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Is it wrong to stay in a relationship with someone who says "i dont love you, but im learning"? Should i leave or wait till he loves me?

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he is probably trying to love you wait a while if there's still nothing then let him go

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Wait.

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If you feel the same way, you should stay and also if you love him and he doesn't yet wait till he does.

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It depends because if you wait to long then ur gonna miss all the good things that could come to you in life if you wait too long you could either lose you love for him
or you could miss your chances of someone new

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Very true but i have such strong feeling for him and i dont want to let him go but waiting for him to love me back is getting stressful.
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He sounds passive aggressive, is he saying this after any disagreements or even when you say you love him? How long have you known him? How long have you been dating? Is he older than you? Does he ever put you down... ever?

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He tells me he loves me i think by accident and wen i ask him if he means it he says hes "learning". ive been dating him for a couple months now, and no he doesnt not put me down. Its just that i cant wait forever cuz its too stressful and i lve him but i feel like ive waited long enough.
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Ok, good. Love doesn't learn to come out... several months... I'd say he's getting what he wants, but you aren't hun.
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Thank you. i jst feel like m being used and not ppriciaed but sometimes i feel like he does love me he just doesnt realize it yet.
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No problem. Nope, don't wait... trust your gut feeling! Learn to listen to your inner voice. If it doesn't feel right, it isn't.
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Btw, you deserve better ;-)
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you can't learn to love someone you have to love or feel his or her vibe from the start you should leave him

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It is not wrong to stay in that kind of relationship I was in your shoes before. You just have to know that you love them and believe that they can love you the same way.

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If you really love him then wait otherwise move on.

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Wow - how does that make you feel? Don't be second best. You deserve better.

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thank you very much. he says he cares about me but he doesnt love me yet. If im in a relationship with him, shouldnt he love me back? i dont think i should have to wait for him, we shouldnt be dating if he doesnt love me right?
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People date until they fall in love or the break up. I dont' know how long you have dated, so I cannot really answer that question, but usually in two years time you should either stay together or break up. Some people fall in love at first site. Some people take longer. If you are not happy, then perhaps you have not found the right person.
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Alot of people don't know how to be caring and loving And people can love but not be in love. So ask him what does he think love is all about and maybe you can have a meeting of the minds Since he is learning or willing to learn then there is hope So hang in there and good luck

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Thank you. He also says that e cant love anyone else till he loves himself but i dont love myself and i love him more than air.
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There is a support group called sex and love addicts anonymous So I suggest maybe seek support from the group. I know how he feels. Cuz I am trying to be kind to myself. But the group can help you to tolerate and understand what you are going through
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