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Having to bear painful remarks always

I am a 16 years old girl.some boys in school always makes comments like " you are short , crazy etc ". Previously I used to take that lightly but now I see its increasing and other kids joining them. I fought verbally and gave proper replies , but it seems they enjoy whatever . Telling them to stop it increases them. Last day one boy had written on my shirt without my knowledge " kick me please " and everyone kicked me .I charged one of them and they replied " bullshit bustards need to be kicked in head " " I would like to hug u " I felt like so much humiliated . Also while getting in school bus they push me groups and then see the fun.But I dont know who did it. I cant help being what I am. Nature created me like that. Its not my fault. Last day in an excursion from school they said in groups " ur best place is in this zoo in same cage with a monkey ".They always make painful comments everyday. Sometimes I feel like giving up my life but I dont have enough courage to do that. Any ideas how to deal with such problems.

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Ok, never ever ever give up on life!!! That's never a logical solution. Usually ignoring them helps. If they realize that it doesn't bother you they might stop. Or stick up for yourself. They'll realize you're not just a doormat and maybe they'll be intimidated. I hope this helps. And promise me that you'll never do anything that you might regret (self harm, etc)!

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I dont have the courage to harm myself or anyone , that's why they take advantage
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stand up to them
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I cant fight with boys
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i want to say get them back but i cant cuz you need to be the better girl
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1. ignore them or 2. Kick 'EM in the nuts.

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hahhahahahhahahaLOL
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short is fun just ignore them theyre stupid and if you dont react theyll stop bugging you and wont care anymore so just go along with it and act like you like it to me it just sounds like your oversensitive and they do that to everyone its just a joke chill

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I ignored at first , but if it happens everyday and continuously then it feels different. Also they say seriously and laugh .
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people call me tall phsyco all the time but its okay its me and my nickname you just need to lighten up theyre not being mean youre just taking everything too hard
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tell them if your life is so boring that you have to talk about me then how do you have freinds oh wait you dont! or say something smart back to them and dont listen to bubbabee hun your perfect and please dont give up your life i would cry even though idk you i would cry i go through that same stuff every day! dont let them get to you tell someone

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listen to me im smart
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you just told her shes oversensitve!
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she is
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i would be like that to that was just plain mean
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no it wasnt its the truth
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I will try to ignore . Lets see how this helps
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ok i wish you luck!!!!!!!!!
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Are you wearing a glasses?
Well report this to the principal or your coneselor,..if there is n improvement, you are fine.

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I've had the kick me trick used on me once. Someone got a sticky note and wrote it on the note and stuck it to my back. When i noticed it, I took it off and added "seems like everyone else has", then promptly reattached it to my back. People thought I was gonna go home and kill myself or something, and when i didnt show up for about 4 days, they got worried. I used reverse psychology to make them feel like royal asses for what they did. You think anyone messes with the creepy emo guy anymore? Hell no.

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lolololol
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hahahaha right on dude!!!!!!!!!!!1
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niceeeeeeeeeeeeeeee and creepy emo guy??
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Yes. Very creepy xD
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thats hot xD
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oh and i emailed you!
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i hardly ever read my emails much anymore, but alright. I'll check it.
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yayyyyy lol i cant reply right now though cuz gmail is down :(
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well i replied to you so whenever you get it... yeah.
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Have you reported any behavior to the principal? Sweetie, the teachers and administration can deal with these people, but you have to tell them about it. Those other kids are being real bastards, so don't worry about getting them into trouble, because they got themselves into it. Even if you don't know exactly who did the pushing, you know the group of people who participated afterwards. Also, I know my high school had cameras installed, yours may too, so the principal can see exactly who's responsible.

Honestly hon, suicide is not a courageous act. It's a cowardly act. Those people aren't worth taking your life over. High school sucks, but it's temporary. I PROMISE you, this crap won't follow you to college. Be glad you won't be one of those people who peaks in high school and spends the rest of their life reliving their high school years. Be proud of who you are and let them KNOW you're happy with yourself. What does it matter how tall you are, what books you like, etc.? That's you, it doesn't affect them, and you shouldn't feel ashamed about it.

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yes I understand , but they do this thing everyday. Its not possible for me to fight with boys
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I would ignore them. You know who you are and that is all thy matters. Hope this helps!

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exactly
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Man..there is nothing wrong with being short..There is something wrong with kids who just don't get it and to make themselves feel important OR NOTICED, they have to bully and hurt the good ones .Feel badly for some because, some will end up in jail, and hopefully, some will GROW UP.

Don't act like it bothers you because that makes them crazy ,Next., send out word to the teachers and bus drivers that you are being bullied [tell them you don't want the kids to know you gave the officials the heads up] What did your parents say, by the way?

This kind of cruelty has got to be stopped and you can help stop it by letting adults in on the problem. I can't believe teachers have not noticed this. Tell you gym teacher and school nurse too. That you don't want to cause trouble, but you are being bullied.
Did you know, by the way, that the best in life comes in small packages?:).
All the best..I care, as do all the others here.... and you sound like a sweetie..:)

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I didnt wanted to involve my parents or teachers till now
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You have to tell them..,,just tell them not to mention your name. Let the teachers catch them in the act, but they need to know what is going on. THEY WANT TO KNOW .Bullying is not acceptable any place ..especially in schools.
Like I say..no one has to know you gave the heads up.
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okay , sure
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Nature..do you have a favorite teacher?
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nothing like that, all seem same to me more or less. They enter class , give lessons and go
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How about the school nurse or gym teacher?
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My hostel supervisor has some affection for me.
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hostel?
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yes I live in girls hostel little far away from my school. This hostel belongs to our school itself
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Well, I can tell you this.I was bullied, not badly..just unkind words, but these girls [female here] we soooooooooo nasty that they had to be rude to get attention.
Today, I am friendly with one of them..from facebook..Don't know where the other one is, but ehhh who cares lol
It's the boys that were nasty to me..They were the real smart ones and considered snobs, and as adults, they still are really not liked by the class..Some people never get it..I don't let it bother me because I AM A BETTER PERSON than they could dream of being and I am good with that. By the way, my best friend?.. ..God....with HIM every thing works for the good:) Trust me
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I don't know what a hostel is...I don't think anyway...
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girls dont tease me , all are scared of those boys. Nobody dares to confront them.
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its a school pupil's place of stay whose houses are far away from the institute
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Well you are lucky lol I had BOTH. .Royal pains! But I find everyone in life has an issue and it is all about how we treat it. We have to take control and ignore the garbage out there but know God will be with us always. .HE makes so much better..Just the way I have lived. .It's my opinion:)
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Ahhhh I see I learned something new.
.Sounds like you are in school with a bunch of spoiled , loser boys. Sure need to learn respect and manners. Surprised they don't get into trouble just for being the way they are and or act..
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they take advantage over
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must be spoiled, rich, sad, insecure human beings.. Kicking upsets me..That needs to be addressed. You might tell your hostel adm. what is going on..Just in private, maybe you 2 could get together..if you have confidence in her trust.
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Well nice person:) I have to go back out and finished my project. I hope you will trust God and ignore the rude..but if they hurt you, I hope you will let someone know. Physical harm is bad, as is mental anguish. God bless and hugs
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okay .thnx
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most welcome take care of yourself:)
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I remember being teased all the time about my burns as a child(burnt toast,burnt potato, burnt bacon) and that happen from 1st grade till 20 yrs ago and I Always felt like dying but like u said I didn't have the courage to do it so I lived through it all and I'm 50 now and even though it hurts like crazy right now your courage to not kill u or them can help u bear through it all so take that same courage and hold on your stronger then u think and never ever ever ever ever treat yourself the way they treat you.if its any help from afar I got ur back through my prayers

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everyday they do this
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Almost everyday when I thought I was fun with some nice ones some dumb person would always say things and it started when I was only 5 yrs old
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Bullies have the need to try to make other people feel small or insignificant in order to feel better about themselves. There are anti bullying laws in place in most schools but most young people don't want to draw more attention to themselves by "snitching. I love Lady Gaga and am 100% behind her in her "Born This Way" campaign against bullying. Don't be afraid to talk to those in charge in your school because if the bullies aren't held accountable for their actions they will continue and escalate in their verbal and physical abuse towards you and others.

Now, as far as myself, if the bullying were physical I would press legal charges of assault. If I had told school officials of the situation and someone were to lay hands on me, I would press charges against the school and specific individual employees for not making school a safe place.

If at all possible ask your school counselor to hold a school "anti bullying rally"with adults and students. Ask to be the speaker of meeting and tell the whole student body about your ordeal THEN ask if any of the other students are having this problem too. Then personally ask the specific students who have made derogatory comments/slurs toward or about you to join you at the podium on stage. Once they are on stage tell them how their comments and actions toward you have made you feel. THEN tell them while they are on the stage that they are free to blast you if they have the need. I guarantee none of them will. Bullies are cowards when the lime light is on them. Make sure to address how students who don't necessarily take part in the actual bullying BUT do form the onlooker crowd that feeds the bully's ego are guilty of bullying too.

Also, the way I handle what people think about me is ask the question "Is what they said true or not true?" So they call you short. Apparently this is true so why would you get mad or be hurt? Nothing you can do about it so why worry or get in your feelings? If what they say is not true, why should you care? Apparently these are not your friends or family so whatever they say should roll off you.

But NEVER allow someone else control you so much that you'd rather be dead. Dead is dead. The only people it will hurt is your family and true friends. The bullies will just move on to another target.

Sorry answer is so long but this problem is one needing addressed daily. ?

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Thnks for this answer. I find it useful. I never knew the meaning of term "bully" before unless people told here. Till now I thought I can manage this situation myself but beyond my control. Okay shall talk to the school councellor about it. I find this answer the most practical and useful here. Thanks again
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