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Leto32: 1 year ago via iPhone

What Do You Do If You Still Love Your Wife But Is Not "In Love" With Your Wife Anymore?

Been Married Five Years, Two Kids Later, It Just Does Not Seem To Be Working Anymore. I Would Hate To Get A Divorce And Do That To My Kids,( But My Mom Did It Twice )And I Just Don't See It Working Out.

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iAimtoPlz: 1 year ago via iPhone

If you're no longer in love with that person you're just going to end up hurting them more in the long run. You're kids would want their parents to be happy above all else. Although it may be hard at first it's best to not drag it out. Just make sure as parents you guys keep you're family together. Try your best to stay friends for your children. They come first.

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whywhy30: 1 year ago

Wise words ...:)

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amyd7777: 1 year ago via iPhone

Hang in there, for the kids .... You need to keep the family together until they graduate high school

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lady3303: 1 year ago via iPhone

That's a real nice thought but you honestly believe that immediately on graduation day or a childs 18th bday that they will all the sudden be able to handle or deal with divorce?

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amyd7777: 1 year ago via iPhone

No, but you model to them that you follow through and are accountable for your actions in life.

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HeresKitty: 1 year ago

Leto, every marriage hit the wall at one time or another. Kids, work, stress, both partners aging and changing. We all go through that. It is time to reassess the marriage and work on what is really the marriage. You and your wife. You both have probably started to neglect your personal relationship because of everything that's going on. You would probably be surprised to find she is probably feeling the same way. Time to talk it out, make some changes and start dating each other again.

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sasquatch7575: 1 year ago via iPhone

The best advice! What's all this "your kids would want you to be happy" BS -- and the answer was green thumbed?

Work on your marriage dude

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HeresKitty: 1 year ago

Haven't a clue. Raised 4 of em myself. Not once did I believe those cherubic little devils wanted me to be happy. go figure. {{{Scratching my head}}}

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marinewife0618: 1 year ago via iPhone | Last edited at 9:31PM on 10/26/2011

Go talk to someone together. If you have not told her your un happy tell her why. Try to bring the love back. I know it's super hard! My husband is gone more then he is home and we have 2 kiddos so I know date nights are hard and expensive! With babysitting (if you don't have family near by or a friend to trade with) but sometimes we put the kids to bed and pull out a game it gets us talking and laughing. Hope you can find something that works for the 2 of you

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CoolMom44: 1 year ago via iPhone

Welcome to the grownup world. I've been married for 20 years, & it's not always easy to want to stay that way. The biggest thing is how your kids' quality of life would suffer. Statistically, the money doesn't stretch as far, & the kids are made to feel guilty for trying to have time with their friends when it's suppose to be the other parent's turn with them. Please don't do this to them. Life isn't all hearts & flowers & rainbows. If that's what you think you signed on for when you got married, guess again. And falling back on the idea of how your mom did things is a cop-out. I'm sure if you're honest, you didn't have a very stable childhood. If you really feel it's necessary, suggest counseling. Otherwise, just give it some time, or try little romantic gestures towards your wife. I'm sure your two little ones exhaust her most days.

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sasquatch7575: 1 year ago via iPhone

Amen

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shortylillypad: 1 year ago

i agree

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playmateofdayr80: 1 year ago

Honestly. There was a REASON you married her and maybe there is a disconnect in your relationship but I believe its worth the work. Maybe the reason you feel alone in the relationship is not all her fault but maybe partly yours. Women love attention and affection and wanna be told how beautiful they are, sweatpants and all. For me not being married and knowing so many people who struggle in their marriage due to lack of communication I have heard it all. Marriage is a huge commitment at which you signed up for so its WORTH the work. Take some time to work on your marriage and see where that takes you. Trust me in the end it will be worth it. COMMUNICATION is key to any relationship/marriage. She's worth it and there's a reason you made that commitment to her in the first place. Good luck!

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Ellielou357: 1 year ago

I think people should work things out. You are both adults and can make it work. Try new things together, be alone together, go to all the old places you two used to love. Try to bring the spark back. No one lives up to their responsibilities anymore! Try to keep the love alive.

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shortylillypad: 1 year ago | Last edited at 9:40AM on 10/27/2011

well i would tell her that you love her but you aren't in love with her. i think that would better if she knew this instead of keeping this from her. and last but not least you shouldn't get a divorce cause that is not what god wants you guys to do. hope this helps you love ya shotrylillypad!!!! p.s me and my boyfriend are the same way so it don't matter!!!

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shortylillypad: 1 year ago

love ya

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