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Is it a good idea for a Presbyterian to marry a Catholic?

What do most Catholics think of it? What do most Presbyterians think of it?

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waldorff

Personally, I'm not sure any religious people should marry..... They'll just screw up their kids.

Ok, I'm being purposefully extreme here.....

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VirginiaL
Dear Waldorff,

Just to be the devil's advocate here, with your answer, don't you think that is actually how many people come to be atheist? The absurdity of much religious indoctrination... and then you get old enough to think for yourself... and you just know that whatever may be going on at life's essence, it is not that!
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Hi Virginia, I think waldorff made exactly that point himself a couple of weeks ago. On the other hand, lots of kids stay brainwashed.
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Doesn't surprise me...Waldorff would notice that. I think I recall W himself had very open and accepting parents, his remarkable mother a lifelong Unitarian...

I actually think there IS a place for the fundamentalists...a few weeks back here on Ask I myself took a strong stand in favor of the Jehovah's Witnesses, because of their great work in combing through society and giving people strong structure to struggle their way out of very destructive lifestyles.

I also did it because I don't like how so many people bash the JW's.

But I also consider atheism to be one of the world's great spiritual traditions.
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I think the Jay-dubs get their bashing because of their door-knocking campaigns. I don't think it has anything to do with their particular belief system.
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VirginiaL
Yes...this question on Ask really brought out how people dislike JW intensely while holding highly inaccurate concepts of their belief system.
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waldorff
Hi Virginia, Dozy - thanks for commenting - sorry to arrive late!
Virginia, you're right, of course. Religious indoctrination is self-limiting unless it's very successful - Dozy mentioned earlier the Jesuit thing about 'Give me a child until he's 3 (or 5) and he's mine forever'. Scary - very scary.
Of course, there's a place for the highly religious. Religious faith can inspire people to great things. However, how far do we go in accepting a set of beliefs that is demonstrably wrong, causes much harm in the world, yet also inspires good.
I mentioned to Richest1 a couple of weeks ago (not sure if he saw it) that although religious belief can move mountains, a couple of mechanical diggers and a plan is much more certain and effective.
Yes, Virginia, I consider myself lucky in my upbringing in that dirty, Northern England town. My parents were very good at letting me find my own way, even at the cost of some embarrassment for them! There are stories I could tell!
JWs? Do we need'em? What function in society do they perform, exactly? Door knocker testing?
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Both are Christian, it's fine.

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Go with your heart, not with what do others think? By following the heart, one can't go wrong.

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The big problem may be the kids. The Catholic half of the equation will want them raised as Catholics and that scares the bejezus out of me. I wouldn't willingly allow my children to be raised in the tradition that gave us the Dark Ages and the Inquisition.

If you can get past the religious complications, and if neither of you is too fervent about your faith, it might work. Growing together (in Biblical terms, "becoming one flesh) is difficult enough without adding an inflammatory element like opposing religions.

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VirginiaL

Dear Helpful2Family,

Here is something for you to consider: And that is, at their essence there is no conflict between any of the great religions of the world...that when you really look, they are all saying the same thing anyway.

You might call it, for instance, the Golden Rule; all religions have it but not all their adherents live it. So for me, for example, when I lived in Centralia, Washington where the Presbyterian minister understood this mystery of life, I attended his church. And anytime I have the opportunity to bask in the presence of Catholic Fr. Thomas Keating (FRUITS AND GIFTS OF THE SPIRIT), I am right there.

So my idea is for you and your beloved to find the real truth in both your denominations, and then decide how you want to celebrate their different expression. Their different ways of expressing the same truths can be a wonderful journey of discovery!

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You have a great way of looking at things, Virginia....! I like your belief set, even though it's significantly different from mine. But it's well thought out and right for you, I can tell.
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Each of us is totally unique, Dear Waldorff - and as you already know, I appreciate your approach to life VERY much!
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