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What can I do to get my neighbors to stop harassing us?

My neighbors (very old male and female) are the meanest people ever! I can't even begin to explain what cruel things they have done. The have always yelled at everyone in my family. We have a Greenberg behind our house were we will play. They will take pictures of us playing there because we will have our dog off a leash but he is still on our property. They claim it's illegal and have called the police many times. My 7 year old brother is terrified to even step out side because they will just stand in the window in stare. We live in a family neighborhood and they hate all children and pets. What can't we do?

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keep pissin them off. thats what i would do. bring some friends to make it more fun also

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EquineEloquence
Everyone should leave everyone alone.
Everyone has a right to live life without "harassment" or "torment".
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not everyone...
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i agree equine. how
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hey if someone give you hell...send it right back
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what good is it doing to tourment elderly people, evidentlly its a popular theory though. sad , people agree with this idea, how unfortunate.
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but if they torment you, you have a right to do so back.
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EquineEloquence
Wrong,.... you take the "higher road" and be a "grown-up" and a respectful person. You don't become an abuser like they are.
No need to play childish "copy-cat" games.
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but then you have not one and they will continue with their ways. if you fight back they will cower down...like north korea.
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Minji

You can call the police and tell them the old couple is harassing you.

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no idea......... can you call on them for harassment?

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file a complaint with your local HOA, and if that does not work start filing police reports. It may not do much, but eventually you may have to move or hope they keel over one day. Unfortunately they are not doing anything illegal, just unpleasant. Try speaking to them, ask what it is that you've done that they are unhappy with that they are constantly harassing your family. See if that does anything to help alleviate it.

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there is no option but to bear with these oldies unless you move out or they move out-hope the latter event prevails

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KittySusca

Ugh! It's so annoying to have people like that.We had a couple of sets of neighbors like that who have moved,mercifully,away from here to other places.One lady used to wait until I was carrying groceries into the house and the hatchback was up and run out of her house and take groceries from my trunk.I used to make up stories when the kids were really little that they were like fairy tale villains who didnt understand life.That helped the kids not be afraid.You have to make it a joke somehow to the little kids.Its such a shame people like that scare children.Im so sorry this is happening to you.

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EquineEloquence

Sounds like they are "very very bored" in life and are unhappy people.
Most likely they have been in trouble in the past, and they have not been liked much by anyone in the past either.

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i agree , they are very very bored and more so, very very lonely.
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I agree muffetlouise :]
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You say they are very old? That's great it won't be long until they're dead anyways:)

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Call the cops haha

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go up to them and say if you dont stop im going to call the police for stalking and taking pics of my family they are just old people and tell your poor brother to just not listen they are old and grumpey tell him he can do as he wants it your house

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maybe put up a 6' tall shadowbox wooden fence? makes a visual barrier. You can also take pictures of them staring at your brother and tell the police that you are worried that they are sexual predators. No one should be afraid to go into their own back yard.

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Ya sadly our neighborhood has a fence rule. All fences have to be a certain height.
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I definitely agree with you documenting and taking pictures of them photographing you and give all that to police. Tell police that you are in fear of them being sexual offenders. No one especially a little child should be afraid to play in his own yard. And watch your dog ( and cats) too. God knows if they'd try to hurt them!
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i feel sorry for you , i know how hard it can be dealing with neighbors , but from the sounds of your situation these old folks are lonely and looking for attention, i know you may not believe this but just try going over once in awhile and asking them if they need any help with the yard, or anything you can think of to be of help to them. invite them over one day for coffee or tea. you will be surprised how they change. try a little kindness. its hard to be cruel to someone who is so nice to you. try it. meeting them on their own level will only fan the flames and you will constantly be at odds with each other. they are old and looking for some way to make them selves noticed

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EquineEloquence
Hmmm. That is a good thought. Could worl on "some" people. :]
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i hope so, i know i had a old neighbor when we moved into the neighborhood every one warned us about her, she lived two doors up. i went over to introduce myself we had coffee, 4 hours later...we were like old friends. she passed away last year, i was so sad, i realy grew to love her dearly. all the neighbors were so surprised to find she was actualy nice , just lonely.
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We hav always been very nice. We recently had a snow storm, may 1st (crazy right). We shoveled there drive way for them. Well we tried to. They called the police for being on there property and cussed at me and my seven year old brother to get off. Like I said they are cruel.
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EquineEloquence
They then seem to have 'mental issues', or at least one of them does and their partner goes along with it.
I would then definitely avoid them. Does not sound like they are 'mentally healthy' at all.
Like I said before, if they are that nasty and weird, they probably already have a "record" with police and are not liked by anyone or by very many.

Abusive people hate being ignored, and they 'wind-up' getting themselves in trouble numerous times.
They hate happy people, so be happy and let them get themselves in trouble :]
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I had a very similar situation. This old guy in my town (we called him old man meany) kept calling the cops on every kid that walked in front of his house. He called the cops 3 times on me in a single week and all I did was ride my bike on the side walk in front of his house (apparently I was disturbing the peace) eventually I kicked a soccer ball in his yard accidentally and he refused to give it back to me then sued me for kicking the ball at him ! Then I went to curt and the judge basically told him to stop being mean, give my ball back, and don't call the cops anymore unless someone actually brakes the law. He got mad then and moved out of town... Anyway the moral of the story is just go about your busyness and if they want to sue you, let them. Everyone will side with you and it will all be okay :) no need to be scared of elderly people lol

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Thanks, that's pretty much what it's like.
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Maybe they're bitter because they're old. Make an effort to be nice to them, like give them some cookies or something. If they're still jerks, irritate the hell out of them...I'm kidding (mostly) but just leave them alone if their attitudes don't improve.

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EquineEloquence
Actually, I wouldn't give them cookies or any food, they might not "trust" the food you give them.
You might be better off giving them a plant or two, for their yard.
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I mean, it's the gesture more so than anything, but maybe you're right.
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EquineEloquence
I agree, the 'gesture' would be a wonderful thing :]
Geesh, wish you were my neighbor, lol.
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Ya we told them instead of communicating with us they should just call the police.
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EquineEloquence
LoL.

You should just stop communicating with them ever again. Abusers hate when people won't respond to them or talk to them. Just let them get themselves in trouble, they will do that without you paying attention to them or responding to them :]
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There's an article on the Internet called the mask of sanity that tells about how people with psychopathic behavior act. I suggest you read it to understand how bizzare people can be. So don't let the creeps get your goat. Ignore them and build a high fence

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I agree too.

My one neighbor has about 30 cameras attached to his house on the outside. He never said Hi or anything when he walked by my property. He was ignorant and disrespectful.
He never has company over and has about 5 antennas on the roof of his house.

One night, when I fell backwards onto the ground (i tripped on my garden hose), I got up and turned and saw him standing in the road staring at me, he didn't say a single word, he then just walked away.
Usually he walks by my property and does the really loud "fake cough", every single time he walks by.
I stopped reacting to his games or disrespect, and haven't seem him much since then. And I'm not one who takes games or disrespect lightly, so I'm proud of myself.
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Show them that you are the bigger person. Bake them cookies, cakes, tarts, pies. Give them sweet notes of kindness, pouring blessing out over them. Ask them if they need any gardening done, washing of their car or windows of their house. Just give them lots of love. They will change their tune.

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Start a daycare center and open a pet shop in your home, that'll piss em off!

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If they tell at you, just ignore or yell back. Taking pictures? Call the cops and tell them you have these old folks standing around taking pictures of you, adults taking pics of children not their own can have some rather nasty implications...
In short though, they can't do anything to you so mostly you ignore them

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