She herself cannot change him, that requires an act of his will. However, she can give him the incentive to change, and it could have a very good effect. Pray for the man with alcoholism as well as his fiancé, and ask God to bless their relationship. I find it interesting that many Christians of your protestant ilk wish that God will forgive you for anything, no matter what you do, and still love you and accept you into heaven regardless of the merit of your actions. Yet you do not have the desire to pour out that same supposed automatic forgiveness and love upon those who are just as human and faulty as you are. Instead you condemn them as hopeless causes and do nothing to try and help them. You say to those people with your words "be ye warmed and filled; yet give them not those things that are necessary for the body."-James Chapter 2 and so you profit nothing for your own soul, and certainly nothing for theirs. Be careful that you do not fall into this state of pride that so many do, for pride, especially pride of one's own righteousness, is the easiest target for the Devil's manipulation.
People can't change whenever they're told to do so. It's up to them to change themselves. Your friend's relationship is going to be full of chaos. I should know.... I have a huge family full of alcoholics. I know what it's like.
Like Dr. Phil says "Past behavior is an indicator of future behavior. You can pray God will open her eyes and that he will seek help. Women want to think it is them, that will finally make someone change. That their great love will change the person.
No, and here I will mention the Islamic view on wine: 1. God said in Qur'an: 90. O you who believe! Intoxicants all kinds of alcoholic drinks, and gambling, and arrows for seeking luck or decision are an abomination of Satan handiwork. So avoid (strictly all) that (abomination) in order that you may be successful. 91. Satan wants only to excite enmity and hatred between you with intoxicants (alcoholic drinks) and gambling, and hinder you from the remembrance of Allah and from the prayer. So, will you not then abstain?Allah's Messenger Mohammad said: "Allah has cursed wine, and whoever drinks it, whoever pours it, whoever sells it, whoever buys it, whoever presses (distils) it for another, whoever presses it for himself, whoever carries (transports) it, whoever accepts its delivery, or whoever eats (benefits from) its price (sale)."It is important to note that it isn?t just the drinking of alcohol that is haram. Allah , in His Infinite Wisdom, cuts off evil at its roots. Hence all those have been warned of destruction who play any role in the spread of this social evil: 1.*** The drinker of alcohol. 2.*** The one who pours it out for another to drink. 3.*** The one who sells it. 4.*** The one who purchases it, regardless of who it is for. 5.*** The one who is involved in its production. 6.*** The one who is involved in the transportation of alcoholic beverages. 7.*** The one who receives the delivery of it. 8.*** The one who benefits financially from the sale of alcohol. Words I love to Conclude. It is time to find out about Islam. It is time to find out about the truth by using your own Mind. A Time for Thought. A Time for Change. A Time for Action.
DEFINITELY NOT. I married one without seeing the signs. We had a new born 6 week old baby when I left him. He pretended to go to counciling & when I checked up he was at his session. He was having a session alright. At home having a drinking session with his other alcoholic cronies. Even a baby & the loss of a second marriage & family couldn't drive him to give up the drink. Once that is their lifestyle & life choice you have to think what's best for you & your children. You made the mistake & while you cant correct it you can remove the alcoholic by leaving them & making a better life for your children alone & in a safe environment.
If he doesn't want to change, nothing she can do will make him, and if their relationship is currently rocky because of his alcoholism, marriage will only make it worse. If he loves her, he needs to get clean first, then they can contemplate marriage. Otherwise she's in for a lot of heartbreak.