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Fork in the road in my life :(

I have 2 choices in life right now. Option 1 is I can date my ex but I won't be able to live/see her for at least 5 years because of college and distance but I know if I was able to get past those 5 years I would truly be happy. Then option 2 is not date her and take my chances of finding someone that makes me as happy as when I'm with her. I'm still a young male and I don't want to waste my years if it doesn't work out but at the same time I don't want to look back and say that was my biggest mistake by not taking a chance with her. Please help I can't stop crying about it.

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don't be stupid- let her go and live your life- you wont last any way.

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ain't that the truth.
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Both try 2 and if it don't work out in 5 years you can choose her from 1

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The only problem with the women where I live is they don't have a personality like my ex does. That is one of the only good parts about long distance relationships is you learn about the other persons personality sense you can't be psychical with them.
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I would ask myself could my ex wait 5 years for me. and would she be as happy.

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She told me that she would wait as long as it would take. But the first time we broke up was because she said she couldn't deal with the distance.
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Big Red flag @Oak you guys broke up for the same reason last time it will more than likely happen again . You will miss out in a lot of girls .
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Thank you for you help :) @Shane8592
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Is it possible to both be very mature about it and agree to see others as friends but still count eachother as on the top of eachothers list? Agree that it will be okay to se others but still see eacother when you are home. Can she ever come see you?

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The only issue/concern if I did this choice is. Lets say we did that for 2 years then here comes some new guy that gives her all his love/attention and since we are "just friends" she forgets about me and takes him.
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Sounds like you are supposing your feelings for her are stronger than hers for you. Can't she be afraid the same will happen to you? There are no garuntees in life. Its a risk we take when we make choices. You will experience a new world at every turn .
And that's a good thing . Experience all you can. You will regret it otherwise.
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I think you shall wait... she's really good, right? On Skype, u can Skype her! But the problem is... she might find another boy.

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That's the one thing I'm afraid of.
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Listen Oak, take your future. live & let live!!!
_Man, move forward & see where it goes. Love, sweat & tears. Move on.

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lifes too f'n short 4 that sh1t!!!!!
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You said it yourself, you are still young. If you feel that strong about her, five years will fly by. See her on the weekends, text, call etc. Long distance relationships are tough but can be fruitful. Its a question only you can answer but once you make the choice, dont look back, move forward with no regrets. Good Luck

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Live 4 the here & now, mate! Trust me, man, life's too short for that garbage!!!

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