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I'm bullied at school for how I dress, how I look and what I listen to.. I dress the way I want, as long as I don't show off too much skin(My mother is against that, and I'm happy she is. I don't want to look like a whore.) But, I've been bullied for a while. I'm a freshmen now.. Is there anyway to stop getting bullied? I've tried telling the teacher, but the teacher is a damn Softball coach, and he favors the softball players. So, if I tell him, he won't do a thing. I've tried ignoring them, but it got worse. I ended up crying in a bathroom stall during my first hour yesterday.. Does anyone have any ideas about dealing with this? I don't want to fight, I'd rather not get a ticket and to keep a clean record. If you're wanting a better picture of how I look/dress, click these;
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To be perfectly honest, it doesn't even matter how you dress or what you look like. I was a bullied child too. At age 12, it was so bad I tried to kill myself. You know, as stupid as this is going to sound, one of my worst bullies and I became friends literally overnight. It was outside of school where this hotel used to hold teen dance parties. I was so scared of him that when he came near me I actually cried. He felt awful, and told me he was just kidding around in front of his friends. That he never knew it hurt me like that. From that I learned to be more honest with people. Certainly I do not suggest crying in the middle of school and more often then not honesty can sometimes at first seem to make matters worse. But eventually it does earn you a loyal fan base and other people in your position will tend to gravitate towards you because your strong. Although it may not look good in a popularity department, having a support group to turn to does make things easier. One thing I do notice is that bullies tend to be bullied. I began to shift my thinking that I shouldn't take what they say to me defensively or offencively. Really its more about them and their inability to cope with something, or jealousy that you can do something they can't. Example: you have self-respect as shown in your ability to not dress a certain way for attention. And you have self-worth enough not to let them change your mind about it. Your smarter, prettier, and braver then they are and although it will never be admitted out of their mouths, you terrify them. So they feel the need to terrify you back in hopes that you break, and no longer pose a threat to their happy existence. Its not fear or sadness for yourself you should feel, really its THEIR patheticness and changing your thoughts from victim to empathizer may help you clear your head of the hatred they spew. One other point, pick your battles. Sometimes walking away and ignoring is your best bet, and if you start responding physically it just ups the anti. You are right not to fight. But set hard limits and boundaries, and make them known. Set your consequences and follow thru even if the results may not be favorable at first. Be consistant with them. A rule for me always was: I don't care what dirty name or sound you make. You touch me, I call the police. I do not care who your friends/parents/coaches are. It works. Although the football team was mad to lose a player, no one touched me after that. Some even became downright polite. Consistency is the key to standing your ground. Eventually they get the hint. I wish you the best of luck and Ill give you the best thing I ever learned in life. While in HS being different is akin to sin, when you hit college it becomes godly ;-)

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im sorry youre getting bullied :/ but if its really that bad at school maybe you should look into online school? I know people say face your fears but its hard to do that if youre alone..

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I've tried, but my mom won't let me.
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Any Charter Schools? It's not technically online cuz you are at an actual school? And it's still a public school.
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just tell them i am who i am and ur not in charge of what i do. and they also bully u because of how u react. just tell someone instead of ignoring. go visit a counselor. it doesnt matter if they say that ur a tattle tell or a snitch. or if u have friends tell them wats going on... if they were ur real friends they would really stand up for u.

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They don't try telling a counselor or principal try to jang out with people who accept you and use them for help sorry hang

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Tell the principles, consoler or a trusted adult. Also stand up for yourself. Most people are spineless and aren't true to their selves.

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Be yourself.No matter where you go in life,there are always gonna be @ssholes.You need to try and rise above them.Personally,I think there is only one way to deal with bullies...but schools these days from upon knocking people out.If you can't work anything out through talking to teachers or these other students maybe switch classes or something like that.

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I can't switch classes this late in the school year, but thank you.
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This is the best advice I can give you, and I hope it helps you be yourself
Everyone else is taken

~ Oscar Wilde

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I am sorry you are being bullied for being an individual and your own person. Please let your principal know. If he/she doesn't do anything to stop it go to the school board with your parents. You may feel better at a different school or being home schooled. Bullying isn't right but sometimes seems to be a rite of passage for some kids. Hang in there and remember there are many of us out here pulling for you.

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i think you look beautiful :o people are just stupid, dont listen to them. i know how you feel too, i listen to the same stuff, dress the same way and what not. except im fat, so im sure i get it worse than you. i am also a freshman. people spit on me literally because of the way i dress and because im loud, overweight and whatever the hell else. we only have 3 years of school left :3 just hang in there and forget about the rest of the world. try to find people in your school the listen to the same music and dress similar. it help the blow not be so bad because you know there is more people like you :3 i could say so much to this.. haha well if you need someone my kik is vanessababe33 if you want to talk. id be there for anyone. c:

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I'm kinda fat too, but I don't get bullied for that anymore, because of the people who bully me are bigger than me. But thank you. c:
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you are very welcome :3 like i said, kik me anytime you need someone.. im one of those people who understand because ive been through just about everything :p lol
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You need to look in the mirror everyday and point out how beautiful you are. Don't use terms that they use. And when they do those things, try to turn it into a positive. Sometimes turning around, with a big smile, and say "yeah I could use a little gym time" and laugh it off, messes with their heads more then u can imagine. Its not so funny to them if you become part of the laughing, not the laughed at. The spitball thing surprises me since that's so... 4th grade. Maybe reminding them that they are adults now, or should be acting more so, will help the problem.
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^^^ <3 no words lol
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@sundancr1213 Agreed!
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I just ignore those people, not worth your time! :)

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Ignore them and stop crying and giving the bullies what they want

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If you a close relationship with your parents, thats a start.

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Same reasons here I've been bullied since 1st grade and it hasn't changed since everyone hates me for no reason. You absolutely are beautiful to me.

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They don't hate you. I just commented to some one else that actually, they probably like you. Think about it: you are their topic of conversation. Probably more popular then they are. Its actually jealousy more than hatred. Whatever you do seems to make the news and whatever they do is a whole bunch of nothin. I know it doesn't make what they say feel any less hurtful, but sometimes it can help to realize how pathetic their life, or even how sad their life, really is. Somebody is hurting them. That is the truth. You'd be surprised at the people they really are when you catch them without their peers. Generally lonely and isolated. And misery loves company. Don't let their insecurity make you feel hated. Truth is, you have or are what they want or want to be. Be thankful, some one is hurting them a lot worse.
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Embrace your difference. Let them know you won't change for anybody. I've had the same problem all my life and now, after high school, I'm being noticed for my differences. If it really bothers you tell your teachers and they will make sure that the bullies are not sat near you.

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Go at those bastards who are messing with u

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stand up for your self ,try to get one alone ; lock the doors and kick butt.

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If the school refuses to help you, report it to the police/sheriff. Document all that is said and done. record on your phone if possible. Bullying is illegal. I know it's rough right now, and may feel that it will never end. Hang in there, and realize that those who bully generally have low self worth/have been abused themselves. (Not justifying just saying)

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Just ignore them. As hard as it seems, go along with their bullying. Pretend like it has no effect on you. If you need more advice feel free to email me. Info on my page

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Tell someone on the school board and report the teacher who hasn't done anything. I'm getting tired of people telling us in Ask that teachers do nothing. They're required to investigate. You didn't say what the bullies are saying. Is there any truth in their comments?

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Say to the bully "you don't like how I am fine I don't get up everyday to impress you!"

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Even sometimes saying, "I think you do like me. What I do is of great interest to you. No no keep talking about me. I love being the center topic of your conversations. I feel the love." Good way to shut them up. Generally they don't even have the ability to think of a response. If they do say something back, follow up with "Hey, Im really popular. Y'all can't shut up about me". Gets em every time.
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HAHA smooth way to get rid of em i highly suggest these :D
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Don't fight. It wont make things better, just worse. Ignore them as best you can. I know your just a freshman but give yourself some time. Try walking different ways to classes or from classes. Don't change yourself from being something your not. 4 years fly by!

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Well, the walking to and from classes, I have no problem with. Their in my classes, that's the problem.
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there comes a time when you have to introduce your fist to their face.

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Sounds fun for the moment, not worth the ticket in the end.
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Ignore them. Well, we have counselors in our school so if you have one.... ask them! But sometimes, things get worse when u tell the counselor so......

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tell them haters gonna hate and Yolo it your life live it your way

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Be my girl i will protect you....hehe jk.And tbh u are doing the right thing.I really appreciate the way u behave,please,just dont give a single flying fuck to the bitches who say u should wear this u should wear that.seriously,they are just posers and want to walk with their head up by putting down awesome girls like u.It happens,its a stage in every girl/guys life,teenage.Its pretty sad ppl get bullied.To get rid of this,either report to your parents and let them handle it(if you are one of them who feels doing so is running away then nvm)or like i said just dont give a fuck and walk with your head up cuss i find you the better one here,YES u are.You are rejecting what the bullies want u to do and you win in it till now.So just keep doing what u doing and find friends with the same interest as you.Hangout with them,kids who walks alone are the ones most vulnerable to bulling so yea find some good friends and stick to them.Friends are always a motivation in your life,spending time with them in school can help to ignore the comments of others(bullies)much more easily cuss its not just u who agree with u but a bunch of other kids.I wish you good luck and btw u are so pretty :).Bye

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Ignore them and stay strong btw sorry your getting bullied :(

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say something back dang.make fun of them your a big girl you can do things on your own.

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seriously?Why are you here?to help or become an other bully? lol
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lol but i'm not a bully I just don't like people getting bulled I stand up for a lot of people.
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then try to help instead of saying you can do things on your own,if someone can do then why ask in the first place...
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and my first comment,might sounded like i am yelling,no was just tired and ya know.
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you can do thinks on your own girl( nice talking ).I diffident know I could In tell my Big Mama said " I DIDENT RAISE NO PUNK if some makes fun of you you need to make fun of them If some punch you then you beat the hell out of them If someone pushes you in the hall you push them harder.Defend yourself ( nice talking ) '' and now people know NOT to mess with me(:
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should said that in the answer not now foo
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what's awful is that there really isn't much you can do. when they're trying to put you down, just smile as if its amusing. if they ask you why you're smiling just say "you're just so pathetic" then walk away. I know what its like stay strong :)

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i had some issues with being bullied this year as well, and i know that u have tried to ignore them, but that's what i did, and yes it was really hard... and it just made me even more mad, trying to bit my tongue... but after a few days of not saying anything, it gets better. they just bug you to get the reaction. if you have to, just laugh at what they are saying, just be like, 'oh, thank you!!' just surround yourself with you friends. ignore the people who aren't.

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Don't be a wuss FIGHT THEM.The way you dress looks laid back and emo so... a clean record REALLY?FIGHT THEM

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"Laid back and emo." .. You do realize, I get called emo at school? And that's how I'm being bullied, your comment has to be the stupidest one. And yes, I want a clean record, so I have a good job and lead on a happy life. Oh, fight them? No. I'm a wuss? Dumbass. It's called being grown-up.
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forget them tell to go get a life and too tell them to leave you alone or you can do what i would do punch in the face :)

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sorry to say this but u kind of deserve it cause ur mom dosent like the way u r dressed and u dont care

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Dafuq does THAT mean?????
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Excuse me? My mom, loves the way I dress. At least I don't dress like a street walker, and I keep myself covered up. So, go back and fix your facts, girl.
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Damn right!
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It's okay, honey, you shouldn't think about what other people say. They're just envious because you have the BALLS to walk up in that hellhole people call "school" and be you. You are an amazing person. We are all amazing people on the inside. But you seem to be the only in that school to let it out. Only one. But if people also express their indivduality along with, baby, that's GREAT. But you are something else. You probably look cute walking into that school, got you jacket or your glasses or whatever the hell you wear. You look confident, sassy, happy. But those people don't want that. Well, let me tell you THIS: if any of those peanut heads come around the corner, messing with you....confront them. And if the DARE lay a hand on you, swing away. But baby, you have got to stand up to those brainless losers. They don't like you because you're confident about what you wear you wear. They think that if you don't look like them, you're a dweeb. You just be you, and ignore those dumb-ass noobs. they suck. You keep being you, okay, sugar? Okay. Good. Sorry, I just get so worked up about this.

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stand up to them it is nothing wrong with the way that you dress trust me i know people use to bullies me all the time but they dont ene more.

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dont let know body tell you that your clothes is ugly and that they are old lady clothes you got your style and they have they style.
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Be strong...besides,they shouldn't bullying you.have you ever ask them the reason for bullying you?

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If you change the way you dress all your gonna do is let them think they have control over you.. Wear what you like and if they keep bullying you have you considered going to a higher position in the shcool about it? You should stand up to them. No one can tell you what is right or wrong to wear..Be yourself and tell them to goto hell

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Tell a different teacher. Someone you know cares for students. There is also nothing wrong with the way you dress.I actually dress similar to that. Be who you want to be. If the way you look like is the way you like to look, then stay that way. Don't change for anyone else.
I wish I was going to your school, I would give them a piece of my mind. I've been bullied and I know how it feels.

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