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How should I go about catching a guy "friend" in a lie without coming across as "jealous"? I know for a fact he's been lying.

we've only known each other for 2 wks. he's telling me he's getting really attached and he loves how much we have in common and that he can always talk to me. I know for a fact he's been lying about hanging out w other girls. I don't care if he is I just want him to tell the truth. why is he lying? and should I start canceling plans with him? how do I trust him?

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Instead of "catching him" with tricks and games, why not just speak with him, letting him know you are aware he lied. I do not understand why people want and/or thrive on having or creating more drama and chaos in their lives than necessary.

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well Peace i guess cause these people don't admit what they have done anything unless you face them with an evidance. yah they are that rude :(
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I confessed about invading his privacy to protect myself and confronted him. We r still figuring things out. But at least my stuff is out in the open now.
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Heather, My answers come from years of life experience. I did not know anything regarding your invasion of his privacy. My suggestion has and always will be - if there is an "issue" people should talk about it and try to come to some sort of understanding especially if they care for one another. I am glad you are trying to figure things out however, honestly is always the best policy which apparently you became albeit after-the-fact.
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Best wishes Heather.
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Well if he's hanging out with other girls and he's lying to you about it then you deserve so much better. There are way better guys out there.

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Maybe he's lying because he knows you'll get jealous? He's already lying and you already don't trust him. Do you really want to continue this relationship?

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It's only been two weeks and he's lying to you, time to start making those cancellation.

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Yep !
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If he is lying to you , you don't need him , kick his a_s to the curb !!!

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If you know for a fact that he is lying, then either 1) don't date him, he probably lies a lot, or 2) confront him on lying, and tell him you are not okay with it.

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You asked how you can trust him because you know he's lying. You may not realize it but you just answered your own question. He's a liar, so you CAN'T trust him. It may not be what you wished it would be, but it is what it is.

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Since you KNOW he's lying, why bother confronting him? He'll simply continue with making a deeper pile of bull$#it in self-defense.
Save yourself time & emotional energy: walk away NOW.

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dont let him no u no

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