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I have a friend that is wanting human companionship so bad that she has made herself mentally ill. Please read description.

My friend has had very little friends throughout her life but when I became friends with her she started making up fictional characters that would "get jealous oh me and her being friends and they would fight over her" The problem is that I have never seen or have spoken to her "other friends" on the phone! She has sometimes texted me saying it was her "friend" but I knew it was her because the "friend said things that she would only know.
I talked to her about it and she said her friend came over and stole her iPod and texted me with it. I am getting tired of it but I am wanting to help her I don't want to stop being her friend.

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Well, pray to Jesus. And talk to her about Him. Help her come to Him. According to how much faith you have that God will do something about it, even if you dont know what or how, it shall be done. When I was 11, I had a friend like the friend your friend has. Two years later it began to take control of me. Two years after that, I found out it was a demon. I found out without the help of any person. Infact, people, even mental health professionals were very deficient with me. Two years after I found out, God set me free. Now I m a sane healthy person. Gby

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This is a dangerous answer. It may not be a demon and this person might be mentally ill. Traditional diagnosis should be tried first. If it is not the same as what you went through, no amount of praying will heal her and she could get sicker and cause someone harm. Even you went to doctors first!
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Thank you. I am a devout Christian and I believe in God with all my heart. I have been praying for her a lot. But I think she need a doctor but her mom is too ashamed of her disability to take her to get help.
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1. whether its a demon or not, praying , having faith will do something about it. 2. I didnt say to not go to a doctor. 3. I didnt say its the same, but it sure seems to be.
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But the first thing she should be guided to is a doctor...then a church. If it is mental illness, no prayer will heal her and she could harm herself or others if not treated. That is what I am trying to point out.
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Consult with a real doctor. She may need a professional help.

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Misery loves company. Be careful. Her well being is important, but so is yours. You are truly being a good friend.

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so true!
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Try to help her make some more friends. The more the merrier! :)

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I am trying but most are not willing to deal with her condition.
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That seems really rude. They should accept her for who she is. I would be her friend.
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get her some help immediately if you care about her enough to make her better

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thanks!
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she should probably go to therapy or get some kind of professional help

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I'm thinking she hasn't 'made herself' ill, but she may be suffering from some sort of physiological disability. She could very well be delusional .. who knows. It's probably one of the reason why she finds it difficult to connect with other people and make friends.

You can still be her friend .. you can introduce her to your other friends. That's how most people who don't have a lot of friends get to meet people. It might help her .. it might not...but at least you tried.

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This is not a person you should keep a friendship with if this keeps happening. She is mentally ill from what you describe. You cannot help her or fix her. If you care about her, tell her to seek counseling. If she does not go get help, you may have to end the friendship or keep yourself at a safe distance and only be available to her from time to time.

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I can't just leave her though. She is suffering and she needs someone there for her.
I am the only person that cares. Her mother is too ashamed to do anything about it. And her father does not care. I am the only one. I can't just leave her by herself
to deal with this.
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But this is not your child or family member. You want to help because you have a good heart and care. At the same time, unless this person will admit their lies and issues, you cannot help. The lies and problems will just get worse over time. You need to tell her to seek help because you cannot fix her. You are not a shrink and can't do anything other than say "I will support you getting help". It is not easy to walk away. Trust me, I know this first hand. I have had to walk away from people I tried to help because they refused to do anything to get better. Sometimes you have to let people hit bottom before they will try to get up again! It is often called 'tough love' but it is just like letting a kid fall down when they learn to walk, they either bother to get up and try again or they don't learn to walk. Babies instinctually get back up. Older people fight that instinct and sounds like your friend still is fighting it. Until she stops, there is nothing you can do to help her.
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How old are the two of you. If you are in school, you could go talk to a counselor about this

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