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I live with pregant gf we argue and fight alot should i move out ?

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John_8715

Are you the father, if you are, and going to move out, I hope you realise the responsibility that you have, if you can't get along with your girlfriend, then leave, but discuss it first, and tell her that you will be there to support her and your child, both financially, and emotionally, and that you will do anything it takes to make this right, she and the child come before you, I hope you understand that.

Does she work, do you work, do you have a plan, this situation is huge, please don't turn your back on it, you can never get back your yesterdays...

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Hi !!! Are you in contact with AL? Please tell her I was asking for her! : )
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I will, she will be happy to hear that Bubbles )
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Thank you!!!! And great answer. as always!!
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I wrote her and told her what you said, I'm sure she will be pleased, I would like to see her come back, but I don't know, she was very upset...
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Johnny! I was not aware of any issue until now, I thought she was busy. I noticed I couldn't get into her profile,but figured she'd be back since it wasn't deleted!! what happened ? It's ok if you can't discuss!! I understand !
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Well she left the site, and she asked me not to say anything, but she was attached by someone on here, and was very hurt and angry, this same person has done it to others as well, including yours truly, really blindsided me, it was all lies, and the he got at least one other to rally around him, that was jtrmom, who changed her name to 2one2, at least that's my best recall, it was really ugly, and all over a girl that this guy thought led him on, and he made a huge scene, and a plea to the mods to dealete his account, said he was in tears, friggen pansy, you get who I mean.

Anyways, subsequent to all this he went after AL for no good reason, no validation, and just a bunch of fabrications, and she said she does not need this s__t, so she bailed, and I am very bothered by it, not so much that she left, even though I am, because I can still contact her, but upset at the person who disrupted the entire site with his brand of bs, enough for now...
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Wow!! Well I truly hope she reconsiders. She is certainly entitled to take a break, or delete. Once she steps away she hopefully will come to the realization that some people thrive on drama, and just let it go.
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I hope so Bubbles...
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Believe she thought he cared? Sounds familiar like a dozen more. Don't the mods read any of this hurtful trash thrown at innocents? Maybe all the newer ones coming in are an influence. Shameful and destructive and he has loads of followers?
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The mods confuse me, you never know what they'll do...
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You didn't say if your the father?

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no if she's pregnat she's havin harmaon problems!!!!! because she's pregnate but hey thats ur choice..

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why do you and her argue? is it your baby? do you and her truly love each other? and do you and or want go to jail under domestic violence order? how old are you? see what i mean ? any more questions?

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You need to stay, don't leave she is obviously cranky because she is PREGNANT! but she just needs some one there for her and you will make it a whole LOT worse if you just walked out on her. If you walk out on her, I'm going to be mad at you

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No. She needs you now more than ever. You need to work things out with her.

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Regardless of if you move out, you'll have a responsibility to support the child financially (assuming you're the father) and you should try to have a good relationship with the child if you want to be a good dad. That will necessitate having at least a civil relationship with your girlfriend.
That being said, I think it makes a difference if you're fighting about stupid stuff or foundational issues that are really important. Also, keep in mind that even couples who've been together for years and years don't always like everything about the other person. Do you argue and fight just because you don't know how else to act toward one another -- has it become a habit? When you do argue and fight, do you "fight fair"?
Could be you both just need to grow up a little and act like adults. You don't say how old you are or your girlfriend, but it really doesn't matter. Maturity has to do with more than just age.

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Kim, you bring a lot of valid questions, I wanted to ask some of these but did not want to pry, but with information, comes power, and in this case the power to give more, and better suggestions, thanks for taking the time to bring it a step further )
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Hi, John. I went through a lay counseling program quite a few years ago where I learned that sometimes it's better to ask a question or two instead of just offer advice. Asking a pointed question can get to the heart of the issue, and if the person arrives at a good answer with some guidance instead of just being told what to do, they often feel better about it.
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Good point, and I agree, I would like to do more to help, the one thing I thought was that he may not be proactive, and it upsets her, or she may have her hormones raging, and he doesn't know how to deal with it, I don't know, and he does not seem to be forthcoming with more information...
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Healthy relationship contains fight love tears smile that makes chain of true love.

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If your the father i'd stay. She needs support, were you guys fighting before? If you guys werent then that means that shes stressed and stuff with her being pregnant and thats why ya'll are fighting. Give her a break, treat her nice. And dont agrue back, that'll make her even more stressed. Good luck!

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I agree with many of the commenters. She is having huge hormonal issues right now and you should put on your big boy pants and deal with it. There are many books out there for expectant fathers that explain exactly what she's going through. Perhaps reading one will get you in perspective.

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Are u fighting about the baby?

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if its you child stay, if it's not bail

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don't move out. Be a good father and show compassion to both mother and child. Set a good example to the next generation.

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If you are having trouble already, be prepared for it to get a lot more intense raising a child. If moving out,and being apart for awhile, gives you a break,and leads to coming back with a better attitude and tolerance, go ahead.( of course, she is able to support herself,and if needed, help.) This does not relieve you from any responsibilities as a partner and father.

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She's just all angry cause she's preg she's having mood swings so u should just go along with what she says and stay till she's back to normal

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She's moody an emotional bc she is pregnant. Men need to realize pregnancy is not easy an blow things off when women get upset an help out more.

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Shes having mood swings but if you do move out dont be all angry when you get child support crap from her

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I'm assuming your the dad.

No. You should try everything possible to work it out. You owe that to that child. If you can't get along then you shouldn't have had sex.

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