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ShellieOh

My husband is bored with me. What should I do? I'm kind of shy, so 'spice things up', is not a good answer.

We've only been together 2 years and this is already happening. :[

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Get rid of your shyness and let loose

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Easier said than done.
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It's actually pretty easy,just get past that first test and it's smooth sailing
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maybe u need to exercise or get him motivated by doing something spontaneous. Dnt let yourself go just cause your married tat wld of course mean im assuming your over weight

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I haven't let myself go at all! Haha
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I'm 5"3, and 110 lbs. definitely haven't let myself go!
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then why u asking this question obiously hes not likeing sum about you
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ShellieOh
Just asking for advice..
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no hard feelings..by the way thats not mypic its my wifes lil brother but anyway can i ask u how long you were together before you were married? btway didnt mean to insult you:]
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haha im married to dnt get me wrong on the comment"this isnt my pick"
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Girl u better get u a nice wig, some high heel pumps, a lingerie fit, some candles some 4 play food(strawberries and whipped cream) for example. And be nurse Betty, Doctor Candy, or whoever u wanna be! Don't be afraid to explore a new world with your husband that's why he's there!

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I'm so shy, I don't think I could do it! Haha
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Go on a really nice vacation with him and relax... Talk about the future .... Do stuff that you've never done before that will be fun(: he shouldn't be "bored" with you... Make stuff interesting and just talk to him about how you feel(:

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You can't do anything about it, it's not you it's him...

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Get out of house. Take a class, job or volunteer. Bring home new stories. If you're doing interesting things it will get him interested.

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DONT have a baby, etc. That would inflict your problems on an innocent child. DO some of the other things suggested that would bring you together. A counselor who specializes in marriage/family might be helpful even if you have to go it alone. Let go of 'shy'; won't hurt, might help.

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We already have a baby! Haha.
Counseling would be great, but he doesn't have time and we don't exactly have the money for it either. :[
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If he doesn't have time for counseling, he probably doesn't have time for much else?
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You can spice things up in lots of different ways. What are his hobbies? Any of them you might be interested in? Ya know...doing stuff together. Talk to him & let him know how you're feeling. Open the door to working this out before it gets too late. Turning off the lights & lighting a candle is always an option...if you catch my drift. Good luck!

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Sounds like his problem, not yours. Unless for some reason you have completely changed since your wedding day, he knew you were like this when he married you, so you shouldn't have to change anything about yourself just to please him.

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Ask him out to dinner...THEN GO HOME AND GET FUNKY!!!!

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well did he ever say he was bored of you if no maybe its just work stressing him out so when he gets home hes just plain tired and like other people said go on a nice relaxing vacation and be more romantique with him .

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spice up the room, get some toys and enjoy yourself

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He's very routine. The fact that we've been together 2 years and hes NEVER tried anything new, makes me feel that much more uncomfortable to do so.
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Hey well being around someone to much you normally get bored since everythings routine ask him if he wants to go bungee jumping skydiving take scuba lessons something you'd never see yourselves doing that you can do every so often for fun

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You have been given some good options here but you block them all. Is it possible that at some level you are content with the way things are? He may not be able to go to counseling but you can. Also counseling takes about 55 minutes out of one's day not counting travel. Surely he could manage that.

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I know, I'm not trying to be difficult, so my apologies. I wouldn't mind counseling at all, I feel I / we would benefit from it.
However, counseling cost $$$ that we don't exactly have.
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It does cost money and now my question for you is what, intuitively, do you think would be a good place to start?
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Try to appeal to his interests. If not then try Kama sutra (just throwing things out there).

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If u already have a baby then u should be fine with "spicing things up."

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I've put up with a bully for 40 years. Get out while you can I should have. It was always something wrong with me.

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It's a difficult balance that everyone seeks. On the one hand women want a strong, confident guy - and on the other hand many women are too frightened to stand-up for themselves.
And guys want a beautiful, slinky sex kitten, but she'd better be 'low-mileage', 'low-maintenance' and not giving out any free 'Test-Drives' (sorry, that just flowed too easily). Bottom line here is: People need change - Change is scary - Don't ride the Hoppity Horse if you have a problem getting Bucked-up. Is that clear enough - grow a pair and kick yer husband in his.

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Here is a thought, just follow me here....Pack all his things and set them out by the garbage cans. OOOO, he will stop being bored real fast! Be surprised how interested he would get.

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I like it. A different approach. One I wouldn't ever think of, but I like it!
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I love HeresKitty's answer. Not my style but it would bring boredom to a screeching halt!

Ok, Shellie-bug, you're MARRIED! What's there to be shy about? I'd suggest a bottle of wine, fire in the fireplace, some candles, a little smooth jazz and be open to possibilities. (By the way...all that crap is for YOU, not him. But it should help you get frisky.) Just give it a shot. He's your husband, isn't he worth it?

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