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Does doing this make a guy gay or should this make him feel like he has to keep it a secret?

So thing is, I caught my cousin ( Jackson ) playing with one of his younger sisters dolls. ( like the ones with a lot of hair that your suppose to play with. he was playing with that. and when I walked in he threw it all down off the table onto the floor and screamed at me get out. and I refused to leave and he ran over and closed the door and swore he would tell me as long as I kept this a secret from the rest of the family. he likes to do hair, like a cosmetologist type thing, he loves it. he showed me that he's taken about several of his sister(s) dolls and things to do the hair on them. ( curling the hair; straightening it; combing it; etc. ) he used like his moms or sisters straighteners or curling iron when they weren't there. and he doesn't want me to tell anyone. cause he feels like people will think differently of him. he's not gay ( if anybody was thinking that, he has a gf ) but do you think he should be ashamed? like if that's what he likes to do shouldn't he embrace it? be happy he found what he likes to do? instead of hiding it. and being unsure.

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Um no, if he has a girlfriend he is quite obviously not gay. To have a talent for Cosmetology (official name for the profession of hairstyling and such) isn't wrong, he shouldn't be ashamed at all. There are a ton of guys who are straighter than a street pole, who are great cosmetologists. Tell him it's fine, he's perfectly normal, everybody has different talents. His is Cosmetology, and there is nothing wrong with it, no matter what anyone else says.

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just tell him not to worry about it, plus, a lot of women like it when a guy can do something elegant like hairstyling, so it earns him points there.
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It sounds like he just has a sensitive side. :0)

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Maybe he likes to do hair?

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Lol you didn't answer the question.
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You have male hairstylists :P

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Thank you!! He doesn't think guys should be hairstylist... Idk why. Even though he likes to do that stuff!
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Show him some examples, but make sure they're not gay or anything.
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Well doesn't sound he is gay probably just mean that he likes girl stuff I personally would like to be able to do hair for my girlfriend and help her with her girl stuff that way she and I could spend more time together and understand each other.

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Oh yeah he should be proud it's not a talent most guys have and many women would much rather have a man do their hair.

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I don't think it is "Gay" but I do believe that he might have a talent that he doesn't want to show because he is afraid of false accusations like being call a Homosexual

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He should definitely embrace it! It makes him who he is! Screw hose who think differently of him, if its what he likes, it's what he likes! NOBODY has to like what he likes. Besides, there are tons of men hairstylists/cosmetologists. (: I say embrace it and just scream it to the world.

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Lol oops I meant to type those
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He shouldnt be ashamed that he like to do hair, it doesnt mean he's gay. He just has soft side. Even if he is gay, its ok. Sounds like he trusts you, so continue to be a good friend and if he ever needs to tell someone he will know he can talk to you about it. Sounds like he was defensive when you caught him playing with the doll, so he might be. Good luck

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my uncle is a male hair stylist

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Well he likes doing hair that's cool it's also a plus for when he's getting the ladies

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How old are you guys

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I'm 16, and he's 14 going on 15 in about 3 weeks.
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Yeah have had my hands in thousands of women's hair over the years never played with dolls, but 25 years and believe me , not gay

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Maybe he will be a great hairdresser in the future I'm not sure all male hairdressers are gay. He may or may not be, time will tell, but don't you tell, it's not up to you and you might make an enemy or change his life for the worse. Telling will not change anything for you except for the way he or others see you, as someone they cant trust with personal information so please don't move on.

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