2 years ago
Last edited at 2:15PM on 10/30/2011
Are you the father, if you are, and going to move out, I hope you realise the responsibility that you have, if you can't get along with your girlfriend, then leave, but discuss it first, and tell her that you will be there to support her and your child, both financially, and emotionally, and that you will do anything it takes to make this right, she and the child come before you, I hope you understand that.
Does she work, do you work, do you have a plan, this situation is huge, please don't turn your back on it, you can never get back your yesterdays...
You need to stay, don't leave she is obviously cranky because she is PREGNANT! but she just needs some one there for her and you will make it a whole LOT worse if you just walked out on her. If you walk out on her, I'm going to be mad at you
Regardless of if you move out, you'll have a responsibility to support the child financially (assuming you're the father) and you should try to have a good relationship with the child if you want to be a good dad. That will necessitate having at least a civil relationship with your girlfriend. That being said, I think it makes a difference if you're fighting about stupid stuff or foundational issues that are really important. Also, keep in mind that even couples who've been together for years and years don't always like everything about the other person. Do you argue and fight just because you don't know how else to act toward one another -- has it become a habit? When you do argue and fight, do you "fight fair"? Could be you both just need to grow up a little and act like adults. You don't say how old you are or your girlfriend, but it really doesn't matter. Maturity has to do with more than just age.
If your the father i'd stay. She needs support, were you guys fighting before? If you guys werent then that means that shes stressed and stuff with her being pregnant and thats why ya'll are fighting. Give her a break, treat her nice. And dont agrue back, that'll make her even more stressed. Good luck!
I agree with many of the commenters. She is having huge hormonal issues right now and you should put on your big boy pants and deal with it. There are many books out there for expectant fathers that explain exactly what she's going through. Perhaps reading one will get you in perspective.
If you are having trouble already, be prepared for it to get a lot more intense raising a child. If moving out,and being apart for awhile, gives you a break,and leads to coming back with a better attitude and tolerance, go ahead.( of course, she is able to support herself,and if needed, help.) This does not relieve you from any responsibilities as a partner and father.