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If you love someone, but they don't love you, is it best to just let them go, or try to make them understand that you need them?

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Ever heard the poem if you love something set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours if it doesn't it never really was. No matter how hard you try you can't make someone love you. But sometimes if they know you still love them they'll use you.

The best advice I know is to let them go. Get involved in life again. Sometimes they see what made them fall in love with you to begin with & they'll come back. Odd thing is when they do you often find you're not interested anymore :)

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Thank You! That helps a lot. I was lost in what to do. I love this person a lot, and I really dont want to lose them. But like you said...if they dont come back to me then they were never really mine to lose, right? You helped me realize that love can be blind, and just because I love this person doesnt mean it is meant to be. :) Thank you again!
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Awesomely put momo
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Thanx Russell

I'm glad I was helpful to you Godfearingcountrygir :)
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Wow, Momo! Very insightful and I couldn't say it any better!
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Thanx paisleymoon :)
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Perfect! You cannot lose what you never really had.
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well i done a show and it was called we will rock you and that is when i fell in love with him , it was all going well until 5th of november he dumped me and i was still in love with him and i cried for 2 hours and i am still in love with him but he doesnt realise it what should i do??? please help me?
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Let them go baby. Someone else is out there that will make you happy. For now go out w/friends

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Thank You! :) It means a lot that you took the time to help me!
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I'm sorry, but this is not true.
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Kajunfax...why dont you think it is true? :/
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This is so true because the same thing happened to me!
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It's very true. Trying to force someone to want you, is just crazy. Let them go and find someone who will feel the same way back.
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If you love something, set it free. If it comes back it's yours. Let that person go.

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I loved someone once, but I had to let her go and she wasn't ever mine. It all depends on how much you love the person.

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Ur not just going to get someone to love u just like that. Just be urself don't try to act like someone u rnt u will find someone if it doesn't work out I swear

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That is very encouraging! I needed that. I feel kinda down because I miss him. He was the only one for me for almost a year!
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It's better to have a friend then to lose that all together. Don't get high hopes that he'll turn around just know if you love him then he's worth keeping in your life regardless of how he loves you back.

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He has always been a good friend...and I dont think I will lose that...it is just that I wanted so much more with him! Thank You! :)
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Your welcome and if it helps. I was in your same boat. Met this guy we hung out and kissed sometimes. He realized he didnt want to be in a relationship so I respected that. Went two yrs of being the best of friends and nothing more. I never stopped being in love with him. But I stayed true to me and who I am and tried to always be the best friend I could be. This past summer he told me that he's been in love with me for a yr. now where engaged and were still bestest friends. :) ( so there's always hope)
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OH WOW!!!!!! That gives me hope!
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My advise is to be you. Never something you think he likes. Most importantly be there for him and support his decisions. Regardless of what they are. If he comes around great if not then you have someone you can still always depend on.
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:D That is a great plan! I am following it! :D
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Glad I can help. :)
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Yes dont make them stay if they dont want 2 so if he doesnt love u thats just life...so u will find tha one...i know u will:D

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Aww I think u should let go honey their is other fishies in the sea and I know you will find the one that's perfect for u :)

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wisebuff

You will learn you dont 'need' anyone. Ive been there too thinking no way i could be without them, then i was and life was better without. Move on, a guy doesnt learn to love you, he will even when he shouldnt and you will know. Time to shop around.

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I like the way you put that...it makes it easy to understand! And thank you for the encouragement! :D
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No prob. In time it all makes sense. The world is full of guys for you, never settle. You will find one that will worship u im sure... It happens to all of us sooner or later.
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Let them go

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If you love someone set them free. If they come back there yours. But if they don't come back then they were never yours and never will be. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Pretend you are the fisher and the people out there (female or male) are the fish. Take a chance and go for it. Let this person you love go and try to catch another different fish!

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from experience don't waist your time. I'm sure you have much to offer but you should do it with someone who wants what you have. I was with my ex for 1 1/2 years and I finally realized even after many friends told me to break up with him b/c he didn't really love me...I ended the relationship. it took me just as long 1 1/2 years to get over my resentment I had towards the whole situation.

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you can't count on them so it's better to leave them behind, their are many matches for you on this earth find the one's that are attracted to you, and you to them and that's how to build a healthy relationship.

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It is hard to receive advise as we are blinded by our own feelings towards the person we love. the truth is when someone is into you it is as simple as that they are , they show interest they try they go out of their way to show you they love you. yep sometimes walking away the partner might open their eyes . real love is not a game ... real love you will find when you dont have to go looking for it . it will come to you just how you wear your heart on your sleeve and give that love , that compatible partner will find you one day. Send you my energy and hope you receive that special someone.

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