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I just found out tonight my boyfriend doesn't believe in God. What should I do? I don't want to be mean to him about it.

we have Been going out for about 3 months and everyone says we are a great couple. while we where talking on the phone tonight he was like don't be mad when i tell u this but I don't believe in all that Christian God stuff. I told him I wasn't mad but after we hung up I was wanting to cry. like I don't know what to do I am still so upset. I want to tell my parents but they might tell me we should break up because what he believes.

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he is entitled to his beliefs. if you shove god down his throat he may get offended and leave you. just explain to him that you believe. if he does not iterfere with your religion, then you will stay out of his non-religion. you can still stay together but just be respectful of each others beliefs

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Continually beat him with the bible until the power of christ compels him to accept god into his heart.

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OMG Dude......LMAO!!!!! 8)
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It might take a bookshop of bibles to do the trick. Lol
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that's hysterical. it'd be funnier if it wasn't true though
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That is the worst evangelistic method I've ever heard in my life! LOL
Your trying to Evangelize to them not scare them. hahaha so funny
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soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo funny your awesome thats exatly what i would say
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well i'd say you just tell him that if he really cares about you, he'll ast least go to church with you at least once with an open mind. just tell him that that's really important you. if he truly cares about you, he will at least give it a try! Good luck and remember God will lead you to who you're supposed to be with.

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Thanks for the comment, he has gone to church with me once and he told me he went to make me happy. I prayed about it when we hung up. Could u pray for him too his name is Tyler.
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If he loves you, he will respect your belief. Since he can accept that you believe in God, return the respect and let him not.
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you're welcome! i will gladly pray for him:) would you mind praying for me. there's this great christian guy who i'm trying to get noticed by. maybe you could pray about that too? anyway, good luck! and he will be in my prayers!
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I will be glad to pray for you? good luck to u too
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prayer doesn't work for people who don't believe it god.
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I was with a guy whose whole family was super religious. I was not. at all. however to be nice, and try to take an active interest in something he liked I did go to church with him and his family on sundays. I wanted to shoot myself the whole time mind you, but I did go. Now that I think about it later, I could have opted to offer to go once or twice a month instead of every week. Truth is, in relationships each of the people will end up doin stuff they really don't want to do, but it's about compromise. Tell him how you feel- don't let the feelings build and fester, and ask him if he would be willing to meet you half way.
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Hit him with a cross

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well the only you can do is try to change him into believing cause you can't make him

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Yeah, that's the Christian way. If someone doesn't believe, change him. Of course, when atheists try that on a Christian, they are pounded. She should let him be. I can't stand it when anyone pushes their believe on others who don't want it. Worst thing about Christians.
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Everyone entitled to have his own belief, don't believe any god or godness
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Well, if having a boyfriend that believes in God is important to you and your family, then you should find someone that believes, because you can't force someone into believing, and trying to change a person is never a good thing....

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Or just accept he has different beliefs.
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Or don't settle for what you don't want......
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Well he is who he is.
We can't control people's beliefs,and if you can't accept that then you probably shouldn't be with him then.
I believe in God and all but there will be people that don't believe in him sadly.

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I believe in Egyptian gods, but there will be people that don't believe in them sadly.
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In your logic,I believe in Tibetan Buddhism, but there will be people that don't believe in them sadly too.
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I'm a Christian, and I will say that if he is going to try to lead you away from your faith, end it.
your relationship with God will always be more important than your relationship with a guy.
if he's not totally heathen or something, invite him to church and just try to love on him with Jesus and be there for him.

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if she "loves on him with jesus" doesn't that make it a threesome? and define heathen please, you make it sound like a bad thing. atheists have morals you know, good morals and values.
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Respect It. Im Sure he dont feel like crying because your Christian.! Im Catholic&& Christian and if my boyfriend told me that ill take him to church still he doesnt have to believe in him but just go with me.

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pray about it and God will answer your prayer

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break up with him and save him hours of religious badgering.

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we can believe whatever we want, whats the issue,if it personally offends, well decision time

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Their is absolutely nothing for YOU to do. He is allowed to believe what he wants, just as you are. If you cant handle it... even though he is a great guy and you guys make a great couple then it sounds as though YOU have a problem with it and you should break up with him. Its not like he is out breaking laws and beating people up for no reason is it?? Atheists are people too... they just dont believe in a superior being.

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ya hes right ^
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Would you feel the same way if he had told you he wasn't Christian but some other religion? Honestly, unless you are planning on marrying him and having children together it shouldn't matter that much. Everyone has their own beliefs and it will be good for you to talk about why each of you believes what you do. Not everyone you will care for in this world will believe what you do. I have friends of all different faiths, or no faith at all. As long as they treat others with respect that is what matters.

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Your boyfriend is brave and intelligent. Using mathematics, there is less than a 1% chance that a real god exists. I respect your faith in that 1%. Try to respect his faith in science and understand his need for evidence.

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you should n't say that it is offensive
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I lost count of the number of different religions worldwide. For simplification, even though there are more than 100, let's say there are 100. If only one of these religions is true and correct, that means 99% of them are false prophets. You may have selected the one true religion and god to worship. I apologize for offending you.
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Actually, if you use mathematics, the probability of there being a god just gets smaller and smaller the more you work on the probabilities. It is said that you cannot disprove god, but you can come very close with Bayes' theorem.
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Just speak with him in person and air any and all concerns/grievances. Be polite and respectful. Don't attack or bash him for his beliefs. If it's a major issue for you I would suggest possibly stop dating. As a Christian we are supposed to be respectful and tolerant to other's beliefs as long as they are moral and aren't hateful. Perhaps you were placed in his life by God to open his mind and heart to God. If you think you can work through this and/or deal with it just talk calmly and rationally with him. Be respectful to his beliefs and views as long as he is respectful.

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It shouldn't really matter whether he believes or not. And it shouldn't cause you to break up with him, or convert him. If you tried to change his beliefs in any way, he will most likely leave you. So, just forget that he doesn't believe because it isn't really a big deal. You two were fine before he told you, you will be fine in the future.

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I'm really sorry to hear that. But just tell him how you feel, that you don't support that. If you feel that his atheism detracts from the pleasance of your relationship, make it known to him.

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Simply accept his non-belief, pray for him and maybe even invite him to church. But don't try to shove religion down his throat. Good luck

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So... really? Is that a problem that you don't know what to do about when he believes in something? Every one has opinions, everyone has beliefs...

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I'm an atheist & a decent person, I think. I'm lucky to be married to a man who feels the same way, although just about everyone else we know is religious. If you can't accept him as he is then move on. I think alot of people keep their distance from us because we are not religious but I think it's THEIR loss.

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See that's exactly the kind of stuff I hate about religion. If you really did love him and the fact that you guys make a great couple, then does the fact that he doesn't believe in your god really even matter? If you're trying to change him then obviously you don't care about him for who he is.

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Well said! And you saved me from having to answer the exact same thing :)
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If you really love him then it shouldn't matter what he believes. Respect his decision and he will respect yours. Don't try to change him and if you can't get over it, then it just wont work out.

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He has his beliefs and you have yours and you can't change what he believes and your either going to have to accept it or not (sorry but that's the truth)

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If you are a Christian and have faith in God and he doesn't it would be a deal breaker for me. My wife and I have been married for almost thirty years. I promise you if we didn't share the same belief in spiritual things we would not still be married. Because we have faith in God and have accepted the Atonement of Jesus Christ are love for each other has been able to make it through the rough times. Then when it comes raising children you must be on the same page. I would encourage you to do the hard thing and break up now, you both will be happier in the future when your with someone who shares the same values.

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OH GIRL!! ok so i liked this guy for like. 4 years. it was weird. then the 4th year he found i existed and we started dating. and he lied to me the entire time bc he knew i wouldnt date someone who wasnt a Christian and i was stupid enough not to notice and when i found out he wasnt i tried to bring him to church etc. i knew it was the wrong relationship but id wanted to be with him for so long i didnt listen to God and it was HORRIBLE - it hurt like crazy and i thought my life was over but God was incredibly gracious and ive learned so much. now, years later, im soo much happier - (it took time, but trust me you'll get there). God tells us not to be unequally yoked - meaning dont be involved that way with someone who doesnt believe in God and you do. dont try to change him for you, he has to want it himself. your parents are sosososo right i cant even describe!! i didnt want to listen to mine either, but thats why God gave us parents, and it sounds like He's given you very wise ones! you will be so much happier down the road. obey God and he will bless you!

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Thanks for the support :)
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Pray for him & love on him. Show him by example, that your God is the One True God.

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Well said ShayJay. God wants us to pray for the none believers.
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Yes, sometimes we have to take another approach apart from preaching.
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Absolutely!
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pray for him

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Whatever happened to live & let live. Surely you have no right to expect him to worship your god just because you do. He's an individual & I'm sure happy to be who he is. Allow him freedom of choice & don't condem him for being who he is & not needing to be part of the religious world. Good people are good not because of god but because they were brought up with respect for others rights. It's not for your parents to know his non religious choices. Once again that's his business. If you can't handle it then find another boyfriend who does go to church. Simple. It's not about him changing for you, it's about you making your discisions & him making his.

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Allow him to believe what he wants. Called Freedom of Religion. If your parents mind, then don't tell them in the first place. None of their business anyway.

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If you love him, stay with him. love him for who he is not what he believes in.

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date him it will be fine i have dated someone like that and i didn't care as long as you and him are happy

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The best thing is tosit him down and let him know about how u feel and don't be judgemental just listen

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respect his belief, and just accept it. it doesn't have to be a deal breaker and it doesn't have to be a big deal :) its only a problem if you make it one :) think about how you feel about him and how happy you two are, and just focus on that :)

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let him beileive in what he wants to because that shouldnt madder to you!

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take him to church sometimes

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try to let him experience with god take him to church or what ever you can or you can slap him around and shake him and say whats wrong with you

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It doesn't sound like he doesn't have a God, it just isn't Jesus Christ. Perhaps it's just a name game that's in the way.... I get it. Just because we aren't Christian, or Jewish, or Muslim, or....? Doesn't mean we are atheist. Some of us don't need a category, a temple or dogma to fill in the blanks.

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Here, Let me help you with that.

1 CORINTHIANS 7: 12-14
But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother (man who believes) has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be un-clean, but now they are holy.

This is saying, You believe, and he does not. That this is ok because of your love for the lord, Your husband is sanctified (which means if he is with you, he is hearing and seeing the lord from within you every day) and because of this, if you were to have children, they would be clean, and holy. So accept him for who he is, That is what the lord wants.

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Deuteronomy 13: 5
"And that prophet, or that dreamer of dreams, shall be put to death; because he hath spoken to turn you away from the LORD your God..."
Exodus 22:29
"Thou shalt not delay to offer the first of thy ripe fruits, and of thy liquors: the firstborn of thy sons shalt thou give unto me."
Exodus 21:17:
"And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death."
Ephesians 6:5 NLT
"Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ."
Ephesians 5:22-24
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything."
Revelation 2:22-23
"Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds. And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works."
Deuteronomy 28:63
"the LORD will rejoice over you to destroy you, and to bring you to nought; and ye shall be plucked from off the land whither thou goest to possess it."
Luke 12:47
"And that servant, which knew his lord's will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes."
Deuteronomy 28:53
"And thou shalt eat the fruit of thine own body, the flesh of thy sons and of thy daughters, which the LORD they God hath given thee, in the siege, and in the straightness, wherewith thine enemies shall distress thee:"
Deuteronomy 28:57
"And toward her young one that cometh out from between her feet, and toward her children which she shall bear: for she shall eat them for want of all things secretly in the siege and straitness, wherewith thine enemy shall distress thee in thy gates."
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I appreciate the effort, But none of that is saying anything about her not being able to date a non believer... Yes husbands are the head of the household, But a wife may marry a non-believer. Through that the husband will see Christ in his wife and learn the truth. Than he shall be an active believer, and threw that he will have discipleship and learn to be the head of his household.
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And old testimonies are irrelevant to this situation. The days are not the same since Jesus's sacrifice for our sins. Old testament laws no longer apply, and yes that means the 10 commandments also. They were replaced by 2 laws that cover all the hundreds of Hebrew laws. Love the lord god with all your heart, and Love thy neighbor as your self. With those 2 laws, you fulfill every law.
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if you yourself belief in God, and wish to carry out your beliefs in marriage or civil union or whatever, i think you should dump him. having different religious beliefs will make things so difficult in the relationship and it won't be worth it

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If people want to go about using bible quotes to solve this non-issue, then lets look at
Deuteronomy 13: 5, which offers wise words about this type of inquiry:
"And that prophet, or that dreamer of dreams, shall be put to death; because he hath spoken to turn you away from the LORD your God..."
note for those of you who want to interpret this figuratively, why is this figurative, but the commandment "thou shall have no other gods before me", is taking at literal value. We live in the first secular nation in the history of the planet, meaning that you have the freedom to believe what you want to, and it saddens me that in the 21st century, people still cling to stone age ideas, but even worse is those who can't tolerate others for their own opinions/beliefs, much the same in which people were held apart by skin color, or now by gender.

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All that is important is that you get along with your however significant other, and not find solace in a book about dragons, unicorns, giants, witches, wizards, talking snakes, talking donkeys, in addition to condoning cannibalism, slavery, genocide, infanticide, slavery, bigotry, racism etc... which also happens to be quite contradictory while at the same time timing, providing inaccurate statements, such as bird blood healing you of all skin diseases, creationism etc...
Anyway, all that is important is that you listen to your self in the resolution of this matter, and not pedophiles or those quoting from the a fore mentioned book, written by one of the most superstitious and backward people in the entire world at that time, who thought that donkeys could talk, or that men could live inside whales.
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Actually it has been tested, A man could survive in a whale for several days. Look it up yourself :)
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3 options. 1- accept it. 2- change it. 3- leave it. Simple :)

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My parents have two different religions and they've been married for almost 30 years now. It's not always a deal breaker. But for you it might be. This is a question of your beliefs. Just remember pick your fights wisely.

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I was with a guy whose whole family was super religious. I was not. at all. however to be nice, and try to take an active interest in something he liked I did go to church with him and his family on sundays. I wanted to shoot myself the whole time mind you, but I did go. Now that I think about it later, I could have opted to offer to go once or twice a month instead of every week. Truth is, in relationships each of the people will end up doin stuff they really don't want to do, but it's about compromise. Tell him how you feel- don't let the feelings build and fester, and ask him if he would be willing to meet you half way.

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just stay with him and don't break up, only if it starts to become a big deal just go about ur relationship like it was b4 u found out

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stick the bible up his butt then he will believe in god

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Try to understand him invite him to church stuff and get him too see the side of you that loves God and he may want to be apart of that

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I was in the same boat too. My boyfriend was Catholic and I was atheist. However, being with him so much, I changed my beliefs (not guaranteeing that the same will happen to him). Religion preferences should not be important as long as he supports you and you support him.

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don't try to change him, accept it. if you actually end up getting married that's the only time you;ll have to worry and talk to him about it

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Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.

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If you truly love someone then you shouldn't care about their religious beliefs.

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