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How can I get my daughter to like my girlfriend?

My daughter is 3. I've known my girlfriend forever. We had kids w/ other people then our partners left, we were friends for a year, we started dating 7mo ago. We didn't tell our kids until February. My girlfriend helped me raise my kids. Their mom left when they were 1 & 3, so my oldest was effected by it more so than my daughter
My daughter has aspergers, her counselor said that it could have a play in everything. Another thing her counselor said was my daughter is always the youngest & wants to be older than somebody. My girlfriend has 2 sons, 4 & 6. She likes them, but, as most people were when they were kids, wants to be older. The counselor suggested my girlfriend & I have kids but no thanks. Both of us are totally done with babies & I don't see how someone could say something so serious to make a toddler feel better for something that's likely a phase. My daughter loved her before we told her we were dating & the boys seem okay with it. My girlfriend said maybe she feels like I'm being taken away. I only leave without my kids for work, which is from 7am-2pm, not long. I want her to like her as my girlfriend. I've been trying to deal with it alone but I can't.
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It's fine for your daughter not to like your girlfriend. Normal even. To push this issue will only cause conflict with your daughter & build resentment toward the girlfriend. Tell your daughter it's okay for her to not like your girlfriend. However she must respect her & get along with her. This teaches several vital lessons. Your daughter is entitled to her individuality, her own opinions, feelings etc, but must maintain order, respect & peace. Perhaps if more had been raised this way we'd all be getting along & there'd be more peace in the world. :)

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impossible

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no its not.
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you have to know that you can expect ur daughter to replace her mom with anyone else,so you have to show her,not with words but actions,that ur gf is a great mom.U can do that by letting ur gf sleep at ur house with her kids and let her cook at morning take them all to a picnic just to let ur kids experience her and family mood.It will take time :)

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u can't expect **
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Although you cannot expect your daughter to take your girlfriend as her mother, you can think of ways to get used to the idea of you dating. Ask your girlfriend to take all the kids out for a picnic or something of the sort. With time, your daughter will get accustomed to it, but keep talking to her about it.

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I would say that your daughter needs to know from you and the girlfriend that the new woman is NOT replacing her mother. The girlfriend should not try to take the mother's place. She can be your daughter's friend, but not try to interfere with activities and visits with mother.

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