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What do I do with myself?

I hate my mom. she makes my days worse, I can't handle her crap anymore, I can't tell you how many times I've considere running away. I'm 15..where am I gonna go? no where so I'm stuck here. where do I start. I'm a fun loving guy in school but once I come home then my depression kicks in and I just sit in my room. my mom always comes in and yells at me to come out but I hate talking to her, every second of it. she makes my life a living hell every day and I have no say. if I do say something then she yells and takes away the only things that actually make me happy. call me a girl but one night I just sat in my room and cried because I felt worthless and there was no way out. she never let's me go places to hang out with friends. I live in the country so I can't walk around town I can't even go on a bike ride because she thinks ill get hit by a car...ill be 16 next month and I've never been on a bike ride...I really don't know what to do anymore...I really hate my mom.

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Hello.
You know, Your situation sounds very similar to one I have seen my friend go through.
My friend, didn't like his parents because he thought they were "Untrusting, Neglectful, and uncaring.", But really, they were TRULY caring for him.
He admits now, later in life, that he was wrong. That, He was more caught up in what he wanted, than what was important. He thought his parents were being mean, and he swore he hate them. He now admits he was wrong, and regrets the days he "Swore hatred."
Give it time, friend. You may not be seeing the bigger picture.
You may think your mother is "Giving you crap", but she may just be trying to keep you safe.
Sure, She may be a little over protective, but better that (Usually) than just throw caution to the wind.
And if she really is giving you "Crap"...Well, You only got a few more years.
But, Instead of waiting. Try having a talk with your mother, and try to solve your problems with her.
Hope this has helped.
And as always, Have a good day.

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That was kind of you to give so much time and thought. Stars and friendship!
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Thank you..ill work on it..well try its hard at the moment
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You are most certainly welcome.
Live long, and prosper.
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Don't hate your mom. She loves you. Maybe she's stressed or something. Try talking to her and let her know how you feel

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You Should Talk to Your Mom. Tell Her How you Feel. You're Young. You Should Start Enjoying Life. Not Being Stuck In Your House.

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can't you get your counselors at school to help? they could recommend you to a psychiatrist (not sure what your mom would have to say about that though).

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She is afraid brother. You need to constantly remind her you understand her fears and that you will make sure you are careful. Start with thanking her for the little things she does, "cooking, cleaning, working, caring." Unfortunately you will have to act like the adult for a little bit. Once the relationship starts smoothing out, you can calm her fears about you getting hurt by showing her you make good decisions and care about your own well being and health.

Hope it gets better for you.

BTW, crying is natural and helps the pain come out. Not girly at all.

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great reply,much insight and compassion. good job.
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Ill try my hardest thank you
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As a parent chances are there's more to it. I'm sure your parent s care about you very much and You're a spoiled brat..
The law says I'm LEGALY responsible for my children until they are 21(used to be 18) So as long as I AM.... they do what I say...... In MY house .
My advice to you: GROW -UP become a responsible adult MOVE out and get a life.

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First off I'm not a spoiled brat both of my parents are currently unemployed. I was asking for help not a response to make me feel worse about myself.
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I hope you " as a parent" treat your children better than you do strangers,somehow I get the impression that YOU don't. this kid was looking for advice,not pity or anger. your internal anger boils over very quickly,too quickly.
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Being a spoiled brat is irrelevant. His mother is not helping him grow up, but actually preventing it. Since you added the fact they are unemployed adds to the fact they are scared.

Think about it, they have lost all control of their lives so they turn to control the only thing they can, "their child". On top of that they are starring down the path of their own mistakes and gripping down on you in order to stop you. I would imagine an early pregnancy was part of their experience and really want to make sure you don't have an opportunity for that to happen in your life.

Once again, you need to work over time calming their fears and showing them your are responsible.

Stay strong and know that ignoring idiots in life is far harder than dealing with parents, because there are so many idiots.
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it's hard to say what you can do. other than not letting you ride a bike on dangerous country roads,and not letting you hang with friends I town, you don't really say what,specifically she has done. I can read that you're angry. but this could be one of those circular kind of situations. she bitches and you get angry,so you act sullen and try to isolate. so she sees that and bitches more in an effort to get you to open up. which makes you angry,so you act more sullen and distant. so,she tries harder,you get angrier,she tries more you get madder. so,it's up to both of you to try to stop this. try really hard to see everything from her point of view. not that it makes her right and you wrong. but,a person cannot. really discuss and persuade successfully. until they can understand the other person. you may even have to admit some difficult truths to yourself. but so what,we have to do that at times anyway. that's just part of being an adult. after you've tried,and feel you've had some success in understanding her,which I admit,will take some time,you'll be ready to really talk things over. by that time you ought to have gotten an idea how you want to approach the things you want to change. you sound like a smart guy,you will get through this And have a new understanding and friendship with your mom. you didn't mention your father. is he there with you two? what are his thoughts? is he an ally? is he available to help mediate this,so each of you understand each other better? that would be a big help. I know I ran on about this,I did because it's something that means a lot to me,and I felt like I could sort of " feel " your frustration and I was touched by your post. I hope your future is filled with good things.

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Thanks for the help, I'm trying my hardest with everything but things can get really hard and I just don't know what to do anymore. My dad is alright I don't really have problems with him because I think he kinda understands in a way and gives me some space but then there is my mom...
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do you feel like you could talk openly and freely with your dad? you really need someone closer to your life that you can talk to, so you can gain a perspective on the problem. if not, all I see in your future is more anger and frustration. that can eventually. lead to a complete breakdown of your relationship with your mom. I'm sure you really don't want that. so,yeah,in spite of your frustration, keep trying to see her side also. if you can't do that,well, it just won't get better as soon as it could. the next time I see your name I hope to see that you've gotten most of the problem. good luck,I know this really a hard thing for you.
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