he is being bully. Talk to the school counselor and the parents in a meeting at the school. All parties should be there. The situation should be discussed and corrected with the with the help of the school guidance counselor.

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Tried that principal did nothing teacher laughed said its a love hate relationship he will get over it. Counselor did nothing. Teacher is not friendly either. We have no martial arts classes in our area already looked into that. He will be 13 in july
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I would not out up with that attitude from the teacher or the principal. The problem has not been solved. Call the school and demand another meeting. Be firm about the fact you want this bullying stopped NOW. BTW, I am a teacher.
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The mistake my mom made was exactly this. I know you're trying to help and all but you just have to let him be. You can easily solve the bullying problem but not the self esteem issue. He has to be on his own for that.

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You should put him in an activity he can succeed in and enjoy. That way, he can be proud of what he has accomplished and it will build his self esteem. Also, reassure him that it's not his fault that he's being bullied.

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I agree with Tony. I know you said there were none in your area, but I'm sure there is some activity like it. Maybe a self defense class, as they teach self control as well as self defense. (this will teach him not to use his skill wastefully or dangerously when it isn't needed.) Any activities like these, will promote self esteem. Maybe body building, working out at the local gym, or things like this would be an answer if there is nothing like martial arts. While I agree that in most cases, time will heal the bully issue, the self esteem could follow him throughout life. Therefore, concentrate on activities that are positive and do promote self esteem.

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Enroll him in a group. Like art classes, outside of his school. He needs more settings to learn to establish his personality. Once he is more confident outside of his normal routine, he will start carrying it over into that scene!

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Enroll him in some karate or fighting classes he needs to learn how to fight back. It suck but there's alot of little a-holes out there. This takes care of the being a victim part. He also needs some friends Get him involved in something he likes even science clubs Boy Scouts, anything, he needs to know what he's good at. It's ok to not fit in. This world has enough clones.

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Elmanu I applaud you you are a carrying guy. Stars
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I'm with tony737 mixed martial arts would definitely help him as it has been known to help others. Just google Uriah halls story. It may be hard at first but He will gain confidence and the bullying will
Slow or stop. He will be confident in knowing he can deal with these bully's and will thank you one day when he is awesome In the ring and knocking said bully's out.

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Try putting him in Soccer, basketball,baseball or even mixed martial arts.

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He plays football basketball baseball and bowling but the kids are still mean and I had one day where the kids pushed him to ground were kicking him took his shoes threw them in the woods I had enough got off bleachers and screamed and the kids and helped all the while the kids parents strode and watched and did nothing I lit into them on my way buy.
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Go to the School Board and type up exactly what has happened and with who. Give dates of meetings with teachers and what they said. Hand this document to all board members at the meeting. Since you are in a small town, this school may have not got the memo they are required to address bullying issues. It would have helped all of us here if you would have defined the bullying in your question.

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i know this seems a bit out of the contest of the other answers but the best way to overcome a bully is to stand up for your self and show the bullies that he is a person whose better then them and demands equal respect. so the mixed martial arts is a good idea because a good punch in the face says pretty much everything i mention and gets the message across

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Go to the school board if the school will not help you. Bring it up at the PTA meetings. No child should be bullied.

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Do what my mom did to me,put him in homeschooling,when I was getting bullied I talked to the principal and he didn't do anything Good luck!!

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Taekwondo classes will teach him to respect himself hand to gain self esteem as well ad how to solve his problems non violently at first, then if the problem persists to act in self defense.

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I would move him to a new school. Preferably a private school. Just so he can get a new start.

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Tell the school

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Unfortunately "sweet" and "big heart" usually don't get you too many friends in school (I'm 14, and I know from a bit of experience in elementary school). You need to be funny on too of that, and not innocent. When people don't want to be friends with a kid, self esteem goes down. It gets better usually around 8th grade, but sometimes it doesn't until your out of high school. How old is he?

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He can make friends but maybe he is just trying to fit in with the wrong crowd. You should tell him to talk to those that are in his class and that are just like him (sweet, nice, a loving) because he could have (girl) friends which will lead to having (boy) friends. And tell him to be himself not someone that everyone expects him to be because friends are people who accepts u for being u not someone ur not.

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