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Is being in a relationship with someone scary!

Like im 18 soon and still single im scared of letting anyone in because of the way i am and the way i look ,and i havent done (you know what i mean ) im waiting for the right man but maybe im not the right figure for anyone , when i think about all of that i just cry ,,, i hate the way i am and i dont think ill ever change .. they always leave me and the last realtionship i was in he punched me because i didnt do what he sed ...

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Being in relationship is not scary at all, everyone in this world have their right person & it takes time to find, there's something wrong with this somewhere, it's YOU or THEM, First, when you come in relationship its about sharing feelings, being together they're not your boss to order you to do anything, they can ask you, & when we are in relationship doing something is about "Respect" let's see what make a strong relationship, "Respect" "Patient" "Sharing" "Loving right" & honestly you gotta find out, or you really don't know what do you have to do in relationship & you doing something wrong about it, or you Just choosing wrong guys & you have been in alot relationships ? SO EXACTLY that's the problem, why you having relationship ? for Love ? or Just having a Guy ? being in a Relationship it's not by choosing it's by chance, I don't know you personally but i assure you if you don't figure out Which is the problem, your Personality or your choices , this way you having will keep,

Good Luck :)

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i just suppose me having a lot of realtionships is just so everyone know im not alone , but now i just cant trust anyone , because the last lad i was with i reallly loved him but he kept hitting me , so i got rid :(
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let me ask you something Why you have to be in relationship ? you're coming around wrong guys so stop chasing guys stop being in relationship , live your life relationship is gonna happen by chance, you're making mistake in the way you are
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ive already made mistakes :( it makes no diffrence ..... i just dont want to be alone , if you know what i mean
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'm your friend & i wanna help you & if I'm talking some mean cause I seeing the problem is yourself , you doing so cruel to yourself, whatever you passed in your life I can't judge you cause i know your name not your story but the fact is , you looking guys like a toy,you Just don't care who they are , I can feel it, whoever come hot, whoever come cute, whoever Just care you & say little sweet words you gonna date with them & that's it you're not in love with them you're hanging with them to Just experience them, to Just have good time with them it's not love, when you looking that way, be sure they're looking that way too, they come in relationship with you, after while they had their fun & they'll go & after this as you saying you were in alot of relationship but you they left you, cause you making wrong loosed into relationship & you're not in love with guys you've coming to date, they don't love you neither they Just come to Just be with you for while cause this is the way you looking at them y& if you keep this way it will hurt you much more & more, stop it, as I seeing in your profile you clearly said you love dating Cute lads LOL this is funny, you don't expect love , you're hanging around them cause you guys sex is different, cause they're boy you're girl & you have Excuse to you don't want to be alone so every guy you meet in street & they say sweet words to you, tomorrow you dating them, so you shouldn't be sad why they leaving you, cause they coming to find a girl to Just hang out little while have fun then go & that;s cause you choosing that kind of guys so don't expect to love you too as much as you want, cause you have not that feeling for them, as old says, whoever you be & you live, all persons in your around will be like you but Just double & stronger, & let tell you I'm single for 4 years after my girlfriend died am i alone now ? the way you looking at relationship is wrong make yourself right & think about what I've said & don't destroy your future,
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Awh im sorry about your girlfriend and yeah i have that in my profile , should i change it hahah ,, i dont mean to be like obsessed in lads but some people just dont understand , i wasn in a realtionship about 5 month ago he sed he loved me and everthing , i reallly liked him , we used to talk on the phone everynight and then he texted me saying i dont want 2 be together anymore we just aint working , and i was heartbroken and upset , i think i cryed my self to sleep that night , because it was out 4 time going , and this time it really was over forever , ive been trying not to think about it and moving on , i did move on only to my cousions boyfriend who i kissed by mistake , he sed he loved me , but he kept hitting me if i didnt tell my cousion what we were doing , he was really nasty . but i kept going back , as i said i made mistakes something i will not do again and thankyou for taking your time replying it means a lot , and yeessh im your friend too XD
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Thank you for feeling, Just stop doing what do you doing, since you go & choosing guys It will comes all wrong guys , if you looking for true love you gotta wait to happen by itself :)
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Okay when will it happen when im in my 30s or summet , im sorry :(
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hahah no one suppose to be alone don't worry but trust this was you're going is not good for you neither, & can i ask you why you hurry to be with someone ? you're still 18 , I can't believe you this is your thoughts, & if you find your true love in 30s is much better when you got 30s you see yourself you've been with more 500 guy & already you have no one beside,
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Ahhh well i dont reallly know , because everyone one i know has someone, but i have my family thats IT!!! ,. and i dont turn 18 till this tuesday coming....:)
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oh my god how you both people type so much do both have such time to write down
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ahahaha , well im pretty good at typing lol . and yesh sometime i tend not to read , but if its important then i will lol :)
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cool.... !!! ^_^
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hahah
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hahahaha i can also laugh lol
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Its scary at first but then if the person is right for you then you'll feel like dancing on rainbows if not and you feel insecure then just leave and im sure another person would loe to be yours and your beautiful dont forget it

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ive been in a lot of realtionships but i havent ( you know what i mean ) and im just ashamed because they leave me when i dont do what they say .. last person i was seeing because i wouldnt do what he asked me to do he punched me :( and now i just cant seem to let anyone in anymore :(
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You're putting the cart before the horse. In the immortal words of RuPaul: "If you can't love yourself, how in the HELL you gonna love someone else? Can I get an amen?" You have to believe you are as deserving of love as anyone else (and, at the very least, deserving of people who WON'T hit you). If it helps, you are not alone. An unimaginable amount of people, especially your age, struggle with self-esteem and identity issues. It passes. Getting out of the toxic environment of high school is the first step. And MANY more people your age haven't done "you know what" than would admit it. For those who have, the experience was likely underwhelming at best. And I haven't seen you, but it doesn't matter what you look like. You are somebody's perfect type, physically and otherwise. Be patient and try to learn to love yourself. You have all the time in the world for the right guy to come along. In answer to your question: it is both the least and most scary thing you will ever know....until you have kids. Best of luck to you, and cyberhugs:)

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Awh thanks and yeah i havent gotton round to putting my pic up yet but when i do u will see me , i just scared i cant let anyone in and i havent spoken to anyone about it , there rushing me to find love but i just dont think im ready :(
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Are you kidding me?! You're the bravest person your age I've encountered on this site in a long time! Also among the most articulate. It takes a lot of courage to bare your feelings like you have, AND to seek love. Plenty of people settle for empty, meaningless relationships because they lack a fraction of the courage you have. You're going to be just fine. I just know it:)
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Ah but how do you know that ?! . Awh thankyouuu!!! . Thats very kind :) ..... Realtionships are hard anyways .. i just give up!!
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you shouldn't give up because of mistakes you have made. You have to learn from them and grow to be the strongest woman you can be though them.
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awh yeah your probley right , i once said i never give up , but its hard trying not to these days :/
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Believe me I know Like I said about my one and only I can't give up or I will never be happy like I am destined to be.
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Yes thats very true , ill try anyways :D
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That's the spirit!!! XD
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Hehehe :)
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Just got back from work, so in answer to your question about how I know, just call it a hunch;)
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Ahhh okaaay :))
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I have a lot of Respect for you right now. Not many people are willing to wait but you will have to be patient, but you still have to grow as a person that way when you stumble on your one and only you will be mature enough to handle the hardships that are inevitably to follow.

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thanks for the advice :)
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your welcome I had my one and only and She has slipped through my fingers.
so Good luck to you.
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awh thanks and that goos to hear too , good luck to you both for the future :D
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thanks you too
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also always remember that you are always beautiful and your one and only will always see that beauty no matter what happens so you must be patient.
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Awh thankyou , and yes ill try to be patient and everytime i think that im beautiful people always put me down , i mean i have no pic of me yet , so u wont know what i look like to comment yet!! XD
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outer beauty has never sealed the deal for me just by talking to you I know that you are very beautiful on the inside and any outer beauty that you have is a bonus. ^_^
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awwh :') . thats sweet and thankyou , you seem like a really nice person to talk to :)
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Why thank you :D I do enjoy talking to you too.
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ahaha same :)
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where are you from if you don't mind me asking?
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Uk wbu :) ??
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that's what I thought I live In Florida, USA.
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ahhhh....cool :) x
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Yeah it's about to get hotter than hel here. How is the weather there?
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Sometimes its sunny , and sometimes it rains , its a bit of both these days ...
were coming into spring :)
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Yeah it's about to skip spring here and dive right into summer. Xb
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ahhh lucky youu , hehe , well we wont be far behindd youu ,, x
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Well, that last guy was obviously abusive and didn't deserve you. You need to learn to discern, and be able to tell whether or not someone is really worth it. And if they are, they won't care about your body. Just find the right guy, and stay away from the bad ones.

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thankyouuu and yehh ill try to stay away from the bad ones , but you dontt know which is the bad one thats my question!
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Try to pay attention to their actions, because usually you can tell.
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Okaaay, thankyouuu:))
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