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When exactly did this self-harm nonsense become so trendy?

Who is advocating this behavior? Who is responsible for making it popular? To the best of my knowledge, kids weren't cutting back when I was in school, and if they were then they REALLY did a good job of hiding it and NEVER discussing it at all. There are 7 BILLION people on Earth, and yet the most popular excuse for cutting that I've heard so far is "no one understands me, you have no idea what it's like to be me"......are you kidding me, do these cutters truly believe that they are somehow special enough to be the FIRST and ONLY person to think no one understands them? If cutting truly helped anything, then a cutter would eventually "cut the hurt out" and be cured.....ANY and ALL responses accepted.....

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this is a good rant and really a great question. so much so that it lead me to do some quick research. self-harm has been around forever it seems. you remember that Van Gogh cut of his ear and that was very famous.that was self-induced harm

in 1913 L. E.. Merson wrote, in his opinion that self-harm ( cutting) was a substitution for masturbation.

in 1983 karl Mennger coined a phase " partial suicide ", again his opinion.

self harm under Wikipedia states that cutting has been on a steady increase since the 1980"s. go to wiki....its really a good read and quite informative !

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Excellent!! I know it's been around forever, but it seems to be a constant thing with kids these days......talking is apparently no longer a helpful form of expression.....of course, thanks to technology, these punk kids don't even know what a conversation is.....
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i too am tired about hearing about all this self-cutting.in today's media, its like planting a seed in someone mind to try, to do it and to get hooked on this form of self multilation as a way of coping and dealing with things in society.
i might have trouble expressing my opinions sometimes but...............................
i feel for those that do this....i think that its a cry for help, a slient one, usually hidden from others with scars that last forever....like a tattoo that constantly reminds them of pain and anguish.
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Hey now, I'm all tatted back. (Do regret a couple)
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Van Gogh was insane. These people that cut themselves are seeking attention. Just the wrong kind. Sucks to be them.
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Yeah, I have to say, cutting one's OWN ear off is not a good argument for a person being sane......8)
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Excuse me? I cut, okay? And hardly anyone understands. They feel awkward, they don't care, they think it doesn't matter. And cutting isn't "trendy". Anyone who does it to be "cool" is a MORON.

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It's trendy by definition, YOU didn't invent cutting, you heard about it from somewhere else and decided to do it, that is the definition of trendy....
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No I didn't. I never had an experience or read about it. I picked up scissors and did it. Then I went online and found out what I was doing. I was diagnosed with depression. We don't do it to be trendy.
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Please don't cut. If you're depressed reach out and get help. I care about you and don't want you to do this. I've seen lots of kids with cuts. It isn't pretty. It's pathetic they feel so poorly about themselves. Please get help.
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I know you didn't see it somewhere and followed. Your basically asking without words that you need someone to help. Please ask or talk if it helps. I just want to say whatever you are going through now as bad as it might be, it will change for you. The only way is up when things are down. Hope you feel better
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Pathetic? Please, Shove all that pity up your ass.
And I don't need help.
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Yeah.....you sound perfect......seriously, get help......
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Idk but its popular among emo scene people it seems to be their style but not all of course and there are others who aren't who do it but idk it's just another excuse people made up for their way of dealing with things

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I know.....because actually TALKING with someone is just an absurd thing to do these days apparently......instead, the LOGICAL answer is to hide in a bedroom and cut......makes perfect sense to me......
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Yes and the media has a lot to do with it like MTV showing it
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I agree, I've never heard of cutting when I was young. The 70's, I guess we got our self harm from, well anyone from the 70's knows what I'm saying

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Yeah, but the "self-harm" in the 70's was a group thing, ya'll would get together and "harm"......these cutters are hiding in shame in their rooms by themselves.....craziness.....
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I feel for em, life ain't that frecking hard.
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Great question....People say it's attention, I think that might be part of it. Sometimes humans will be humans and follow others, usually believing what they think will make them better. Most of us look at what we don't have and try to go toward that instead of looking at what we were given. We are always going to be around things that are unfair so we should just deal with it....Again, most are worrying about who they want to be instead of realizing who they are becoming...

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Holy awesome answer Batman!!! 8)
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Aw, thank you NAFTA! c:

~ Great question of yours too.
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I don't know about "great" question.....but seriously, it's like everyday on here I see 20 friggin questions about people cutting and wanting to stop but they don't know how......I mean, it's not like a knife jumps into their hands......and what, are their mouths broken?? Can they NOT talk??? They surely know how to type.....
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Ahhhhh....That bothers me a bit too. A bit of corruption now, huh? I wish I could help everyone of them but they are doing this to themselves. You know it's bad, so go get help. If you are really that upset you have to get up and fight toward your happiness. No matter how hard it seems. I feel that the only ones who have actually worked for something meaningful are the ones slowly perishing with white hair..
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Where......did......you.....come......from????
That was awesomely put.....
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Thank you, I'm sure that was a compliment of yours and it feels great to receive one. :) Where did I come from? Haha..That's a silly question!
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I'll give you a response alright, and shove it up your backside! Seldom, if ever, have I had the disgust and anger reading such uncaring, ignorant, violent crap as yours. I've reported your statement to the moderators as offensive and, if they don't can your sorry backside permanently from this site, I'm sure as hell through with it!

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What?? Calm down, it is pretty stupid
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Well have you ever been to the point where you felt that was the only way to escape? So many people do and if people do it to be "trendy", I hope you face pain and heart ache so bad that you WANT to cut. Not to be trendy, but because you hurt.
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Nope, don't get it.
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Then don't talk about something you don't understand.
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You didn't invent cutting, you heard about it from somewhere and decided to cut, that is the definition of a trend.......and how is cutting oneself a logical response? Has any of you cutters ever heard of TALKING to people......you are in no way special in the fact that life isn't fair.....so, like I said, it's a trend
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Give it up xavia, that's self pity talking. You need to look at things a bit differently. There are kids who don't survive their childhood, they're beaten to death by their ever living parent. If you're alive, you're already better off.
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Oh, I more than understand mental illness.
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No, Im protecting those who cut who might cut after possibly reading this IDIOTIC CRAP. And saying that you can't be sad because someone has it worse is saying that you can't be happy because someone else has it better.
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And the worst part is how they act all defensive.....as though they're being attacked about it......deep down they know it's wrong, they know it doesn't actually help anything, yet they vehemently defend it as though it were a religion.....makes literally no sense at all.....IF it did make sense, then they would be able to calmly and logically explain the exact way it is ANY good......but they know it's not good, they know it only furthers their problems and even further solidifies them in a life of "misunderstood seclusion".....
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I still stumped, don't see how this practice could possibly make anyone feel better.
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Indulging yourself in your sadness is nothing but self pity.
You guys just need to get over yourselves. You are not unique, your life isn't so awful that nobody will understand, there is nothing new under the sun
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I don't get it either nafta. Anybody I knew that cut did it as a suicide, not as a habit.
There does seen to be way more melodrama with teens now

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I know..... a habit......a friggin HABIT......the whole thing is mind boggling......and someone, somewhere along the way in the near past made this activity seem cool, because if someone didn't glorify it in some manner, then it wouldn't be one of the constant questions I've seen on Ask as of late
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I'm trying to imagine these cutters having kids......and then finding out that their kids are cutting.......how would that conversation go??????? Hey son, here's the knife I used to go hide in my bedroom with....go have a blast......
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I still can't wrap my mind around the actual cutting... I won't even get a shot because I'm allergic to pain...
Hey wait, we just need to talk them into tattoos instead, they get pain, we get entertained
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Nafta, I figure the act is one way of asking for help. Yes, it seems more, dare I say, 'popular' now, but I blame the media/internet for that. Maybe years ago kids did cut and harm themselves, but it wasn't discussed. Surely you've seen films of people banging their heads against the floor, furniture or walls. Mental health is a very intricate field. I find that the older I get, the less patient I am with things. I try to subdue that tendency. Things weren't better years ago, and in some ways things aren't better now. At least we can openly talk about stuff now. If one person feels less alone, that helps. Yeah, I think a lot of this type of thing might be bogus, but there really are sufferers out there.

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That's just it.....these kids AREN'T openly talking about stuff....they're hiding alone in their bedrooms......talking seems to be the last thing they DO wanna do.....
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umm...people do it because its sometimes the only way people can let things out and deal with things because they dont know how to let it out in other ways and people dont understand....and its NOT for attention and scene kids and emo's are different LOOK IT UP!

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I'm sure when I was in school some people did it but like you said no one ever talked about it and it wasn't wide spread. We didn't have "emo" kids and from what I understand there are even different versions of "emo". Sure there were kids that were depressed but it wasn't a fashion statement like it is now. The problem is kids are coddled and paid attention to when they act like knuckleheads. When I worked in the phych hospital about 25% of the kids were there for real problems. The rest were there because their parents didn't know how or were to lazy to raise them and the kids were out of control. Kids today are spoiled and bored so they get attention or stir up trouble any way they can. All you hear is my life sucks or my mom loves my brother more than me.... wha wha wha!!! You ask them why the feel that way and they can't give you a straight answer. This is definitely the all about me generation... That's the problem! These are also the kids that are "Bronies".....ggeeeezzzzeeee anything to say look at ME!!!!!!!!

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THANK THE GOOD FRIGGIN LORD ABOVE!! Exactly.....you ask'em what's wrong and they are at a total loss for words......but now thanks to technology these imbeciles don't even have an inkling as to what a conversation is!! So....it's off to the bedroom to hide in seclusion with their "buddy" and cut cut cut.....yay!! I got all my problems solved by making blood come out of my body....maybe I'll do it again tomorrow because I had a bad hair day and no one seems to care...8(
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There's only 1 "Emo" stereotype. You might be referring to the other "dark" stereotypes: "Gothic" and "Scene". But none of those are the same. :0
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I agreed with you for the most part. I've seen kids in jail cutting and its bad
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They want attention and they all want to be "special" or "different" it's just ridiculous what lengths these kids will go to so they get it. Not always but for most of these kids it's a matter of causing a little excitement. They need constant attention or at least they think they do.... They are in so much trouble when they enter the "real" world and if you're a jack hole people just walk away... Good luck with that!!!
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Oh and I don't think mplss is a fan.... just sayin!!!! ;o)
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Oh.....I thought I heard wedding bells......8)
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Emo, Gothic, Scene...... it's the same thing with special little sub titles and different lip stick.
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Yeah this was one of those kick a hornets nest and bring on the bleeding angry hearts kind of questions.... Nicely done! lol
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The best solution for these kids is make them get a job. They obviously have way too much time on their hands
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YES!!

I'm soooooo bored....is there anything to do......I can't think of anything to do......why am I so bored......blah blah wah wah......

This is why school is year round in other countries.....
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I agree with you 100% Boo....
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so many do it just for attention & so people will feel bad for them or think its cool or w/e but a lot of them don't
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I know that some of them truly have an issue. I'm not saying by any means that all of them are just doing it for attention. The sad part is that the kids that are just doing it for attention are making it so common that the kids that truly need help aren't taken as seriously. It's a sad situation all the way around.
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Today we just hear more than we did when we were younger. People abused and beat their children since the beginning of time. But everything that happened at home stayed at home. No one talked about it. Men beating their wives was hidden. Everyone knew. No one said anything. Thank god everything is out there now. People know they do not need to be abused or abuse themselves. They know they are not alone. There is help out there. There are people out there with the knowledge to help. It is great that there are places young people can go to ask questions and get help. I wish I knew of someplace when I was young.

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It's a mental illness

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For some it can be an emotional escape like that trick used by Major Payne "Want Me To Show You A Little Trick To Take Your Mind Of That? Now You Might Feel A Little Bit Of A Pressure"

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I dont understand it there are plenty of really depressed people but they dont go hole there self up somewhere and cut they go get help with their problem and i think if they actually decided to talk to someone instead of cutting they would see that there are a lot of people that actually do get them

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It's always existed but now it will put a lot of people in the mental institution

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Because if you despise your self how can you love others you will do what you do to your self to others
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I believe this type of self-harm has become "trendy" ever since people (mostly teens) have been trying to live up to the images they see on TV and in magazines. There are probably various reasons that cause people to harm themselves this way, like depression, etc. But this seems to be the main reason.

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