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Hi everyone. I have had some trouble with my parents lately:/. I dont think I am a bad person or anything, and I dont think I ask for alot. But I feel like my parents vent their stress through me. Whenever my parents mess up on something that I have nothing to do with, they will find a way to yell at me one way or another. Whenever I try to reason with them and tell them that they are yelling at me for no reason they get even more upset and make me feel like a disgrace:(. And whenever i ask for something, no matter how small, they get really defensive and say: "SORRY YOUR LIFE IS SO HORRIBLE" or "GOD, ITS NEVER ENOUGH FOR YOU." And sometimes I feel like they yell at me for my siblings' mistakes. Like the other day my younger sister broke something, and I went to tell my mom so she would know to come and help, and I got yelled at for being a tattletale. I just feel like
there is no way to please them. I try, I really do, but no matter what I'm doing something wrong. Thanks for reading! oh and please dont say "try and takl to them because they will just get upset.

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Your parents are using guilt tactics to shame you, don't believe what they say about you.

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You should try finding a trusted adult and tell them to help you approach your parent and tell them how they make you feel. You should not feel guilty because it is not your fault that they are treating you that way. Maybe they are under pressure and don't how to handle it.

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i know how you feel my parents are the same way.you could do what i did,i quit talking to them(expect when they asked me a question) then after a while they'll ask u what';s wrong then tell them how you feel,no matter what goes on you feel like your the one getting blamed for it.then they should stop blaming you.if you need any other advice just let me know,happy to help.

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Sounds like your parents are under a lethal amount of stress, for something. And they can't find nothing else to get it out but you. You must give them that something. At this point you could be the most clearheaded person in your house at this moment, which means you get to be the adult and help them out, think things through, remember they're stressed and can't think properly. If your parents use you to clear their stress then you have to think of something else for them to releive that stress. Don't tell them, just let it get their attention and unconsciously they'll leave you alone, eventually.

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What I would do is focus some attention on what your parents do for you. Are they always mean and uncaring? Do they clothe you? Do they feed you? Do they ever do nice things for you? Do you ever laugh with them? Or are they truly 100% evil? All parents have good days and bad days....just like everyone else. I would bet that if you made a list of all the nice things your parents do for you, and made a list of all the times they snapped out of frustration or stress.....that the list of good things would be much longer. But if your parents are really, really, really bad people....you need to tell someone and ask for help.

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