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Does my boyfriends mom have the right after he dies to go through, unlock, and take all of our things?

We had a child together but only together for 4 years. The place we were living isnt in either of our names because we were renting a room from his friend. His friend has allowed my boyfriends mom into the house and into my room for her to go through whatever she wants. We also have a storage unit with our belonings in it. What rights exactly, as his next of kin, does she have? Is it legal for her to go through my things by herself? Is there a timeframe for how quickly i have to divide everything up? Its only been 3 weeks. Who says what belongs to who?

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She Absolutely Does Not have the right to go through your/his things.
1:she has no right to and could be charged for it
2: nothing is in her name or owned by her
Although its her son, you two have a child together and everything he left behind is YOURS AND THE CHILD'S. It is of the utmost disrespect for her to even enter your room without YOUR permission. She's Wrong And That's A Form of Thievery.

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Nope, they never got married. Other than things concerning the child, she does NOT get HIS things. However, the mother doesn't have any right to go thru her thing, just her son's...
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In Actuality Either Way The Mother Has No Right To His Things If They Are In The possession Of The Baby's Mother, Girlfriend, Spouse, Partner Ect. And If At The Time of His Death They Were Still Together Included But Not Limited To Living Together Commitedly Ect. Then I'd Have To Say That The Mother In This Case Has No Right To His Things Son Or Not But Not only Did she Go Through His Things She Went through The Both Of Their Things So I'm Pretty Sure That Things She's Not Entitled To Were Taken. Keep In Mind She Did Not Ask Permission To Go Through His Things, And Assuming She Does'nt Know Whats His And What Was His Girlfriend's She In The Wrong. Logically Speaking The Fact Of The Matter Is It's The Principal Of The Situation. If I Were The Girlfriend in This Situation I'd Feel Some Kind Of Way If I Just Lost My Loved one A Three Months Later His Mom Comes Barging into My Personal Space taking his things Which Mean Something To Me. That Would hurt....
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Sure would hurt, I know...
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She is not allowed to

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Your boyfriend's mom does not have the right to go through your things without your permission especially if the son is not there. If anything you should be there as the next of kin if he did not sign anything of that kind. She needs to give you back your belongings unless she gets a signed document by the son that she is the one to keep them. you can talk to your lawyer for advice.

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I don't believe she has the right to do this. BUT, did your BF have a will, or what is the 'common law' time frame for living together in your state? I would say, definitely, don't give her the key to the storage unit, that will be gone too.

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no she doesn't have the right to go through your belongings but as being immediate family she does have the right to all his possessions because you guys are not legally married just went through the same thing with my uncle passed away in his live-in girlfriend.

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I understand she most likely has rights to his belongings, but isnt there some kind of time frame that i have to give her these things? Who do i ask for help if shes going through my things without my permission? I called the cops n they said she has the right. So where do i go next? And she already took things, am i really supposed to take my dead boyfriends mother to court? How can i prevent further damage to the relationship? Shes the grandmother of my son, i loved her son with all my heart! Im just frazzled n frustrated n i cant even wrap my head around where to begin or what im supposed to do. Or how to protect myself from getting taken advantage of.
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Sorry, but being the nearest relative, since you two didn't get married, the mother is entitled to go through HIS things only. Not yours. If I were you, I'd get over there and get your things out (be careful not to take any of your BF's things or you might end up in a fight). If there's something you two bought together, you'd have to prove that with receipts or whatever...

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I feel sorry for you, his mom and your baby. I understand what the mom did though. I don't know if you would be considered common law or what.

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