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Is my relationship in trouble ?

Mine is a love marriage. But my husband had a girlfriend before me and i know all that story. Now he love's me very much and we are happy. But 4 months back he traveled abroad. Everyday his ex girlfriend chat with him and tells, she still like him and she is not happy with her husband and family. She even asks him does he still like her.
My husbands tells all their conversation to me. But am scared if this will lead to some problem in future. Please help me.

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How many red flags do you need,

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I agree with you 100 %. !
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I'm thinking she needs to put Romeo in the doghouse.
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Or on the curb ?
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lol :)
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Gotta get back to work, I'll be on later :)
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I know you busy so I won't bother you , but how are you doing this morning ? It's raining in the South and looks like its raining where you are .
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Nice and sunny my way. :)
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I'm doing much better than yesterday. I'll talk to you later.
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Will be looking forward to it !
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no,your husband told you about all the conversations they had so that means he still loves you & only you.but if he would have kept it a serect then you marriage could be in trouble,but since he told you no your fine

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Thank U :)
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no problem
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If your husband loves you and your marriage is built on trust, then you don't need to worry. You need to be happy because your husband opens up to tell you everything that involves their conversion which most men don't do. However, you need to warn him to cut communication with the ex for the sake of your marriage.

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I respect what your husband did, i do really. Only few do that now days BUT we have a say that goes like that : nagging on the ear is more powerful than magic" what if her nagging pay off one day! then what!! i think you should tell him that you feel this may cause you tow troubles in the future. She has her own life, whether she likes it or not she has no right to mess up yours.

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welcome :) hope it goes well for you
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Laid back.Trust in a relation is a big thing so if trust on your husband nothing will happen.

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wc. :)
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I think your husband still love and respect you alot. If he is still interested in his ex-girl friend, he would not have let you know about it. he stil appreciate you.

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Thanks for ur reply.
Yes i know he loves me a lot. But as BLUE LIFE commented, this may lead to some problem in future. So i was thinking whether to tell him not to speak with her or not .
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yes trust your husband, him telling you go's to show he loves you but him just like everyone we all have temptations and it looks like she is interested in your husband so talk to your husband about how you feel. if he respects you, he'll understand ...good luck!

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Your husband needs to tell his "ex" to stop trying to talk with him regularly, and to stop trying to lure him into a relationship. Tell your husband that the "ex's" behavior, and his willingness to go along with it, are hurtful and inappropriate.

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you need to tell him to cut all contact with her... she made her choice he did too both are married now he needs to respect you......

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He don't approach her. Since they both work in same company, She can always ping him in office communicator, which he can't avoid.
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shes crossing the line and your husband should not be talking about personal things especially to another woman.... maybe your husband isn't being completely honest with you...if he tells her to please stop and she doesn't thats consider sexual harassment... if that lady is unhappy with her marriage she should get a divorce not going to your husband
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hmmm... ok..
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im just saying thats my opinion..... good luck
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ok. Thank u once again :)
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Since your husband is being honest with you, it is ok to trust him. But the one I would not trust, is his ex. I question why is she calling him and talking to him about her relationship problems. Talk to your husband and tell him her behavior is making you feel uncomfortable and ask him if he would not talk to her so much. Or you could also ask him, to only talk with her over the speaker phone with you there. This is giving you respect and this would give the ex the message, he is with you and not her. Good luck

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Thanks for ur reply :)
But my hubby is not with me now.. He traveled abroad.. I will be joining him in 3 or 4 months.
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If you tell him he has to stop communication with her it may get his back up. Why not explain to him that it worries you & you don't want your world collapsing because she has feelings for him. Explain that she has no place in your life & while she was part of your husbands past, that's where she should stay. If you demand of him he may close the lines of communication to you & that's when she may see a weak link & step up her hunt to catch him, so play it cool & say how she makes you feel not blaming your husband for her wanting him.

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Thanks a lot for ur reply.
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Good luck & I hope this woman backs off. It may be a good idea to remember that while he's innocent he will continue telling you but if he compromises himself I think you will find he stops the honesty. You said they work at the same company. That makes it abit to cosy doesn't it.
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Hmmm yes. But i too work in same company .. Now she is in offshore and he s at onshore. And i will be joining him in 4 months.
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That sounds like a good plan of attack. The only other option I could think of was to report her for using internal messaging devices for her own personal agenda. Not very professional under the circumstances.
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hmm hmm :) I think , i can stop him speaking with her once i join him :) otherwise this will be the last option for me ... Thanks for the tip :)
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I wish you a happy loving life with your husband & may the has been of yesteryear realize that she is of no value in the here & now. Good luck.
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thanx :) :) :)
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You are his wife and have the right to ask him to stop communicating. And as your husband he should do what you ask...period.

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