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Im 17 and my boyfriends 19, we've been dating 3years and were trying to decide if we should have a baby. I think I'm clinically depressed and I feel like I need a baby to keep me happy. What should I do? I feel like I need someone who needs me :-(

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1). Having a baby will NOT make you happy.
2). Don't have a baby 'til you & your sperm donor can afford to buy the diapers & clothes. (I've got a $1 bet you & your stud can't support yourselves, let alone a child!!)

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They could be financially stable
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You're only betting one dollar? You mustn't be very confident that they can't support themselves.
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If I'd bet what I'd want, I'd appear overtly pompous.... & nobody is gonna match a $10k bet anyway.
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NO Way I Dont Whant you to die

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thats not nice
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No! Unless both of you have stable jobs and a stable income and your own place and everything you need to bring another life into the world. A baby is a lot of work n won't make your depression go away you may need counseling

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It depends if you are ready. If you are then go for it. If you aren't then u might want to wait until u r. also it depends on your boyfriends choice.

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If you guys think you're ready for one.

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So you said you feel clinically depressed and you want someone who needs you right? Doesn't your boyfriend need you?
Anyways have a child if you both are financially stable and mentally stable and if your READY to assume full responsibility.

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I would advise you not to because you are still way too young. If you want to then go ahead, but be cautious because there could be consequences.

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Everyone feels this way but having a baby wont be an outlet. You could also have that thing where your depressed during and after pregnancy..Im thinking post pardon depression? But I ain't sure.. Anyways, you shouldn't have a baby just for this reason. Good luck though with whatever decision you make

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Clinical depressed and you want a baby? You have a great deal of therapy and growing up, if you think a baby is going to help you. No one should have a baby at 17.

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If you are depressed, you need to see a doctor. A baby at your age will only cause you more anxiety. Babies are not little dolls you can pick up and put down when YOU WANT to,. Babies need to be cared for, loved, bathed, changed. They need expensive diapers.. and clothes, lots of things. Until you fix your problem, You will not be able to cope ...Please see a doctor dear. Good luck. .

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Well if you think your ready to be tied down for a long time , and spend a lot of money , and get up in the middle of the night every night for a while , and stay home with the baby while your BOYFRIEND is out with his friends , then go for it !

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A baby will not make you happy.

Only you can make you happy and until you are able to achieve this, do not bring your woes onto an innocent child.

Seek therapy and medical attention so that you are healthy. Once you are, THEN you can visit the idea of having a baby.

Be sure you are financially capable of supporting this child on your own without any state aid before you contemplate this as well.

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Then the answer is NOOOO, Nada, NEVER, not on your life, Neach, NONONONONO!

Don't even BEGIN to think that having a child would "fix" what ails you. It doesn't and it won't. If you are suffering from any kind of health issue .. having a highly dependant child will complicate things worse than they already are.

You need to see a doctor to help get your brain imbalance back INTO balance before you even remotely consider bringing an innocent child into the picture.

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NO! NO! NO! Firstly - you are 17!! You are far too young to even be thinking about having a child!! And while you may think you will be with the guy you are with now forever (and you very well may be) the likelihood is slim. Have you no plans for college or career?? A baby will change all of that. Secondly - if you are clinically depressed you need to see a doctor. Having a baby will not fix this and you will only be bringing another person into your already unhappy existence. The stress of having a baby (particularly at such a young age) is unimaginable. It's a 24/7 responsibility for the next 18 yrs. It's not something you do because you believe it will make you happy - not that it may not make you happy. You need to figure out who you are and what you want to do with your life and have a child when you are ready for it, both emotionally and financially. Having a baby a bit later in life when you are more mature yourself and better mentally prepared for the challenge and joys of motherhood will make you happy - when the time is right!!

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No no no wait until your mid 20's

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I knew the answer was no when I saw that you are 17. No.

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hi dancer..long time no see..have a great week:)
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Hi, thank you. Same to you:)
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Your Too Young !!!!!

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Your boyfriend needs you. You're WAY too young to be having a baby.

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First, you are contemplating self medicating your condition with another human life?! Drugs or alcohol I can see. But a baby? What if that doesn't relieve your depression (clue for you: it will make it worse)? What do you do with this life you and your boyfriend have created that didn't meet your expectations? Booze and drugs you can flush down the toilet and swear off of them. Not so with a baby. That baby is the responsibility of you and the father for the next 18 years regardless of whether or not you ultimately realize what a horrible idea this is. Is this a commitment you are willing to live with until you are 35 years old?

So live with your boyfriend for a couple of years and see if you have what it takes to make a life together. You know, paying rent, utilities, food, clothing, gasoline, car payments, life insurance, car insurance, medical insurance -- that day-to-day grind we all have to come to grips with. Then, if the two of you still think you can take care of your own lives as well as another dependent human being, get married first to cover yourself and child with legal protections.

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If you are depressed then having a baby is the late thing you should do it will most likely make it worse baby blues is no joke

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i had my daughter at age 18 im still with her dad but having a baby at a young age is hard and your life changes i love my daughter and dont regret having her but your relationship will change with your boyfriend due to stress and tiredness but if you want go for it its a beautiful thing but be prepared for alot of arguing and fighting with your bf good luck (:

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Having a baby will take so much effort and time and it won't help make you happier. You havent fully developed. You are still a teen. You need to wait!

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Doesn't your boyfriend need you? Ya'll are too young to have a baby. You have the rest of your life ahead of you, do you really want to be up late taking care of a crying, screaming, stinky, and annoying baby now. You won't be able to party or go out with friends. That baby will change your life. You will become more depressed with the stress and anxiety of the baby. But if you really want one, please go talk to a parent, therapist, or trusted adult.

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don't until you guys are married cause he might run and leave your ass and never come back so dont do that and ruin your life until you both are married and i am 16 giving good advice.....just wait then if he stays with you when you are out of school then you can decideif you wanna baby but right now if you have a baby he probably will leave some guys are like that.....take my advice

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you should its a beautiful thing

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You need to marry him or the man you love if you want a baby."Wate for steak" that's a metophor saying wate for the man you love get married and then have your baby trust me and do that. If you have a baby before marriage that would be very hard if there was one thing I can tell you it would be: if you do get pregnant have your baby. It is all your choice best wishes make the choice that you want to.

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Listen to your heart & all I can say is if this is what you really truly want then go for it. But always have a big thought about money, living & baby stuff.

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no you think that when you'll have a baby you will be so happy to gether but the baby need a responsibility and you have to remember that both of you

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not unless you can afford it

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Why would you be so cruel to want to bring a baby into this world to "cure" your depression. It will only become worse because of the stress, lack of sleep etc. And then you could possibly end up neglecting a child that had no choice whether to come into this world or not. You are 17 not even an adult yet or even a young adult. You have so much to still enjoy. If your boyfriend is making you unhappy then leave, go travel, work on the ships, just enjoy your life. Seriously, don't be stupid.

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