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How do i break up with my finance in a non violent but respectable manner?

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Honesty is always the best policy. Not sure why you asked for a non violent way to go about it though. If you or your fiance has an issue with violence, that alone is a good reason to break off any engagement.

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as always i agree 100%
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Give back the ring. If you break off the engagement he gets the ring back. If you're afraid of violence, go to a nice restaurant. Sit near the door. Have your dad or a male friend on notice, parked in a car very near the restaurant with a cell phone handy. Have a nice dinner with your soon to b x, take off the ring, call your waiting buddy with a pre -arranged signal, ask for and pay for the check, give back the ring, gently explain why you want to break it off, keep an eye in the door and when your buddy comes for you, tell your X you will always remember him with love, wish him luck, and say good bye. You can get teary eyed , but don't cry! It's hard for someone to act out in public, nevertheless have a man friend/ dad come pick you up. you'll have support that way. Good luck!
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Great advice souixbee.
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sorry this is not going to work out....

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People act like you'll die if they break up. It hurts but life goes on. That can't manipulate these situations. Just be true and let chips fall where they may.
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thats the best thing to do just be honest...
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Well, except when your wife ask you... do I have a big butt. You say no. Even when she turns and knock s the lamp over! Lol
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I think so.
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haha yeah sometimes its just safer to twist the truth just a little..
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...This is sad. I wouldn't do it if I were you, just wait to name sure that you aren't made for each other. Don't make any mistakes.

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Tell him the truth in a way that there is no blame or arguing - maybe your feelings have changed - maybe you need to be alone - if that doesn't work - use the George Constanza line (Seinfeld): "It's not You! It's Me!"

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Hello! Nice to see you again.
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Hi honey - I am trying to give more time to Ask - been really busy!
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Just say you are mentally instable,so you are not a good life partner.thats it. Jk.

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Tell him truth. The faster the better. He is a man he can handle it. The longer you wait the worse its going to be.

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Nothing to add here i agree with Neanderthal

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With a postcard from far away.

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Make all your arrangements and then tell him (by phone if you are worried about violence) that the two of you don't love each other enough to create a loving relationship and home life. Say that you want to be with your family for awhile and go without seeing him. Accept no communication from him. Be really strong. Send him any gifts he gave you without a return address. Do not blame him. Just be gone.

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say it's over

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That's sad. Why'd you get ingaged if your not going to follow through with the marriage!?

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It is better to break an engagement than to get married just because you got engaged. "Marry in haste, repent in leisure." If you have any doubts about getting married, don't do it, even if you're standing at the altar, living with someone when there is no harmony is horrid! Voice of Experience here.
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