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My friend is in the phase of entering a relationship with a boy who seems to have some pscychological problems. Her previous relation was broken tragically. The present guy is mentally disturbed and is under treatment .
He faced some tragic incident before and from then he developed the disease and is under treatment. He remains normal most of the time like ordinary guys but when he stops medicine he grows disturbed and at certain times little violent. My friend wants to proceed inspite of knowing all this and takes care of him when he is ill . What must be my suggestion ? Is she doing right thing after her first breakup ?
She is asking me whether she is choosing the right person . I dont know what to suggest her since I know she loves him , but because of the disease her life maybe spoiled again .
This disease is neurological. I dont know exactly but some fluid which connects two neurons change concentration when the person behaves abnormally.
Does anyone know of such better treatment for this disease ?

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I think that she should help him until he gets better and worry about dating later because he doesn't sound like he is in the position to help her. She would go through alot and the pain would be massive. I'd just tell her to give it time and don't be in any kind of rush to date again but still be there with him as a friend. He needs a good friend more than a girlfriend.

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okay. But they want to settle down after 1 year. I dont know what to say
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I would definitely tell them to wait and see how it goes. If they truly have feelings for each other then it can wait because they'll have the rest of their lives to spend together if it all works out.
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yes . Actually you cannot understand that guy is sick unless someone tells you before. I met that person but never understood he was sick until I was informed by my friend. Now we need a better treatment
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I'd Google it or ask another question on here about it. Also ask around because some people may know some places.
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Sorry that is one answer I do not know
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Yes she shouldn't reject him because he's different

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After such a tragic break up, it may be too much for her. I dont really know what to say, it sounds like he may need a friend but I dont want your friend to get hurt in the process for trying to be that friend or girlfriend.

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I think she needs to make her own mistakes. There are alot of "normal" guys out there. She chooses a sick person. She has a need to feel like she's needed and equates that to love.

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even I told her many normal guys are there. But she is insisting on him .What more can I say
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Don't tell her they are out there try to bring her to them or them to her so she can decide.
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Any suggestions where we can get proper treatment ?
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Two things to tell your friend:
1). Love is a choice.
2). You can't have a normal relationship with a dysfunctional partner... & he is dysfunctional.

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