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Should i change the way i look to stop people from putting me down :(

All my family says i dont need to change who i am , because im beautiful the way i am..... some of the teenagers where i go there always putting me down , theres a groups of lasses where i live , they start on me for no reason calling me a slag and a slut when im not , 1 of the lasses told me i need a face lift. and i need to get a life , i step out of my house and shes there i try to avoid her and her friends but she follows me everywhere.....its no wonder i dont have an confident as is it , they say i need to change my face or my hair or anything really , and im just depressed and upset .... .. i want it to stop but people just judge me ,

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Are YOU happy with the way you look? That's really all that matters.
If you're not, make some changes that YOU would like, not what anyone else says you should do.
If you're feeling down, get a new hairstyle, a cute outfit, a manicure... something that YOU like, that makes YOU feel good. Don't let them get to you, others' opinions aren't important. How you feel about yourself is what's important.
If you think some changes would make you feel better -- do it.
If you'd make changes ONLY to please others -- don't do it.
Your happiness, self-esteem & confidence come from within, not from what others think of you. :)

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Thank you... It's great to do things that make you feel better about yourself... NOT so great to change anything about yourself for someone else. :)
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No! Don't even think about it!

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1. Report it
2. Stand up for yourself
3. You don't need to change yourself
How many people are bullying you? Is it just this group?

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Yeah this group , they wont leave me alone , ive told my mum she said i have to ingore her .... thats what im trying to do ..
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That won't work. Do they attend your school? Tell the principle. Or you could try punching her in the face.
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ahaha noo ive left school im 17 and shes leaving this year... i mean i feel stupid because there a year younger than me :(
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It sounds like they are jealous...

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WHAT!! of me come on dont be daft!!
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Well this all seems unwarrented to me I think that they are insecure in themselves that they want to bring you down to thier level.
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Yeah its annoyin tho every where i walk shes there , i told of by her mum if i say anthing back to her...
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MrsBieber - It sounds to me like they are trying to raise their own self-esteem by tearing you down. That's what shallow, insecure people do. I would be willing to bet that no matter what you say or do it will continue because, at the heart of it, the problem isn't with you. It's with them. Don't let people like that get you down. find a core of friends and family that love and support you for who you are and focus your attention on them.
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thank you Kenny I just couldn't seem to put all of that in to print. :)
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awh yes and thankyou guys for replying :)
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No. That's a bad reason to change the way you look. If you want to change how you look to suit yourself, because YOU want to, then by all means. Don't go out of your way to try to please other people. You will quickly discover that you can never please them and you'll only make yourself miserable in the process.

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True Nuff...
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There are already so many copies in the world, but one original is worth more than a million of those copies. Do not change a thing, you are original. Stay true to yourself and remember that, you are beautiful just the way you are!

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No...you were made the way you are for a reason! And if you try to change the way you are and the way you act...you wouldn't be you...your personality is what makes you YOU...and nobody...and I mean nobody should change the way they act or look just cuz someone wants them to...just be you and if someone ditches you cuz you didn't change...then they never liked you in the first place :) stay strong!!! :)))

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Awh thankyou your advice means alot , *tear dropping* XD
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No problem :) I've been bullied many times too :/ but I've learned that you show them you don't care that they say that stuff to you...then they will eventually stop cuz they will see it isn't bothering you...:)
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awh well im just gonna ignore them anyways and try to move on :)
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God made you the way you are.Some people might think your beatuiful.Just be yourself. b e confident about who you are

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Sounds like they're jealous! Ignore them. They're the losers. Don't change yourself!

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No you're fine just the way you are if people don't like you then that's their I'm sure you're a friendly person

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Tell those girls to get a life. Start pointing out their flaws and hurt them for once. Make sure everyone knows they were picking in you and that they are bullies. Only then will they understand how stressful and hurtful it is to be picked on. Don't let it happen anymore. It never works to just go out and tell a teacher because in all honesty, they don't care. It's not their job to care according to them.

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Sounds like they are very jealous of you!
Ignore what they say forget about all of that mess!! They need to worry about their own selves.. instead of you do not change or do anything different for anyone else you are who you are if they do not like it oh well they will have to GET OVER it . :D simple as that. Dont be depressed about that..

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