Simple...they do not have a clue. Stay at home moms have the hardest job...hey I work 70 hours a week...stay at home moms work 70 hours in 3 days...and they never get a day off! So we are clear, the ones without a clue are NOT the moms in question, rather the ones who dare to look down their noses at the awesome women (and some men) who are the CEOs of their family and home. Stay at home moms and dads...I salute you!
Just with the fact that Women should be out there in the social world working and having fun, instead of being married, taking care of 1-5 kids, and making sure her husband is getting enough attention...just whats its like in the outside world.....stay single and have fun!
I love my husband and i am thankful and love that I am married. I don't think everyone thinks that about housewives. I personally would hate it I think it may be lonely just being home with no adult conversation everyday. I think it is a very hard job to raise hard working competent kids.
I agree it is amazing. Especially is if you are raising children. No one will care for your children as much as you do. You can build into them good qualities like respect, diligence, curiosity, patience, kindness, compassion as well as giving them opportunities to learn to care for themselves. Something they won't learn nearly as well in daycare or school. And you only have a short time to impact them as they grow up SO fast! As a homemaker you also can be creative to cook, design the space & perhaps the yard, manage money and schedule yourself. You have flexibility people who are tied to a job only dream about. Take advantage of it during this season of your life!
I'm a housewife... And a stay at home mom... To me they go hand in hand... But that's my opinion. It takes 100% commitment and 110% of my time to do my job. It's the most rewarding and the toughest job I've ever had in my life! I know for a fact that it takes a strong willed and strong minded female to set her own wants aside to be the full time parent and wife that the children need and husband wants. I'd love to go back to work. But I know for a fact that my husband appreciates and needs me to be the one raising our children and taking care of him with love and devotion, all of which I could not do at the level I do if I was working. I have been both, working mother/wife and stay at home mother/wife.... My entire household benefits tremendously more with me staying at home... All though our financial situation would benefit if I was to work... My family would not... My husband knows that our children are never going to receive the love and care from anyone else the way they do from me. He holds me up on a pedestal... Because he has had to take care of them by himself while I was in the hospital this year... He respects and admires all that I do and admits that it's easier to be the provider than the one holding down the fort at home. It's an amazing job as you said and it takes the most competent person to do what I and so many others do!
Incompetent? hahaha, that is so laughable, let's see: She is: a doctor, nurse, bookkeeper, cook, maid, teacher, seamstress, friend, mate, gardener, hairdresser, taxi cab driver, and all around go-for. LOL, she sounds pretty Competent to me. And if she were paid for all the duties no one, and I mean NO ONE, could afford her services.
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Back in 1960 when Daizy and I tied the knot we used to hear horror stories about mothers in the USSR having to put their children into a creche and go back to work. Now, of course, stay-at-home mothers are becoming an endangered species.
Daizy stayed at home and did a superb job of raising five kids as well as all the normal domestic chores. She didn't have much time to spare and, honestly, I don't know how she coped. It would have driven me crazy.
She had to be mother, wife, doctor, driver, soccer coach, homework supervisor, chef, psychologist, negotiator, drudge, and a whole host of those other tasks you Moms understand so well. If they gave a Nobel Peace Prize for the mothers of five sons, she'd have won it.
Did I say five? That meant that for a goodly portion of that time she was pregnant, and once she needed major surgery (which was botched, and still troubles her forty years later).
There was no sick pay, no overtime, and no family-free vacation where she could renew her energies.
Ladies, if you're a stay-at-home Mom I would never suggest that you were "incompetent". You have my utmost respect.