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How do you deal with an extremely rude, uncaring and unloving husband?

My husband acts like he can't be in the same room with me and can't stand for me to touch him. We argue about it a lot he says it's in my head, but it's not. When I touch him he pulls away, won't kiss me or hug me.

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I don't have an answer for you. I just wanted to point out how funny it is how fast everyone suggests divorce. That's why 50% of marriages end in divorce. Because people don't fight for their marriages. I hope you do, and find a solution!

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Stars!!! I agree 100%. I was going to say the same thing
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I love this answer! Bravo!
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Get a divorce. Or maybe you guys should give each other some time to yourselves.

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He won't go
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Oops, divorce is not an option atbthis point we are in this 16yrs
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You defiantly should consult a marriage counselor. Ya'll obviously have some deep issues that must be talked about and not ignored.

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He won't go I have tried
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You should tell him that if he won't go then he risk losing you. To be completely honest, from what you have said, it sounds like he may be cheating or, and I'm really sorry, but not in love with you anymore. The only way to save your marriage is to get help from either a marriage counselor or try to talk with him yourself. Don't let your happiness be sacrificed. I read in another seperate comment below that you have been married for 16 years and divorce is not an option. Though it should always be the last resort, if you can't work anything out, then you really should consider divorce. Putting your happiness and mental health on the line for someone who is suppose to be your life partner but won't work with you isn't worth it. That isn't a marriage. I wish you both the best of luck and I truly do hope you can get something worked out.
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One word 7 letters....









Divorce

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Not an option right now
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Minji

You could think about getting marriage counseling or even a divorce.

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well, sounds as if it is time to kick someone to the curb. so sad but it happens all the time, man or woman.

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With divorce

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give him a taste of his own medicine!!maybe he'll snap out of it

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Jeremiah doesn't care..... That just gives him a reason to say I am crazy...
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You need to tell him you are unhappy in the marriage and why. Then you need to brainstorm on how to fix things. If you have already done this then I can tell from the other answers and comments that you have exhausted all your options. Take Care

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Since you don't want a divorce, you could stay married and miserable but live separate lives. Find a hobby?

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Try finding out what her name is, sounds like he may have a girlfriend

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I am working that, about to hire a PI
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I would suggest seeing a marriage therapist . If your husband refuses please see one on your own , that type of situation if not resolved can work on your self esteem . By seeking help you will be able to see the situation clearly and be able to make the right decision for you .

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Kink him in the nuts

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You dump him

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Leave him...if hes being rude,doesnt like you touching him,its usually a big red flag hes not interested and hes staying because he doesnt want to either pay child support or spousal support. Alot of guys will stay because they like being catered too-the wife fixes his lunch,washes his clothes,basically does everything for him. Alot of the times its also a sign hes cheating.People here are saying try therapy.while in some instances that will work,but i dont think so in this situation. if hes downright mean to you,hes trying to tell you hes not into you anymore. if you love someone -you dont break them down the way hes doing to you.its cut and dry.you need therapy-not bc you are crazy,but to help you to get away from this ABUSIVE behavior! It is considered verbal abuse what hes doing and you need to help yourself by getting away. good luck/

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I have quit washing his clothes, I no longer cook him breakfast or fix his lunch plus I don't cook things that he like either. You are right I do need therapy. thank you
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Lock yourself in a room with him, a counselor, and a bodyguard. And tell them no one leaves till this is resolved.

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