Submit a question to our community and get an answer from real people.
Submit

Risk my friendship with my ex(were good friends now) to tell her I want her back, or just stay friends even tho I love her...

im good friends with her now and I'm scared If I tell her I still like her and I want us to try again she will say no and wish to be my friend no more. :/ what to do?

Report as

I think you should try again. Perhaps she feels the same way but is also afraid of the same thing and you will never know that until you open your mouth and say something. Tell her how you feel, show her how you feel and think of it this way...if you didn't say anything and she fell in love with someone else how would you feel then, knowing that you gave up your chance? If she married someone else could you handle going to the wedding and watching them have children together knowing how much you love her? Wouldn't your friendship then suffer a sad ending because of you not saying anything and being heartbroken?

Helpful (3) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I would tell her. There is always a possibility of rejection with any relationship. If she says no you can begin to heal and move on without her.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I agree with above, if you don't tell her you may regret it in the end

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

you never know unless you try(but just in case ask if you guys can still be friends)

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
PinkLotus

You should risk it you will never be happy with her just as friends

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

i think you should stay friends with her even though you love her its better to have her in your life then not at all. look at it this way!(:

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (2)
Report as
that...would kill me!!! i couldn't do that! i think he should tell her.
Report as
he should tell her he still has feelings for her but he wants to be friends with her too. he should tell her that he dont wanna lose her. thats why he stays friends with her and later on down the road if there is any chance they could have the best relationship!!
Report as
Add a comment...

if it didnt work why try aginand mess things more.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Ah, what a great question. Ponder this. If you had a relationship with her in the past as boyfriend/girlfriend then what was it that you two found you can't be in that kind of relationship with about? Why did you two decide to become friends? Do you, really feel that you or she have changed enough or fixed what was broke enough to be in a sexual relationship. After all, that is what you really want, right? Because it seems to me that you have what you heart wants right now, a friendship with a woman that you are in love with. Something so much more than what you are really asking. Look, if the two of you are really close and are meant to be, then just go ahead and ask her. Tell her how you feel and tell her you want to take your relationship with her to another level. If that is what you truly want. The only way to start a relationship is by being friends in the first place. Best friends, dude you are blessed. Nothing will change from asking her because she is still your friend. If she took the time to remain your friend even after a break up, it's most likely that she needs you near her as well and wants to keep you in her life too. Talk, over dinner. After a movie, or just during a walk in the park. Continue to do that something that no one has done for her before. Whatever it is, you are the one she comes to or the one you go to. ASK. It wont change the way you feel. It wont change her feelings, just respect her wishes and be a great friend like you are. The worst that will happen is she will know you still have feelings for her than more than just friends. Plant that seed. If she says no, then give her feelings; light, some water and oxygen and watch it grow. Don't lose sight of the most important thing you want, Too be her friend for better or worst. Whether it's when you roll over in the morning or pick up the phone at night.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I agree with the people who said that you can talk to her about!!!

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
skater114

Well if you were the one that broke up with her I would tell her but if she broke up with you then I would try to figure out why she broke up with me and see if I could fix it and then tell her

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Tell her bro! PICK UP THE PHONE, OR TEXT HER but you gotta tell her!

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
Do you have an answer?
Answer this question...
Did you mean?
Login or Join the Community to answer
Popular Searches