Spanking will only exacerbate the problem, don't spank for bedwetting, they don't know what they did wrong, and even if they did know, it only makes the mental block worse. Simply don't spank for bedwetting, ever. Now, as afar as the bedwetting thing, there are a lot of places to find info to help stop it-it's not a new problem for sure! BTW boys wet the bed more than girls.
You should try talking to your husband about it. Tell him that spanking the child every time he wets the bed is not the solution. You should have patience for the child to outgrow this stage. Try rewarding for those he tries not to wet the bed.
Spanking is not an option. That will only make the situation worse.
Before you go to bed, get your son out of bed and bring him into the bathroom. If he is awake enough, he will go on his own. If he is still in a sleepy stupor, you will need to pants him and have him sit on the toilet until he goes.
Depending on his age, which you didn't provide , I would sit that son down and have a serious talk with him . Spanking isn't going to solve the problem! Work with him and protect the bed and have him wear something like a Depends or something and maybe a little embarrassment and coaching and he will grow out of it ! Sometimes kids are scared to get up and go to the bathroom and sometimes it could be a medical problem. When my boys were young and did that, I had them wear diapers to bed for about a week and it stopped . Good Luck !
Some kids have a bed wetting problem .. Your husband spanking him only makes him feel worse .. No kid wants to wet the bed accidents happen .. As a parent he should understand .. Just get a plastic mattress cover... It could be do to stress or maybe he sleeps so hard.. It's hard for him to wake up .. Good luck plz don't spank him
Don't let you husband spank your son for this! A lot or kids bladders don't fully develop until they are much older so they have a tendency to wet the bed. I'm sure he does not do this on purpose...nobody wants to sit in their own urine. He just can't help it. How old is your son?
There are wetness activated alarm underpants that can help wake kids from deep sleep to go to the bathroom. Tell your husband that the intelligent do not make assumptions and that he should handle it more intelligently even if he was deliberately wetting.
your husband needs anger management . your son might be scared to go the bathroom at night no wonder . put a bucket in your son ' s room for that reason . maybe leave a light on . have him wear long underwear and more to keep that area WARM in case he cant HOLD it is the problem . also - maybe he has a bladder infection has that bin checked ( cranberry juice is good for that stuff ) . also : bed - wetting can be a cover story for child abuse ( go get a glass of water out of the bathroom to pour over the wet spot you wet the bed ) . and of course there ' s diapers . :)
If you are punishing him for wetting the bed he will probably 1)try to hide it which will cause a bigger mess and other problems. 2) make him never want to talk to you about his problems or what he did wrong. Because come on. If your child KNOWS he's about to get a butt whooping in the morning do you really think he's going to go happily to you every morning and confess that he's made a mess? Or will he lay in bed, soiled, scared to go face the day and deal with a problem that should be taken care of with a gently hand and love. You think he likes laying in piss? No. Be a good parent and help your son before you make him never want to be open with you and fear you for the rest of his childhood that will lead into him pushing you away MORE in his teen years.
Well first they sell these plastic cover for bed in case that happends but it is late for you. 2 don't give him liquit two hrs before bed time. 3 make sure he goes to the bath room before bed. One question how old is he?
Bed wetting in children is very common and most out grow it by age 10-12. You should talk to your child's pediatrician about it. There are a lot of things that can cause it but it's not something that a child does on purpose. Try waking him on last time before you go to bed to urinate and no liquids after 5pm. If that doesn't work try setting an alarm for him so he can get up in the middle of the night to go. You might have to do this two or three times a night. Also have him hold his urine a little during the day to help strengthen his muscles. Not for long periods and start with very brief periods which you can increase as his bladder becomes stronger. Do NOT punish him. It's not something he can control and it would just cause more shame.
How old is he? If he's two or three, he doesn't really understand how to stop it. If he's seven or eight, you should probably spank him for it. Or threaten to take away privileges like video games, computer, and TV. If he's too young, spanking him isn't going to accomplish anything. Explain to him that if he wakes up in the middle of the night, he can get up and use the bathroom. He may just not know what to do. One way to prevent this problem is to not let him drink anything before going to bed. Then make him use the bathroom just before ping to sleep. Stop the accidents before they happen.
1 year ago
Last edited at 5:30PM on 4/22/2013
Oh my good GOD! I don't even know your son, but I would lay money on this not being done on purpose.
Who does that? Who would even suggest that?
For the love of all that is good DO NOT PUNISH HIM BY SPANKING!!!... Do you have ANY idea about much trauma induced psychological damage that can be done by spanking him for something he literally can not control? He is NOT doing this to be defiant. My guess is he is already embarrassed by it. He already KNOWS he's not supposed to do it.
In fact, with the mentality of your husband threatening to punish him causes enormous stress and increased trust issues for the little guy. He's already dealing with enough stress at it is... And this stress the threat of being spanked is ADDING to the problem.
Give the kid a benefit of a doubt ... Have him checked by your doctor .. And do some research about problematic bed wetting.
Geesh .. Spanking him for this .. For something he has NO control over, would be like spanking him because of his hair color!
He can't help it. Spanking will make it worse. I went through this with my son. Please don't do that to your child. He will outgrow this. Some take longer than others. Have some patience for his sake, please.
What you should do is stand up to your husband and tell him not to lay a hand on your child! I read that a large majority of boys who wet the bed have a fear of the father figure in their life... Guessing this could be part of the problem. I really hope you can apply some of this advice as fuel to protect your son, clearly it's wrong what your husband is doing.
U both should have a talk with ur son and most children wets their bed because they are afraid of someone or something. If ur son still wets the bed u should put plastic fitting around his bed and u could also have him use diapers. Of course it depends on his age. Just a suggestion^_^
11 months ago
Last edited at 8:55PM on 5/4/2013
My 10 year old grandson just stopped wetting the bed. We never made a big deal or embarrassed him about it. We took him to the pediatrician and she determined that he slept to hard to wake up when he had to pee. First of all at age 7 we had him stop drinking after 7:00 p.m at night and pee before he went to bed. We also had a stretchy sheet on his bed that was waterproof on one side and light blanket material on the other. He also wore depends every night.When he still was wetting and not getting up, she put him on a low dose of medication, and we begun to wake him up at 2:00 a.m. We still did everything else described above also. There was a small decrease in the amount of wetness but not much so she doubled the medication, and we still woke him up every night. He was still wetting but not as much, so she upped the dose another 50% and we started setting the alarm and he started waking himself up and going to the bathroom. After 2 years of the medication and routine he is now no longer wetting the bed. He is off all medication and still gets himself up every night at 2:00 a.m to pee.