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Marriage. Some people may think that's crazy, but dude, it will be so worth it! I mean, you might think you're gonna be with this guy forever, but anything can happen. At least when you're married, you both make a huge commitment to stay together no matter what.
Do you really wanna give your virginity to a guy that possibly won't even be in your life forever?

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Exactly!!!
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Do you actually think that marriage makes it guarantee you will NEVER break up? You're insane -.- There are people in this world who know how to find good relationships and add sex before marriage.
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"Break up?" It's not a bf or gf...not everyone divorces, my grandparents still love each other, after 50 years. Marriage is a commitment, and divorce is a last resort. You're more likely to stay with a spouse then a bf....
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Exactly Shaylen! My ex bf and I were together for a little over a year, and of course we thought we'd be together forever, but unexpectedly something happened, and we ended. Marriage is true commitment. Ever wonder why some people try to avoid marriage? That's why. They don't want to have to commit to anybody. As Shaylen said, "Divorce is a last resort." Also, people should only divorce under circumstances of abuse, any form of sexual immorality including adultery, prostitution, fornication, pornography, and incest. You know, problems that are ACTUALLY PROBLEMS. Not dumb little things like "They're not pleasing me enough, so I need to go find someone else." or "He doesn't have a very good job anymore, and it's getting too hard to pay the pills" That just selfish. Marital infidelity, drug abuse, and non-support are also serious considerations but since we know that we've already made a huge commitment to this person, finding a good counselor is a good first step to try to work it out. If that, and everything else is not working, then you can go to your last resort. divorce. So what i;m saying is.. Marriage is a LOT safer and committed, if of course you marry for the right reasons.
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Pay the BILLS***** not pills. -_- that was a fail hahah :P
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Depends when u think ur ready as a person, I didn't think I was ready until I was 16, so I waited

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You call having $ex until you're 16 waiting?
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No one should be ready until marriage. There was a question asking if 13 was too young for it. 13! And people were encouraging it!
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That's messed up.
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You people hav no idea
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Why would you say that? Are you trying to tell me that 13 is old enough?
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No I'm not! I'm saying its my dam opinion
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marriage, end of story.

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When you're completely certain you can handle all the possible risks i.e. stds and pregnancy. And the protection does have the risk of not working.

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18-19.

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I honestly think when you are mature enough to by condoms on your own like an adult and take sex seriously , sex is not a game it is a serious thing . also just think if you got pregnant by chance . . would you want him to be the father of your child ? so many things to think of before you decide .

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When you can handle the responsibility and are consenting adults, sex is both emotionally and physically complex and there are severe consequences to it that aren't worth taking on until the right time.

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When your mature enough

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After marriage. Period.

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The age where you're mature and have knowledge about it. For me it was 15.

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Lol, no one is mature enough for that at FIFTEEN.
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Apparently I was.
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You probably still haven't matured, if you still aren't able to see you weren't. A responsible teengager doesn't risk themselves like that. If you're not mature enough to have a baby, or commit to someone, you're not old enough for se.x.
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People are allowed to have sex without having a kid, and I've been committed to the guy I lost my virginity to for 2 and a half years, and him to me. If our condoms and birth control fails, after using them perfectly, then I will abort because I don't ever want to give birth, let alone be a mother. I could if I wanted.
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would you do it again
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...Do what
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I am waiting until marriage. Hopefully you do as well. Just imagine how much more enjoyable it would be to connect with the guy that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. It would be so special. It should be only done when married because it is serious. If by chance you got pregnant than at least the father will be in your life forever. Please think about this. What are his plans? Had he had sex before? Did you talk about this as a couple?

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At 15 you shouldn't think about it for another couple of years. Too risky, you're way to young to be a mom should things go wrong!

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Where did the mom part come from? 15-year-olds know what birth control is.
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Yes they do! That is why you see so many help me in 15 and pregnant what do I do not posts on this site! Some people are not mature enough for the consequences of having sex at 40!
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@swallex-abstinence is sooo much more than simply not wanting to become pregnant... There are a lot of emotions involved, and it should be done with someone you love, and are COMMITTED to. It's an intimate adult act, not for young teens, who should be focusing on school, and figuring out their lives.
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MARRIAGE. Final.

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Marriage. Because its someone you love and you know they won't leave you. You know they won't judge you because they love you. I did a mistake but I honestly wish I waited. Now I'm waiting because no one should have that unless you're married. I've had so many regrets in my life. Theirs time I thought I was pregnant and the guy told me to abort. This is why also. If you're married and end up getting pregnant it won't be a huge deal. Just wait till married. It'll be such a good gift to your husband.

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When your married

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Marriage !

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When you realize "I wanna spend the rest of my life with this person"

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Marriage

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When you're 27 and your husband lets you

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When you've felt like that person and you will be together forever....

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15 usually that's when i had sex(:

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oh my god o_0
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marrige

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when your married

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i dont think its age that matters i think its how long you've been together. like people think if you have sex at a young age your a disgrace but as long as you love the person even if they arent going to be in your love life forever. but if your ready and really love him not just think you do then go for it, but please be safe.

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When you realize 1 + 1 = 3 sometimes

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thumbs up for marriage :D ! You are worth waiting for !!

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When u are mature enough, but you can also do it after you are married

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It's a question of maturity, not age. I think waiting for marriage is silly, but you should wait until you are ready to deal with whatever consequences there may be, until you are ready to support a child because no method of birth control is one hundred percent effective.

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When you have the maturity to handle the consequences

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I think its stupid to do THAT before your married. isn't that a sin or something to do it before then?

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After your married!

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i wont say after you get married,when ever law of your country allows.provided you are physically and mentally prepared and know about the risk of diseases,pregnency and ways of protection.

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I think no younger then 16. If you're 16, 6 months- a year into the relationship. I waited til I was 18 and did it 3 months into the relationship. Just whenever you both decide is the right time. Make sure its the right guy and always use protection!

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I dont think what age is the question to be asking
it depends on yourself as a person, whether or not you feel comfortable enough to do it with the person you are with, and how long you have been together for.
no one can really tell you when you can and cant add sex to a relationship.

something i found very helpful was this
"as a couple, if you aren't comfortable enough to talk about it, you arent ready to do it" :)

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thats a horrible age! what if she got pregnant!?
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