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Would you tell your fiance?

You feel his family is using him?(if they really are)

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Truth isn't always easy, but honesty needs to be present at all times if you are to form a union. Be wise, be gentle, not accusing. His family will always be present... don't cause enemies. Possibly say "I think you always put others first, which is one reason I love you. I'm here to put you first & take care of you, & I think your family is used to you putting yourself last. For us to have a healthy relationship of our own, I think you should say no sometimes...." for ex. That way he sees it's because you care. Just be careful what you say & how. Use nice soft tones... you do need to be able to communicate.

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This was very helpful! Thank you..
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Your welcome, best wishes.
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If you guys are about to get married, they shouldn't be any purposely kept secrets in between you guys. Just sit him down, and calmly and rationally tell him what you think. I hope I helped!

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Thanks! I just don't want to hurt is feelings.. He has a really big heart! But I appreciate your comment! Thanks again!
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By all means that's what married people do. Share their feelings and look out for one another. If your family was using you wouldn't you want him to tell you.

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Good point:) thanks
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If he truly loves him he will listen to you , but if he gets mad he will like break up with you it's a hard choice

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Honesty is the best policy. Don't keep anything from him and just tell him, nicely. Say "I love you very much. I don't like to see you in pain or being manipulated. I think that your family has been manipulating you a bit. You are so sweet and kind, and I understand you. I feel that you should be a little less soft around your family. I wanted to tell you the truth. It's hard, and if you're mad, I understand," for instance. Don't use words like "push-over" or "using" because that may offend him. Best of luck!

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