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How do I get myself out of this mess? Read description please.

alright, here's the VERY quick version of things that all happened today because I have to keep it under 1200.
I'm dating a wonderful guy named Dylan. Met a guy ALSO named Dylan. Dylan #2 and I began talking every day and developed feelings for each other. he asked me to leave my boyfriend every day, but today asked if I would cheat on him for Dylan #2. I said yes.
Dylan #1's friend Shane called me beautiful today. Dylan found out & was FURIOUS and threatened him.
I have been abused physically & sexually by 3 diff guys in the past year. my trust is about as low as it goes- I can't hug my dad without flinching yet I can fall asleep on Dylan #1. I'm still terrified of telling Dylan 1 though after finding out how protective he is of me all the sudden. I'm also scared to tell Dylan 2 that I made a mistake.
no hateful things please.. you don't know all the details. I need help. I'm lost & feel so guilty... how do I get myself out of this mess without hurting someone?

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sorry! there you go. details are limited so I just ask tht you not judge the situation or me.
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Okay number one I'm very sorry about what happened number two you need to stop focusing guys for a while just focus on yourself just tell them you are not interested but to remain friends. It will be hard for a while but trust me, it will all turn out peachy!
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it's alright, I appreciate that. & yeah.. I've thought about that. thank you (:
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No problem, good luck to you and sending prayers!
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Minji

I was gonna read it.....but there isn't a description. :( EDIT: There isn't a need to tell Dylan #1 anything if you didn't actually cheat on him. And you could say to Dylan #2 "I made a mistake, I didn't know what I was saying.". Hopefully everything works out for you!! <3

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sorry! there you go. details are limited so I just ask tht you not judge the situation or me. I need help here /:
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now that I think about it.. maybe you're right. maybe I don't need to tell my boyfriend. maybe if I just lay it on the table with Dylan #2 things will figure themselves out. thanks (:
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1.) I'm sorry that happened to you :(
Also just do what u think is right. Hopefully u know what to do. I'm not sure if ur religious or not but pray for forgiveness and clarification. (if your not religious I don't mean to offend you) again I'm sorry.

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I appreciate that. actually, I lost my Christian faith around six months ago when the 3rd guy came around.. but I'm working on it. if you look at my last question you'll see that actually. thanks .
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Tell Dylan#2 that you have a boyfriend and are not willing to cheat on him
Don't mention anything to your boyfriend, I think that would make things worse for you and Dylan#2
Hope I could help! :)

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yeah, I think Im prolly going to do what you & minji are saying. I think it sounds the best.. except for Dylan #2 being beyond pi*sed off when I tell him.. well thanks for the good answer tho (: & for the follow lol. we're a lot alike it it seems actually :3
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Haha yeah you seem really xool! And you're welcome for the answer, I try to help in anyway possible! And by the way, my dad forced my family to stop believing in church and stuff but I'm trying to get back into faith, kinda like you lol! Love your hair by the way, wish I had hair like that!
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thx c: & sorry to hear tht. it sucks yeah? good luck. lemme know what works lmao.
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It's not so bad. Sure will! Hey do you kik?
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no :b I'm off the media for a while
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Ah, okay well I guess we ca talk on here!
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sure (:
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Yay :) so what's up?
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Tell Dylan#1, w/ a friend, that you are breaking up w/ him because he is over protective and you found a new guy. Breaking up is apart of growing up

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I don't think she wants to break up with Dylan#1
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she doesn't.
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OLIVIA ! Dont do what Dylan did to you. please im beging you as your best friend leave this dylan#2! please please. dont go back to that. why leave a guy you care about for a guy who would just cheat on you. if he is asking you to cheat he would do it to.

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I will NEVER break up with my dylan. ever. especially not for this guy. I was hoping you wouldn't see this question cuz I know you're probably going to tell him. -.-
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